Question of "Not being allowed to"

**Ms Piggy** · 4th May 2004, 07:34

Originally Posted by Lou Girardin

Feed 'em and f@#k 'em, what's to figure out?

Lou

That's you say!

I think it's when you trying and get them to do something other than feeding or f@#king that the shit hits the fan.

Still I do like the simple things in life...like men

**KATWYN** · 4th May 2004, 09:16

Originally Posted by Celtic_Sea_lily

That's you say!

I think it's when you trying and get them to do something other than feeding or f@#king that the shit hits the fan.

Still I do like the simple things in life...like men

I think they are really rather easy to understand and quite predictable.

(although the actual thought patterns are another thing to understand)

Nothing complicated about that, as you say it really is quite simple.

I also think woman aren't that complicated either (as men say), a switched on man knows exactly how to understand and treat a woman -

**James Deuce** · 4th May 2004, 09:34

Originally Posted by KATWYN

I think they are really rather easy to understand and quite predictable.

(although the actual thought patterns are another thing to understand)

Nothing complicated about that, as you say it really is quite simple.

I also think woman aren't that complicated either (as men say), a switched on man knows exactly how to understand and treat a woman -

I find terrified works for me.

**pete376403** · 4th May 2004, 10:29

This has always explained the difference fairly well for me

**Ms Piggy** · 4th May 2004, 13:07

Hmmmmmm....dunno if I'm that convinced yet.

Maybe wot I should ask is what is the key to a "successful" relationship, there seem to be lots of people on this forum who have partners/spouses they have been with for the long term.

And do you all believe that monogamy (ie. one partner long term) is a realistic expectation to have?

Ooooooooo....getting deeper

**James Deuce** · 4th May 2004, 13:35

Originally Posted by Celtic_Sea_lily

Hmmmmmm....dunno if I'm that convinced yet.

Maybe wot I should ask is what is the key to a "successful" relationship, there seem to be lots of people on this forum who have partners/spouses they have been with for the long term.

And do you all believe that monogamy (ie. one partner long term) is a realistic expectation to have?

Ooooooooo....getting deeper

Yes. (message too short error - what does this mean? Hmmm)

**Ghost Lemur** · 4th May 2004, 13:42

Originally Posted by Celtic_Sea_lily

Hmmmmmm....dunno if I'm that convinced yet.

And do you all believe that monogamy (ie. one partner long term) is a realistic expectation to have?

Having been in both open and monogamous relationships I'd have to say that it's very much up to the couple. Each sort has its own pro's and con's. As long as both people are happy with the way it is it works. The times it doesn't is when one person wants to be open and the other doesn't.

I have meet couples in open relationships who have been together for a long time (ie 10 years) who would never betray each other and are extremely happy. It's certainly not for everyone, and if it's not for you don't go out with someone for whom it is. Cheaters/players are either cowards who want to be in an open relationship or more likely egotistical control freaks who want their cake (a monogamous partner) and to eat it too (fool around themselves). I think there can be as many different successful ways of having a relationship as there are different people.

What is important is knowing who you are and what you want. Then and only then can you find someone who will compliment/complete you.

Jackrat - That's a feature of the forum software to stop one worded posts and alieviate people spamming forums.

**aff-man** · 4th May 2004, 13:42

Well i'll put it this way my ex-gf (of a little over 2 years) although wasn't particularly interested in bikes but if i said i needed to go for a ride so couldn't make it to this or that she would understand. She also didn't give me shit (likw my folks did) when i had an off all she did was bring me pretzels and beer and let me wallow in the misary of a crashed bike.

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As to previous posts about if you love somebody will you give up anyting for them ect ect ect i think that only applies to people whi start biking while in a relationship. If someone you met really doesn't approve of biking then you won't get to know them due to difference of opinion. And if the topic comes up later in the relationship wouldn't they know how much pain it wou :confused2 ld cause you to give it up?????

**jrandom** · 4th May 2004, 14:29

Originally Posted by Celtic_Sea_lily

Maybe wot I should ask is what is the key to a "successful" relationship, there seem to be lots of people on this forum who have partners/spouses they have been with for the long term.

Be best friends for starters. Otherwise, why would you want to be around each other for so long? And if you don't both believe in sticking to your word and putting the partnership first instead of yourself yer doomed.

Originally Posted by Celtic_Sea_lily

And do you all believe that monogamy (ie. one partner long term) is a realistic expectation to have?

Sure. Worked for me so far. It's very realistic if both parties want to do it!

I suspect that our current social climate of selfishness and instant gratification does have an influence on relationship 'failure' rates.

Marriage is a worthwhile social institution... I don't know why people count it as a 'failure of a long-term relationship' when people 'break up' who never even committed to each other in the first place.

Oh, and that reminds me - to all you women out there who are happy to get pregnant off some random guy and be a solo mum by choice - a hearty F#*K YOU on behalf of your emotionally-screwed-up fatherless offspring. Do the world a favour and use a condom next time. The children don't deserve the fallout.

**James Deuce** · 4th May 2004, 14:38

Originally Posted by jrandom

Be best friends for starters. Otherwise, why would you want to be around each other for so long? And if you don't both believe in sticking to your word and putting the partnership first instead of yourself yer doomed.

Sure. Worked for me so far. It's very realistic if both parties want to do it!

I suspect that our current social climate of selfishness and instant gratification does have an influence on relationship 'failure' rates.

Marriage is a worthwhile social institution... I don't know why people count it as a 'failure of a long-term relationship' when people 'break up' who never even committed to each other in the first place.

Oh, and that reminds me - to all you women out there who are happy to get pregnant off some random guy and be a solo mum by choice - a hearty F#*K YOU on behalf of your emotionally-screwed-up fatherless offspring. Do the world a favour and use a condom next time. The children don't deserve the fallout.

Me like um you. You have um healthy attitude Kemo Sabe.

**KATWYN** · 4th May 2004, 14:58

Originally Posted by pete376403

This has always explained the difference fairly well for me

Lol, that pic always cracks me up. And yes one uncomplicated button
for the man...and like I say a "switched" on man who knows what hes doing
knows all those other woman buttons and how & when they work. Just like
a tradesman who is really good at his job.

**KATWYN** · 4th May 2004, 15:07

For lasting R/ships - Compromise & looking for positives not dwelling on negatives of a person

**Hitcher** · 4th May 2004, 15:43

Successful relationships? Different strokes for different folks. There are no silver bullets.

Mrs H and I have been together for about 19 years and married for 17. First and foremost we're best mates. I love her to bits and am amazed and delighted that each day she loves me back. She sometimes also lets me ride her Marauder...