Relationships

[Joni]

and you appreicate them more .. cause you know they are not bullshitting you ..

yes you do 100%... but sometimes you walk away.. thinking WTF?? Why did I even ask... I knew this would hurt.

Its great, but hard too.

[idleidolidyll]

it seems i should have completed the sentence a little:

everybody lies and everybody deceives themselves.................

[Curious_AJ]

I don't see how you could not be honest in a relationship, quite honestly...

[Goblin]

I'll vote for that - if we ALL did it the world would be a better place.

That went out when Muldoon was PM. It was replaced with "Do in others before they do you in".

[jrandom]

I don't see how...

I wonder why?

[Bloody Mad Woman (BMW)]

Because many people are constitutionally incapable of being rigourously honest with themselves - so they are incapable of being honest with others. It can also come from low self esteem, bolster their egos. I married a pathological liar and my last relationship he too was a pathological liar. I was emphatic with the last one - Don't ever lie to me - well he turned out to be the worst. The man I fell in love with does not exist - I look at him today and realise how sick he really is and I feel nothing for him, he murdered that. Liars have no balls, no spine. They always get found out. But at least I was always upfront and honest and have integrity.

I listen alot and I have a bloody good memory - liars always trip themselves up - at times I might challenge them depends upon how important I think it is - otherwise I just totally disassociate myself from them. Have absolute no respect for them whatsoever.

Like Goblin says, I've had my last relationship - there is no way I would ever trust a male again. The damage has been done - and too often. Very sad really. But hey today I have a good life considering.

[Joni]

Like Goblin says, I've had my last relationship - there is no way I would ever trust a male again. The damage has been done - and too often. Very sad really. But hey today I have a good life considering.

That is very sad!

[Goblin]

Like Goblin says, I've had my last relationship - there is no way I would ever trust a male again. The damage has been done - and too often. Very sad really. But hey today I have a good life considering.

The really sad bit is that it's not only men who are pathological liars, plenty of women do it too.

[fireball]

The really sad bit is that it's not only men who are pathological liars, plenty of women do it too.

i couldnt agree with you more...

[Grahameeboy]

Because many people are constitutionally incapable of being rigourously honest with themselves - so they are incapable of being honest with others. It can also come from low self esteem, bolster their egos. I married a pathological liar and my last relationship he too was a pathological liar. I was emphatic with the last one - Don't ever lie to me - well he turned out to be the worst. The man I fell in love with does not exist - I look at him today and realise how sick he really is and I feel nothing for him, he murdered that. Liars have no balls, no spine. They always get found out. But at least I was always upfront and honest and have integrity.

I listen alot and I have a bloody good memory - liars always trip themselves up - at times I might challenge them depends upon how important I think it is - otherwise I just totally disassociate myself from them. Have absolute no respect for them whatsoever.

Like Goblin says, I've had my last relationship - there is no way I would ever trust a male again. The damage has been done - and too often. Very sad really. But hey today I have a good life considering.

Not all of us are untrustworthy ya know..........

[Curious_AJ]

i couldnt agree with you more...

agreed......

[Scouse]

Not all of us are untrustworthy ya know..........

No but you've got other baggage like being a prize plonker, see this honesty thing is great

[Grahameeboy]

No but you've got other baggage like being a prize plonker, see this honesty thing is great

That's cool you are entitled to your opinion and at least I know where I stand so no issues there.

[Guitana]

That is very sad!

No no ! she's quite right never trust a male if he's honest he's probably brain damaged or retarded! I lie to my wife all the time in fact I live in a totally different world to her!! It's more exciting that way and it keeps you on edge and when she catches you out just cover up with more bullshit she'll be so confused she wont know wtfs going on!

[The Stranger:Me]

What prevents people from being honest to each other? Hmm.

Earlier this year, I made a personal resolution to never do anything that I would want kept secret, or have to lie about, and if I did do something I regretted, to man up and take my knocks without hiding it. That resolution has served me well.

My impression, however, is that the majority of people in this world do not take that approach to life.

I think people who lie are driven by selfishness. A lack of empathy for others, a focus on the immediate gratification of their desires, and a low self-esteem that makes them feel that they need to project a false image of themselves to be accepted.

Way I see it is this.
I like to think I am an honest person, but I have lied.

I will lie so as not to hurt someone's feelings.

I will lie to protect the ones I love.

I will lie to someone if I feel they have no right to ask the question and by declining to answer I would effectively answer it anyway.

Sometimes we lie without realising it. My feelings on a subject today may be x, but tomorrow after some consideration they are y.

We would all lie for love - don't say you wouldn't.
If you are faced with a decision between love or a lie what you going to do?

Just apologise to him, I'm sure Gayhameeboy will take you back.