Lonely biker because of nagging missus!

[jrandom]

Being quite a smart one my Mrs she worked out the cost of the snapper I caught once, taking into account fuel (for car and boat) launching fees, bait etc FFS!!

She does sound like a smart one. I've always thought fishing off a boat was a bit ridiculous for precisely that reason.

So I bought an electric torpedo.



You can generally rely on a decent haul long-lining off the west coast. Once pulled in 20 snapper and gurnard in about 45 minutes.

[madbikeboy]

My view on this is a little left field.

I was with evil-ex for a LONNGGGG time. I would have gotten less time for murder, without accounting for parole. She looked at me as a rennovation project, wanting to make improvements. This puzzled me for years, as anyone who has met me can see that I'm clearly perfect the way I am. Anyhow, it got to the point where I was getting told what I could do, what I could think, what I could say.

As guys, we are biologically and socially programmed to protect and serve, and we hand our power over gradually, until that fateful day where we realise that we've handed both of 'em over in the bag they came in.

So, fast forward through the split and resultant poverty (for me, not for her, how does that work?), now I'm happy with my equal. She's perfect, she tells me to fuck off and ride when I'm getting uptight, and she books trackdays for me.

So, if you're reading this, pretending you're surfing the NZHerald.co.nz, and you're looking at your Mrs as she huffs and puffs her way through Shortland Street - dump the bitch and run screaming - it is your life that you will save...

[madbikeboy]

She does sound like a smart one. I've always thought fishing off a boat was a bit ridiculous for precisely that reason.

So I bought an electric torpedo.



You can generally rely on a decent haul long-lining off the west coast. Once pulled in 20 snapper and gurnard in about 45 minutes.

Men fish to escape their wives. They'd rather hang out with other smelly old blokes in a tin can surround by sharks and wild ocean than the Mrs... What price freedom?

[jrandom]

dump the bitch and run screaming

Having kids makes that a lot harder, mind ewe.

[Duke girl]

Its so unbelievable how guys who already own bikes and have done for years allow woman who they are with tell them to either give them up or they go. Well the answer to that is would you like a hand with the packing.
What right has any woman got in making her partner give up something that he has had long before he met her. They should except your interest as part of the package of being with you and dammed if I would give them up. It was bad enough for me to give them up when having children but now my girls are all grown up I am happy to say that I am back into them and enjoying every ride I go on. There are plenty of fish in the sea and its just a matter of finding the right 1 who excepts you for who you are and what you have.

[spookytooth]

If my better half had her way i would need to build a new garage to fit all the bikes in.She is a keeper

[scrivy]

i could have anything my heart desired, and i usually did.

She knew about the slappers?????

[wickle]

Had the wife's/bike things too! last one commeneted on electris tools in shed, "you dont use them much" I replied when was the last time you used those sewing machines, overlocker and gym things. Got eight bikes and no wife now!

[spookytooth]

Got eight bikes and no wife now!

that sounds like you got a good trade

[Morepower]

Great subject. I was lucky , my Ex never stopped me from playing with Cars and Bikes .
I do think that a Guy needs to be a guy and think that if you stand up for yourself you will gain some respect from the other half. You can acknowledge how they feel but in the end its your life and if you get to the other end saying " I wish i had done xyz " then thats just sad.

Slowly losing self respect is no relationship.

[SARGE]

love hurts....

[vifferman]

The vifferbabe realised one day that she was wasting her time getting unhappy about my obsession with bikes, so she decided to try'n take an interest too. She even made me buy our current bike.
She enjoys riding with me, and even planned a 5-day trip for us a couple of years back: route, accomodation, what to pack, etc. All I had to do was get the bike ready.
She hasn't really ridden with me since, mainly because I haven't done any weekend rides, and she needs a better jacket'n'pants. But (however!) she's been talking lately about us riding to Coromandel for the weekend. We would've gone yesterday but my sister's got a house full of in-laws.

