Abuse of women?

[Storm]

Out of the 7 or so women I've gone out with/been invloved with, 4 had "issues". Not a massive range I'll grant you, but I was shocked- I thought it was a rarity. Since talking to other women, I've been shocked still further by how many have also been abused.
As other have said, I know a lot of guys, and not one has ever said anything- say what you will about statistics, but commen sense says there's plenty of men keeping quiet.
I know I will be keeping an eagle eye on my child.

[Sanx]

I also find these figures very hard to believe, despite two of the three women I've had long-term relationships with having suffered exactly this kind of abuse. I also would like to know exactly what they class as sexual abuse, and what questions were asked; something conspicuous by its absence in The Harold's article.

But what really pisses me off is this paragraph in the report:
"Maori women were more likely to report child sexual abuse compared with women from other ethnic groups, highlighting the need for culturally appropriate services."

What this highlights to me is that, yet again, Maori mysteriously appear to be over-represented in another negative statistic, and no doubt, this will all be white man's fault. Again. All the shite that gets spouted about whanau and its importance will get conveniently ignored, instead of being subjected to the ridicule it so richly deserves. Instead, the government will spend vast amounts of time pandering the Maori cultural demands to develop culturally appropriate services to address the end result, rather than finding the sick bastards responsible, castrating them, and then releasing them into general population in the local jail. And all because targetting Maori offenders is a sure fire way to set the Sharples-Turea-Honewera bandwagon into motion; no doubt daring to arrest any Maori for fiddling with their own kids would also be culturally inappropriate.

[jonbuoy]

There is a treatment - bolt cutters for genitalia and hands.

[Xile]

There is a treatment - bolt cutters for genitalia and hands.

+1
Farking weird brainless people!!! how can you do that (to a child, woman, man, whoever!)?????

[The Stranger:Me]

So according to the study 25% of women have been sexually abused as a child.
On first glance that suggests that around 25% of males are pedophiles.
Am I interpretting this right?

That's farken mind blowing.

[James Deuce]

So according to the study 25% of women have been sexually abused as a child.
On first glance that suggests that around 25% of males are pedophiles.
Am I interpretting this right?

That's farken mind blowing.

It's not a 1 to 1 relationship between victim and accuser. On one jury I was on the defendant had been accused of victimising dozens of his relatives and their friends.

[Ocean1]

On first glance that suggests that around 25% of males are pedophiles.
Am I interpretting this right?

No, of course not. It doesn't take anywhere near that many arseholes to account for the numbers. If each was responsible for 10 "incidences" you could say 2.5% of males might be responsible. I doubt it's anywhere near even that number.

I'd also be careful about quoting numbers from a survey when we know little about the definitions or methodology used.

[Sanx]

So according to the study 25% of women have been sexually abused as a child.
On first glance that suggests that around 25% of males are pedophiles.
Am I interpretting this right?

No - you're not.

However, if you substitute the phrase "Catholic priests" for "males", you might be on the money.

[mstriumph]

Sexual abuse is never ok. I cannot understand how guys can do this...? As a guy I cannot comprehend the harm that it would do to a woman.

i was abused by a FEMALE deputy 'brown owl' at a brownie camp when i was 10

----- how BLOODY SEXIST is it to assume it's only blokes that are the authors of abuse???






ps - i'm ok -country gal - as soon as i realised wat she was up to i kneed her in the crotch ............. no problem ....... but she was female - FEMALE

[Colapop]

Im slightly confused by the poll options. Is the option for men to indicate that they have been abused or not?

The poll option was originally put there because the article spoke of women being abused and knowing KB there are males that would complain bitterly that there was not an option for them.

i was abused by a FEMALE deputy 'brown owl' at a brownie camp when i was 10 ----- how BLOODY SEXIST is it to assume it's only blokes that are the authors of abuse???
ps - i'm ok -country gal - as soon as i realised what she was up to i kneed her in the crotch ............. no problem ....... but she was female - FEMALE

Yes sexist and for that I apologise. The abusers are predominantly male and as such garner the more attention, but there are more sides to the story than is first seen. The more often this is talked about the better we will be in stopping this sort of shit, hopefully.

[Finn]

I was abused by my rather cute form teacher when I was just 13. It happened on several occasions. When she got transferred to another school, I cried for a whole week.

I still miss her today.

[deanohit]

I was abused by my rather cute form teacher when I was just 13. It happened on several occasions. When she got transferred to another school, I cried for a whole week.

I still miss her today.

Because it was only last week maybe?

[Dilligaf]

I find those figures hard to believe. I realise it's not the type of thing many people would spill their guts about, but none of my female friends has ever mentioned being abused as a child. I grew up in Hastings, Wainuiomata and Whakatane - so perhaps I'm more at risk of being a terrorist!

With respect, I have never told any of my friends exactly what kind of childhood I had. My husband knows and now only as a much older adult have I ever just started to say only that "I didn't have the best upbringing." But that's all I have ever told.
My school mates are probably still under the illusion that we were a nice normal middle class family.

[avgas]

This is not a crusade. I was just surprised by stats (however right or wrong) and have always felt that it is better to have reasonable discussion about a topic than ignore it in the hopes that it doesn't exist.

Global warming, violence in the home, the fuel crisis, the power crisis, skin cancer, drunk driving, speeding, p, eating McDonalds, smoking...... all subjects that have had the same blasting by the media.
But then again the media band wagon is the cheapest ride.
If someone needs to have everyone know that they were raped - i see no benefit. The punishment is too light for the crims.
Why direct all the attention to the victims (who may not want it) and avoid nipping the problem in the bud - by removing the crims.
But thats just me - im not about problems, only solutions.

[Usarka]

----- how BLOODY SEXIST is it to assume it's only blokes that are the authors of abuse???

True and its also FUCKING SEXIST that this study excluded half the population.