Uncertain future

**Slim** · 26th October 2004, 14:02

Originally Posted by jrandom

I just have to say that Slim is a wise woman, and speaks words of truth.

I'm just quoting this for posterity, incase JR decides to delete his original post.

I'm a wise woman.

**Coldkiwi** · 26th October 2004, 16:22

Originally Posted by jrandom

Translation, a la Speights:

"CK well and truly busted. Talks fast, scrambles for compromise. Relieved to find that Bank of Wifely Patience not overdrawn too far. Yet. Certain loose-lipped KBers gonna get their thumps *real good*, particularly if they make any 'ghey cruiser' jokes in the near future."

nyeeeeeers :sly:

**magnum** · 26th October 2004, 20:14

dont give up something you love just to please a second party,if you do youll only regret it.

**Ms Piggy** · 26th October 2004, 22:03

Originally Posted by firestormer

I always ad-lib those ads, interpreting the "southern speak":

Moron#1: She's a hard road findin' the perfect woman.
(Translation: "I'm gay, and a flamin' drongo!")
Moron#2: Good on yer, mate!
(Translation: "Yer a flamin' drongo!")

The latest one - with the flamin' drongos parked on top of the ridge, where the Speights is delivered by quad bike - is mental. Notice that after all that bumping up hill, and being tossed to Drongo #2, the Speights doesn't explode in a flurry of suds. Must be flat... :spudwhat:

and make it Speights!

**RiderInBlack** · 27th October 2004, 06:16

Originally Posted by firestormer

The latest one - with the flamin' drongos parked on top of the ridge, where the Speights is delivered by quad bike - is mental. Notice that after all that bumping up hill, and being tossed to Drongo #2, the Speights doesn't explode in a flurry of suds. Must be flat... :spudwhat:

Na Mate. She's just bloody good beer

PS: Right on the money with your "Uncertain Future" comments

(must give you so brownie points).
I changed too much for my first wife, and 3 1/2 years of marrage later I pulled the pin as I'd had enough. Will not make that mistake again in a hurry. Good relationships are give and take from both partners (not you give and they take, or they give and you take).

**Hammer** · 27th October 2004, 09:15

Tough one mate. Unfortunately only you can make the call.

I have been in the same position and did give it up. Unfortunately my marriage went down the gurgler (life became bland and we lost touch with who we are) and now fortunately I have another great lady in my life. We will be having a child next year as well. Earlier this year I was getting down with work and not being able to get out and do something I really had passion for and that gave me a buzz. I talked this over with my good lady over more than one occasion and eventually she came to understand what I needed and how much better I would be/we would be if I picked up the bikes again. Sure I make some compromises and don't get out as often as I would like to but when I do it is sweet and I make it worthwhile. Try talking to your lady mate. Talk about what it does for you, how it can bennefit you both, think about explaining modern safety technology with helmets/riding gear and most importantly do it bit by bit (Rome was not built in a day nor was it destroyed in a day). Also be prepared to compromise a bit. Good luck mate. I hope she understands this is one of the things that makes you who you and she comes around on the risk side.

**NodMan:Me** · 1st November 2004, 21:41

Originally Posted by Kwaka-Kid

Finally id like to say dude, 18... from a fellow 18 year old (well i was only a few months ago) there is sooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo ooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo much wiiiiiiiiiiicked stuff to do out there man! like Seriously wicked stuff! Stuff which at our age we shouldnt have to ask to do!

Dude its like i only just got out of school and having to get my parents to sign forms for me to go on a feild trip, the last thing i want is to jump back into that situation all over again (and trust me, my dad told me all about it... they always want to know where your going, what your doing, and if there are any other girls there!)

hey SON I been waiting ALL YOUR LIFE for this...can I have the keys to the race bike on Sat nite?????...No what bout the street bike??? only wanna go to Whangarei for a burger...honest son, no wheelies, no stoppies, wont even break the speed limit cause yo mumma taught me ta ride like a nanna ....you know THE SAME WAY YOU DO!!!!!lol....if ya dont give me the keys I'll just wait til ya asleep then BORROW IT!!!