All this hasn't been plain sailing, and we've both had to make some sacrifices: if I spend money on 'bike stuff', then it's less money for traveling, and vice-versa. Unfortunately, both take big chunks - the last two bike spends were $1k each, and the last trip was $30k (mind you, it was the first major trip ever).

[Beemer]

No whats sad is the amount of guys that choose the wrong woman.

True! All this moaning and whinging about their wives not letting them ride, etc is a poor excuse for not having a backbone and standing up for what they want.

I met my husband through motorcycling and there was no danger of me telling him to give up riding or sell his bikes! When we bought a house I offered to buy him a new bike but he faffed around so long we ended up spending that money on concreting our steep gravel driveway instead - his fault, not mine! And the house has five-car (but more bikes) garaging!

On our honeymoon I bought a new bike for myself, and last month he bought two more bikes so now we have seven. The only thing being sold is his old Triumph car, as we need more room in the garage! People say to me "but you can only ride one at a time, so why do you need so many?" to which I reply that they are different bikes - road, off-road, touring, etc and that each fulfils a different purpose - bit like clothes, who wears the same outfit day in, day out?

People say to him that he's lucky having a wife who 'lets' him buy and ride bikes. Lucky? We're both lucky - we enjoy motorcycling and our home and don't have a problem spending money on either. We often head out together on a bike each, or I'll go pillion - or he'll go by himself - whatever we feel like.

I don't ask his permission to buy Italian shoes either, so he didn't blink when I spent $1500 on three pair in Australia earlier this year! I also drink champagne and he doesn't give me a hard time about that either.

Fair enough if a spouse (of either sex) was spending huge amounts on new bikes or racing when money was tight, but to give up the sport completely isn't warranted under any circumstances. Didn't you guys ever talk to your intended partners prior to marrying them about their attitude to motorcycling? If not, why not? If you did and she said she didn't want you riding after you married, were you so blinded by lust you married her anyway? If she said she didn't have a problem with you carrying on riding after you were married and then changed her mind, how about a gentle reminder of her agreement?

So don't tar all of us with the same brush or blame all women because some don't like motorcycles or their husbands having a mind of their own. To quote a Speights' ad, "it's a long road to finding the perfect woman". Don't settle for second-best you pack of losers!

[Her_C4]

It is not just women who get all weird on this subject. I dated a guy a while ago that had a problem with me spending so much time on my bike!?!?! It was him or the bike - well, I dumped his ass That is why I am a single girl. I now have a lovely relationship with my Honda LOL

You are not alone in this. I dated a guy just after I got my L licence and a snazzy wee Honda 250RR. We didn't talk about the bike, although I sensed his resistance over a period of time.

I would say that I was going for a ride and he would ignore me so I would don my gear and be off and catch up with him later.

The day came when we were due to go to a function together, and I said that I would meet him and his friends there on my bike (trying to save money and didn't want to take the car).

His response was a request (politely worded - he was a very polite man), for me not to ride my bike around his friends as it just wasn't done and besides, he added ever so quietly, it was really about time I stopped with the childish notion that women could do anything. He didn't want his friends thinking I was a lesbian.

I believe that he survived and is now living happily in denial somewhere in Eastbourne.

[Subike]

True! All this moaning and whinging about their wives not letting them ride, etc is a poor excuse for not having a backbone and standing up for what they want.

. To quote a Speights' ad, "it's a long road to finding the perfect woman". Don't settle for second-best you pack of losers!

I wonder how much of this would apply if your income was below what you have.
Expendable income has a large bearing upon what happens,
we all know that owning and playing with a bike is not a cheap hobby/lifestyle choice.
A woman without spending power is a dangerous creature.
You sat that as men, we make the wrong choices in women?
That we dont have back bone to stand up to them?
The maybe they should be honest with us, trust us, and say what they mean all the time, not only when they choose to.
And makeup is not the only mask many apply to their lives.
The two faces of a woman? or is that, the multiple faces of women.