Where the fuck are your children?

[cowboyz]

What I get sick of is the parents these days saying "well kids will be kids - they will grow out of it" and "we did the some silly stuff when we were kids"

You know, we did do some silly stuff when we were kids - not to the extent of trying to kill some poor bastard who is driving down the road but silly things all the same.

And our parents came down on us like a ton of bricks. And we LEARNT not to do that again. We didn't "just grow out of it" We learnt that bad things happen if you do bad things. Kids these days run circles round their parents because there is no discapline and teaching anymore. Just let time sort out the problem.

The other night the little woman and myself were sitting at the table having a coffee and the kids were playing outside. Sudddenly a truck came to a screaming halt outside the house. Thats odd I thought so run out there to see what was going on. Well it turns out that the kids were throwing apples at the cars on the road and this particular truck driver took exception too it. My only regret is that the truck driver took off before I got out there. I don't think he realised that I was firmly and completely on his side of the arguement. Those kids got hauled inside and got told not so fucking nicely what complete and utter wankers they were being and how dangerous that was and I am pretty much betting it will not happen again. - ever.

So I may have damaged their self asteam and now they will be in therapy for serveral years to come because I yelled at them for doing something stupid. Maybe it would have been better to see a car swerve and take out another car, or maybe swerve off the road and take out one of the smaller children playing in the area and that would have shown them what they were doing wrong without me saying a word. Yes. it only takes time to learn the lesson, after all, boys will be boys.

[nadroj]

A few years ago (Quite a few) on a boring saturday night we used to place a toolbox just off the side of the road & wait for a car to come past & see it. A few hit the anchors & came back looking for it but just found a bunch of giggling from up the bank with a length of rope on a toolbox.

[lia]

You know, we did do some silly stuff when we were kids - not to the extent of trying to kill some poor bastard who is driving down the road but silly things all the same.

And our parents came down on us like a ton of bricks. And we LEARNT not to do that again. Yes. it only takes time to learn the lesson, after all, boys will be boys.

yup! remember throwing rotting fruit at vehicles from behind a hedge ... and ended up getting a good tanning for it too. dangerous, stupid and not thinking but nothing like these kids throwing large stones off bridges onto motorway traffic!

will add at this point though that 'girls' can be just as naughty!!

[MSTRS:Me]

And we LEARNT not to do that again. We didn't "just grow out of it" We learnt that bad things happen if you do bad things.

So I may have damaged their self esteem....

Damage away (in the caringest of ways of course)....your kids will grow up well-adjusted, respectful of authority, responsible, self-disciplined and productive.
Edit:- it is all about boundaries. And if you don't set them - well......

[Coyote]

What happened to the good ol' days I hear about when the parents would take the side of the ranting neighbour or police officer and smack the kid for what they've done?

[ZorsT]

Little arseholes.

I Agree

and their parents were most likely down at the pub so had no idea what the tossers were up to.

I disagree completely, and i would go so far as to say that is an unfair generalisation.
At 2:30 this morning my parents were woken by a local police officer who had found one of their offspring (not me) roaming the streets. My parents drink very little, and had no idea one of their children was not in the house. Said child waited until everyone was asleep before venturing out into the night.

Nah, the kids aren't the problem, it's the parents!

Please see above.

They couldn't give a toss where their kids are, or what they're doing. And when the little shits are caught, the parents will vigourously defend their offspring's right to "a bit of fun".

Wrong again.
My parents care so much about their children that I had to nag for 2 years to be allowed to buy a motorbike, and then once I WAS allowed to buy one, I wasn't allowed to ride it for two months. - All becasue they don't want me to come to harm.

In regard to parents defening their children, my parents are annoyed the police couldn't charge my brother with anything when they caught him, which is a different attitude to the one you claim parents have...


These posts made me very angry. I had a good long cool off period after reading them before replying to them

[Coyote]

I Agree

I disagree completely, and i would go so far as to say that is an unfair generalisation.
At 2:30 this morning my parents were woken by a local police officer who had found one of their offspring (not me) roaming the streets. My parents drink very little, and had no idea one of their children was not in the house. Said child waited until everyone was asleep before venturing out into the night.

And then there's the parents that condone this stuff so they appear cool to their kids. Prime example was my old neighbours

[skidMark]

i won't even bother ranting...much.....


kids seem to do what they want these days what parents say generally goes in one ear out the other

[MSTRS:Me]

Zorst - you are right to be miffed at what is a generalisation. But what they are talking about IS all too common. It is the "Who me? Give a fuck? I don't think so" generation, be they parents or children that they are referring to (bad grammar, I know, but ). Don't take it too personally - you are one of the (many) lucky ones. Cherish your folks, they are your role model for lifeand they are obviously doing a great job :

[Virago]

........Wrong again..........These posts made me very angry. I had a good long cool off period after reading them before replying to them

Yes, as a parent of two teenagers (who are older than you), I can understand that you would need to cool off after reading an opposing view-point.

There are different view-points here regarding the issue of seriously bad childhood behaviour, not necessarily right or wrong.

My observations regarding parental responsibility (or the occasional lack of), come from years of (sometimes) bitter experience. When you catch some little snot throwing rocks through windows at the school, and the parents dismiss it as "a bit of childhood fun" and refuse to pay for damages, can be rather frustrating for all concerned, including the police. I could give you a list as long as your arm of similar (or worse) examples. I even had one parent outraged that I had "stolen" a can of spray paint off his son (who had been spraying graffiti on the school walls).

In my opinion (right or wrong), this problem is getting worse. But this is not suggesting that all parents are bad.

My own parents were firm but fair, and I'd like to think that I've done a reasonable job of parenting myself (although my kids sometimes won't agree!). But I am pleased though that they have both grown up with an ingrained respect for others in the community.

And therein lies the real issue - lack of respect for others. And respect is a value you learn from your parents.

[skidMark]

i'm wondering why we assume this is children it could have been some 30 year old guys that got absolutely shitfaced drunk and put it there? i mean we are talking about a saturday night

never assume.....break it up ass/u/me if you assume you make an ass out of you and me

lol sorry had to say that heard it the other day lol

[Virago]

i'm wondering why we assume this is children it could have been some 30 year old guys that got absolutely shitfaced drunk and put it there?....

Yes, a very good point Mark....

[Firefight]

i'm wondering why we assume this is children it could have been some 30 year old guys that got absolutely shitfaced drunk and put it there? i mean we are talking about a saturday lol

yes, I lived up the HBC a few years ago, plenty of dumb fuck older people live up that way that would do crazy shit just like this incident, do we in fact know that it was "Kids"?


F/F

[Brian d marge]

And to add. I know exactly where my child is . the little darling has just pushed the record button on the video , and recorded over my 1991 camel pro MX video ..... I will get another after explaining to the wee dear that the money for this video is coming from his bank account.

That street looks awfully dirty. now wheres that old tooth brush

* Have to agree with the point about may not be kids, I ve seen 2 yr olds with more brains than some hoodies

Stephen

[ZeroIndex]

i'm starting to wonder if a swift baseball bat to the head will even make a difference to some of these kids... they just don't learn...

One of my friends got killed in a car crash a couple weeks back (Brett Hancock in Te Kauwhata). His best friend (who I always hang out with), has continued his stupid boy-racing obsession without seeing any consequence that could involve him or any of the people in or outside of his car. I've decided to not be friends with him anymore, as I know he will end life in a bad car accident, and I don't want to be one of the people in the wreckage...

...sorry if i rambled onto something else