Alone for first time

[mart1]

Find the nearest tinnie house.

Get suitably stoned.

Ride to MacD's

Get your munch on.

Then go home and masturbate profusely, until your fingers bleed.

Repeat ad infinum.

You forgot drink till you pass out.

[The_Dover]

Sorry, I passed out drunk before I could finish my post.

[SDU]

Weekend riding - Pack your saddle bags and ride to Chch for the weekend and meet up with that bunch... they may even head up your way to meet you half way and then ride half way way back with you at the end of the weekend.

That sounds like a good plan there are plenty off good roads getting here too! Also ride the long way round to visit the people you already know up your way, just to get use to riding alone, until you meet other riders up your way.
Have to agree with most off what everyone have said, great advice. Take what works for you.
Don't forget to take the time to grieve & start to do things for you & moving on will have happened before you realised it.
All the best for your new life.

[buellbabe]

I bought my property 9 yrs ago, I have had 2 guys live with me since then, the first 1 tragically died and the 2nd one... well pity he didn't! Anyways I have been living with just my critters for the last couple of years and I LOVE it! I guess it depends how comfortable you are with your own company.
Someone sugested to maintain a flexible routine and I couldn't agree more... without my 'routine' it would be all too easy to become a hermit!
I have always had other friends with bikes so altho I tend to stay at home on week nights I will generally be out riding at the wkends so I get my social fix that way. Plus my dogs keep me busy with daily runs...
And look on the bright side if ya don't feel like cooking ya don't have to and that applies to housework as well!
Foodwise I am into fresh veges and meat so its always quickn'easy to whip up something yummy to eat... plus as others have said... look on the net. I know a lady who lives an extremely busy lifestyle and she uses a site called 'Menu-Maid' to plan her meals...

[slowpoke]

Time wounds all heels.....oops sorry, time heals all wounds.
Hmmmm, shame your relationship didn't work out but maybe it's a good thing. You should be comfortable in your own skin and with your own company. It's not much fun at the time but as a learning exercise it will be invaluable in the long run.

I kinda disagree with the posts about getting a pet. In my opinion you get a cat/dog goldfish 'cos you want a cat/dog/goldfish...not to fill a temporary void. Otherwise when the next big thing comes along (partner/child/job etc) the poor old pet is put on the back burner and forgotten about. I've seen to many pets put down, at the shelter, or booted outside for no reason other than their owner has moved on to the next amusement.

Sorry about the rant, good luck!

[slowpoke]

Do not seek and that which you desire will find you.

That's a pearler, I'll have to jot that in me notebook!!

....then again when I was a young fella it didn't matter how hard I tried to ignore the girls, none of them bloody found me!
...same with that bloody low fuel light I was trying to ignore, do you think there was a gas station around the corner?...."yeah right"

[Squeak the Rat]

Feel the love!

My piece of advice, schedule in some down time into your routine and don't feel guilty about it. If you laze around feeling guilty you then get down so then laze around some more (and on and on).

Funny eh - I've never lived alone and it's something I really want to do.....

PS - Edmonds cookbook for flatters also has some good easy options (but I will check out the healthyfood.co.nz suggestion too)......

PPS - Avoid getting home from work and drinking alone............

[chic 'n' charge]

I'm blown away by the warmth from you lot. I have taken on board the wonderful tips - and the one's that aren't well that just proves there's all kinds of people out there eh!!!!!

I currently have a pasta/vegie bake in my freezer and meat too - yay - I'm on my way.

I was so independent before heading into relationship and then even when we were together we basically lead separate lives - so why am I struggling!!!! dumb ass I tell myself.

Anyways, thanks again for your thoughts.

Chairs to all.

Chic

[Rashika]

I was so independent before heading into relationship and then even when we were together we basically lead separate lives - so why am I struggling!!!! dumb ass I tell myself.

...probably cos it IS scary being on your own after being with someone for awhile, you aint being a dumbarse!
Enjoy the time you have to yourself now girl... pretty soon there'll be some other sexy bloke to sweep you off your feet

You'll have to pop down here for a weekend blast sometime...

[The Stranger:Me]

Get into a (flexible) routine and stick with it re chores etc so you don't get snowed under..

Make a 'list' of must do's for each day/week.

Do a meal-swap with a friend twice a week or so - that way you're forced to go out and/or have a guest.

Stay off KB so you actually get these done.!!!!!!!

Damn I am impressed.
Maybe loud and uncouth, but he does have a sensitive side aye.

[sugilite:Me]

And don't forget you have the ultimate therapist in the garage, The name is DR Kawasaki ZX9R!

[chic 'n' charge]

And don't forget you have the ultimate therapist in the garage, The name is DR Kawasaki ZX9R!

Gonna be my saving grace I'm sure - just had old bat (old lady) wipe out my car today with loose load off back of ute.....man what stink luck eh.....good excuse to get other wheels out of garage.

[Crazy Steve]

It will probaly eat your undies.....

But will provide lots of lean meat...when times are cold...

You can also let it lick your balls when your lonley.....

Crazy steve...

[WINJA]

I'm just learning to live for first time on my own.

TRY AND BE NICE ,STOP BEING A BOSSY BITCH AND SOME DUDE MIGHT WANNA SHACK UP WITH YOU

[Sparky Bills]

And don't forget you have the ultimate therapist in the garage, The name is DR Kawasaki ZX9R!

Couldnt have said it better!

Just get into the habbit of coming home, cooking good food, and relaxing. It will take a bit of time, but eventually it will come naturally.


Good Luck.