Is now a good time to sell?

[Ms Piggy]

I love happy endings! Well done!!

[aff-man]

Noice one buddy things seem to be looking up

[MikeL]

Your posts were starting to show the typical symptoms of clinical depression...
(That will be $45 for the diagnosis, thank you...)
Glad things are looking up!
Remember, it's not what happens to you that matters. It's what you make of it...

[toads]

this is great news fs, communication is a wonderful thing, I'm so glad everything is sorted, 26years is a wonderfully long time to be married, and I'd like to congratulate you and Mrs fs on that account.

[tassle]

see this place is full of nice people, and it sure beats tv, glad to see it all worked out.

[badlieutenant]

excellent news fs, bummer i didnt get to suggest a motard for you and a valium for her

[scumdog]

Good one F/F, keep the lines of comunication open always.

This time is depressing for all, it's the long lack of sunlight and winter dragging on, I get a bit grouchy myself but in a few weeks when days are longer and there's a bit of sun things look a bit cheerier.

As some said, parking up the bike for a bit can give you breathing space AND puts an even bigger smile on your face when you DO get back on your scoot.

Glad you and your doris have sorted things out, hope things stay that way

[moko]

I`ll go with Jackrat on this one, the bike was probably never the problem it probably just got used in your argument/disagreement/problem. If you were sacrificing something here, i.e. you`re family were going without something because of the expense of your bike then yeah, she`d have a point. You`ve already stated that you`re relatively affluent people. Often in relationships power-struggles can develope without either party realising it and on the surface that`s rarely what is intended. If you`d got rid of your bike there are a few scenarios, A: She`d be happy and all would be sweetness and light. B: You`d be resentful and then eventually things would boil over or C: You`d find out the hard way that the bike was never the real problem and you`d be bikeless while some other aspect of your life became the object of displeasure. If she was dead set on the bike going because of the expense then a compramise would have been the best thing. I`d advertise it and encourage something cheaper in p/ex. There`s as much fun to be had getting the best out of something like say an old ZXR400 as there is out of looking good because your machine is taking everything in it`s stride at about 60% of it`s capabilities, and it takes a lot more skill as well. I`ve had bad times but always managed to have at least something on 2 wheels. I had a heap of an RXS100 Yammy years back due to extreme poverty, that`s a bargain basement commuter bike and boy was it fun,had some great laughs bouncing around on it despite looking pretty ridiculous. One of my best biking memories is tagging some guy on a GSXR750 through the city centre, he`d leave me for dead until the next set of lights when I`d pull alongside him again revving the arse off of the little Yam. OR you could have got yourself a dirt bike for the trip to work and a whole new way of having fun in your spare time. having been poor,and no doubt being so again at some point, my view is that if you`re lucky enough to be able to do something you enjoy then do it because it may not always be that way. Dont want to appear rude to yourself or your wife but it seems from the outside that a bit of gameplaying has been going on here,as I said before though more than likely unconsciously. If you`d decided to sell your bike to please your wife and for arguments sake some guy at work, on here or whatever, had said "Hey mate, got the cash I`ll take it". You`d probably have got home and announced the sale of your bike and been met with a stunned silence.Here`s where the girls here bawl me out but I`d lay any money that the first thing she would have said would be "What did you do that for?"

[Lou Girardin]

All it takes for a happy marriage is to say "I'm wrong, you're right" at frequent intervals. Flowers and chocolates at certain times are also a good idea. (So I'm told. Wish I could remember to do it)

[Paul in NZ]

I still offered to sell it, but she's dying to try out her new leather suit, so I'll have to keep it for a bit.

What a crock!

Tell her you don't need to wait for a ride on the bike to try out that leather suit darling (especially after watching catwoman)....

Then see what reaction you get.....

[vifferman]

Tell her you don't need to wait for a ride on the bike to try out that leather suit darling (especially after watching catwoman)....

Then see what reaction you get.....

All it takes for a happy marriage is to say "I'm wrong, you're right" at frequent intervals. Flowers and chocolates at certain times are also a good idea.

I actually thought part of this was an "I'm wrong, you're right" situation, but apparently not. Part of it was I wasn't enthusiastic about our anniversary trip to Melbourne tomorrow "Yay!! Only one more sleep to go!!" (was that enthusiastic enough?) and part was about me talking about a new helmet (instead of being enthusiastic about the trip, etc etc.) and part of it was me being "uncommunicative". (I should sign her up for KB, as I think I'm in no danger of being "uncommunicative" on here....)

Your posts were starting to show the typical symptoms of clinical depression...
(That will be $45 for the diagnosis, thank you...)
Glad things are looking up!
Remember, it's not what happens to you that matters. It's what you make of it...

