Everyone makes mistakes at times.
However, if I were to make a mistake like this I wouldn't be able to live with the guilt of it.
I'm not married of course but if I was, that would be the case.
What you have in your heart will be revealed through what you have in your life.
If things are going badly in our circumstances, the answer to what is happening to us outwardly is more often than not found in the mirror.
Dr Mira Kirshenbaum deserves to:
A. Be fucked up the arse without Vaseline by every man whose wife has ever spread her legs behind his back for some slimy desperate bastard, and
B. Have her tits burned off with an oxy-acetylene torch by every woman whose husband has left her crying and alone in the night while he spouts bullshit and sneaks out to bang some dumbfuck self-obsessed whore.
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kiwibiker is full of love, an disrespect.
- mikey
She'd probably want to help![]()
Don't sugarcoat this, mate. Tell us how you really feel....
One of the things nobody tells us when we marry, is that we have a responsibility to continue to be interesting and attractive to each other long after the wedding ceremony is over. If a couple are attracted to each other sufficiently to want to spend the rest of their lives together, the attractiveness shouldn't end when the rings are exchanged. I'm not talking about superficial beauty or looking like fashion models, I'm talking about maintaining/developing interesting hobbies and pursuits and activities both together and individually.
I WANT my wife to like me, and I WANT her to be attracted to me. I WANT her to be happy, and I WANT the both of us to live a life that's as free of regrets as I can. How I talk to her, show her respect and conduct myself around her both publicly and privately will largely determine how successful I will be. Extra-marital affairs, whether disclosed or not, are like an extreme version of pornography - it's just like a cancer for relationships.
(BTW, we've been married 25 years)
my $0.02
What she said!
It is NEVER justifiable to cheat on a partner - I don't care how bad things get, or what the circumstances are. I am not going to tag that statement as "my humble opinion" - it's not humble and it is not opinion - it is FACT. If things are that bad, either try harder to fix them, or be courageous and end things honestly.
However, (and this is my opinion) - it is vaguely justifiable to pay for sex if you're terribly frustrated - I don't know how a lot of men in otherwise good relationships cope when their 'other half' won't put out - it must be absolutely soul destroying. But I think the other half should be told beforehand - they can then decide whether they want to do something about their libido - it's all about personal responsibility, really.
By the way, violence is never justified either - I would never cut, hit, or wound a partner for cheating - I would simply walk away. Karma would take care of the rest![]()
OK, I'll start.
Given that I've been the most outspoken in this thread to date, and I know you know some of my personal history, et cetera, I imagine that I must be amongst the group you're thinking of, unless you've grown awfully forgetful in your old age.
Although, frankly, it's a bit rude of you to call me a hypocrite! If I'm misinterpreting you, I'll happily accept you stating that you were not doing so, of course.
Anyway, I've both cheated and been cheated on in the past, and the lessons I took from that are what drive my current opinions on the matter.
Big difference between that and hypocrisy.
Certainly, if I wasn't absolutely convinced that I'd rather cut off my own arm than engage in any such actions again, I'd be a hypocrite, but I don't think that learning from one's mistakes and changing one's stance constitutes hypocrisy.
Unfortunately for you, dude, knowing shit about people's personal lives often goes both ways...
... so, care to share some of your own insights here?
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kiwibiker is full of love, an disrespect.
- mikey
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