**Slipstream** · 1st November 2004, 22:23

Originally Posted by Antallica

"Will you give up Motorcycling? At least until our last child has left home?" - Note that we aren't even married yet nor do we have children.

Could be just a question to see where she stands in the ratings between her and your bike, not necessarily wanting you to actually give up your riding?

Difficult things those questions, asking and answering.

Good luck

**Jess** · 23rd November 2004, 21:15

argh, this was a while ago...i believe the question was asked rather randomly, as i have a tendency to do.
I was unaware quite how deeply motorcycles ran in his veins, and was feeling a little bit nervous about being the one to make all the compromises that as the oldest of 9 children, i am aware need to be made upon becoming parents.
And rather aware of how easy it is to crash and die on a motorcycle, either through his fault or the fault of another. someone in this thread made the comment that we all may be hit by a bus tomorrow, and i quite like that comment, because it is true - we jolly well might! and so i have sort of begun using that as my reality check on this subject - something to remind myself that human life is fragile anyway - why not live it when you have it.
thanks to everyone with all their comments and helpfullness in this thread - it has been kind of interesting hearing opinions expressed freely as i wasnt here to read them to begin with - makes them more honest.

we have resolved that issue of kids and mototrycles, as far as it needs to be at this time, being not married and not parents. i love motorcycles too, but can see mine dissappearing upon becoming a mother...sacrifices for everything worthwhile. at least its a while away yet!!

**scumdog** · 23rd November 2004, 22:19

Do as you have to but do it willingly otherwise bitterness shall surely folllow and life is too short for that.

**Kwaka-Kid** · 24th November 2004, 14:58

ahh crap! hey Jess ingore my posts :P all i do is talk shit anyways!

call me slow but ive spent the last 2 or so weeks seeing the odd post of yours trying to put 2 and 2 together, but couldnt put a pin on it that you were Ants partner.

so, pleased to meet you

and yes sacrifices i guess would have to be made as you say jess, but that doesnt mean you have to give away biking at all. if old anty over there has a bike or something whats to stop you just takin it out for 10mins every month or something... ? Aint No Thing really.

**mangell6** · 24th November 2004, 16:50

Originally Posted by Antallica

Your quite right on that one my good friend, since I've started my new job the other half has been feeling more distant from me etc. (I'm sure we know how it goes).

Originally Posted by matthewt

Hmmm. Don't do it. There are ways to fit riding and family into your life without doing a half-arsed job of both. Probably now because you don't have any kids you go riding a lot. Maybe your partner thinks that with kids she'll be stuck in the weekends while you tour the country. The fact is that when you start a family you probably won't spend all weekend riding but the chances are you may not want to either. Kids are only young once and it'd be a real pity to miss those early years. I missed the first two years of my daugther's life because I was working 60-80 hour weeks non-stop under the illusion that work was important. It's not.

I think Matthewts reply and your above statement go hand in hand. Quality time together, sitting watching MotoGP together does not count.

Having performed the sell bike(s) have kids, realised the mistake and purchased bike(s) routine, there are at least two people on this list who have successfully (IMO) accomplished the keep bike, wife, kids happy combination.

Just my thoughts

Mike

**Skyryder** · 24th November 2004, 16:58

Not much that I can add to the advice already given. Go where the heart is. When it comes to kids I would sooner spend the time with them with two working legs and an intact brain than the other alternitive. There is more to life than rideing and if your partner gets a bit freaked out over this it's because she's in love. Have a good one and stay cool, stay sharp,stay alive.

Skyryder

**marty** · 24th November 2004, 17:25

Originally Posted by Judderbar

A guy at work disproves of Motorcycles claims they are dangerous, Yet he is one of the lycra wearing cyclists you see around all the country roads. He also just gained his Pilots licence and is flying small planes around. Which is more dangerous ? Il stick to my bike, dont like planes.

what's wrong with lycra wearing road cycling bmxing mtbing cessna pilots who also ride motorbikes in their shorts and t-shirt???? huh? huh? huh?