Actually, Mike, I've been battling depression for years now, and had nearly every antipressant available (apart from the one the $250/hour 'specialist' gave me that was two years past expiry date and had no instructions ! I looked it up on the Interweb, and hundreds of hits of lawsuits resulting from chronic liver failure turned up! So I chucked it in the bin, and stopped seeing Dr. Quacko.)
Currently, I'm interspersing periods of taking nothing, with periods of using herbal remedies (St Johns Wort and Griffonia). I'm doing OK, I guess.

This time is depressing for all, it's the long lack of sunlight and winter dragging on, I get a bit grouchy myself but in a few weeks when days are longer and there's a bit of sun things look a bit cheerier.

Indeed - it's actually a known 'malady' called SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). Your sleep/wake patterns, neurone activity and state of well-being are all linked to serotonin, production of which is aided by sunshine, and which helps to set your body's circadian rhythms.

As some said, parking up the bike for a bit can give you breathing space AND puts an even bigger smile on your face when you DO get back on your scoot.

I've decided (mostly from comments on here) to not ride quite so much, and had already given up riding on wet days, not because I'm a wuss, but because I don't enjoy it and it increases the danger factor when commuting. Not riding so much will also save on running costs, which will help with the household budget.

Glad you and your doris have sorted things out, hope things stay that way

Thanx, Mr Dog - I'm sure they will.

Phew Give Mrs Fahrtsturmer a hug from me.

Too late. I've already given her summat else, from me.

EddieB/Toads: It's 22 years married, 26 together. It seems to have gone so fast...

Thanx, everyone, for all your advice and kind wishes. I feel a bit of a dick venting in public like this, but I was very upset the other day, and had no-one I could talk to about it.
You're all Top Blokes (or Blokesses, if you don't like Bloke).

[Racey Rider]

If you do decide to go without bike for a month or two, rather than pay someone 100 bucks to store it for you, why not rent it out to someone.
Someone like ME for example!
I'm sure I can come up with 100 bucks to rent the VTR for a couple of months!

If it helps you out in this time of trouble that is.

Good Luck.
Racey.

Alright! For the 100 bucks, I'll take the VTR AND the wife for two months!

Can't be fair'er than that!!

Well Done That Man.

[Blakamin]

Thanx, everyone, for all your advice and kind wishes. I feel a bit of a dick venting in public like this, but I was very upset the other day, and had no-one I could talk to about it.
You're all Top Blokes (or Blokesses, if you don't like Bloke).

Its always good to talk to someone, and this way you at least have the benefit of many opinions


Best of everything for your weekend!

[Paul in NZ]

Top Blokes[/b] (or Blokesses, if you don't like Bloke).

Dude....

That (and porno) is about the only useful thing the interweb thingy is for...

Now... While I'm on my soap box...

One of the down side of modern living is that we don't seem to have much of a handle on a lot of issues. Depression is one of them. While I'm not quite bi polar I do get into a very dark place that has been descriped as borderline depression. Thats an odd description by a doctor that is seeing someone that is now feeling better?? Oh well....

Our (the royal our) relationships seem to be the first thing that suffers during the fits of darkness that the pressure of life brings on! Perhaps it is increased expectations? Maybe lots of things?? Who knows...

The one thing that works for me is gentle exercise and talking. Fortunately I'm real good at talking and we have an enthusiastic dog! On a typical grumpy day, we complain at each other all the way down the beach, sulk at the grassy place where Bo chases fast rabbits and hold hands on the way back! Well, it works for us...

So no need to feel like a dick mate... Frankly I think we are all better off for you having the balls to share....

Paul N

[vifferman]

One of the down side of modern living is that we don't seem to have much of a handle on a lot of issues. Depression is one of them.
The one thing that works for me is gentle exercise and talking. Fortunately I'm real good at talking and we have an enthusiastic dog! On a typical grumpy day, we complain at each other all the way down the beach, sulk at the grassy place where Bo chases fast rabbits and hold hands on the way back! Well, it works for us...

Can I borrow Bo? I really miss having a dog, but with no-one at home most of the time, it wouldn't be fair to have one. Our dog's picture is stuck on my cubicle wall, because I miss him, and to remind me to be patient. My impatience caused him to be run over by a car right in front of me, about 6 years ago.
Oh... that's not a good thing to mention, after asking to borrow your dog, is it?

Lack of exercise in our modern life is a partial trigger for depression, and conversely, exercise can be beneficial in treating depression, due to the endorphins it releases. If you're feeling disgruntled, then a good gruntling can help....