Lonely biker because of nagging missus!

[bgd]

.... it was really about time I stopped with the childish notion that women could do anything.

Wow. In my youth, before bikes, the sexiest creatures around were girls on bikes. Now that I'm older, wiser and ride bikes it's still the same.

I do feel sorry for the non riding public.

[Moki]

It happened to me once. When I got married in April 1977, on the way from the wedding reception to our first honeymoon night, my new bride turned to me and said "Of course now that we're married you'll sell your bikes, won't you?"

Like a fool I did. All 7 of them went. But then just 3 months later I saw a nice Suzuki T350 Rebel for sale, so I said to my sweet wife "I'm just heading into town for a couple of hours"

Naturally she asked "why?", and when I replied "To buy a bike" she almost exploded. She said that if I came home with a motorbike she was leaving. Well I kept my end of the bargain and arrived home with a lovely green T350. It took 17 years for her to keep her end of the deal and leave.

You made the right choice... Much better listening to a bike than

[Moki]

I chose the wrong woman once, about 25 year ago I reckon.

Me and a few of the lads were on shore leave in Hong Kong for a few days, got chatting to this rather nice looking chick...

A few beers later were are back at her place....

I lift up her frock and find myself looking at the 'Last Turkey In The Shop'

That was the wrong woman. In hindsight I should have known better, she did have an adams apple like she was trying to swallow a basketball.

Quick exit and back to the bar

So was this the monumental turning point in your life? You know, when you started eating pies?

[Fatt Max]

So was this the monumental turning point in your life? You know, when you started eating pies?

Well, I have to say that yes it was my friend, broken hearts are for assholes....

[dipshit]

Simple. Just find someone you don't like and buy them half a house.

Saves a lot of wasted years and you can get on with your life.

[Beemer]

I wonder how much of this would apply if your income was below what you have.
Expendable income has a large bearing upon what happens,
we all know that owning and playing with a bike is not a cheap hobby/lifestyle choice.
A woman without spending power is a dangerous creature.
You sat that as men, we make the wrong choices in women?
That we dont have back bone to stand up to them?
The maybe they should be honest with us, trust us, and say what they mean all the time, not only when they choose to.
And makeup is not the only mask many apply to their lives.
The two faces of a woman? or is that, the multiple faces of women.

Sorry to disappoint you (as most women probably do), but you obviously don't know me or anything about me. As for my income, I've been self-employed for six years and until this year, I had some very lean years. The newest bike in our fleet is my Goose, which I paid $6000 for. My husband's bikes are all second-hand and most date from the 1980s. If we had to turn them all into cold hard cash in a hurry, we may have enough for a holiday or a cheap second-hand car - that's the main reason he keeps them all, because they are not really worth much!

We didn't marry until our early 40s and neither of us had much at that stage in our lives. We may have a house now but we also have a mortgage and the usual bills that most people have. We don't have kids - that's a combination of not really wanting them in the first place and being older and not really wanting to start breeding just because we're married!

A woman without spending power is often that way by choice - and I am not having a dig at those who choose to stay home with kids. Many wives don't work because their husbands earn enough that they don't have to, and if they want to have spending power they could quite easily get a job. My husband works in retail and doesn't exactly earn top dollar. I earn good money now, but we're not rich and I do have a student loan to pay off.

What I'm saying is, don't use the excuse of women moaning for not riding. My husband is living proof that you don't have to own the latest and greatest bike to get out there and have fun. Once you have the bike, it's just petrol, rego, insurance and tyres and petrol is the only thing you have to shell out for every time you ride it. Get a cheap bike and look on it as a hobby. Most women have hobbies or they collect something, so use that as a bargaining tool - "but you spend $XX a week on magazines/getting your nails done/new clothes/etc, the bike is MY hobby".

Men, talk to your women! (Hopefully you only have the one, but woman doesn't sound right!) Ask them why they don't want you riding or owning a bike. If she wants a divorce because you want to ride, then may I respectfully suggest motorcycling is not the only problem the two of you have?

If money is the only barrier to riding, then maybe riding will have to be put aside until you are more financially stable. Certainly if you have kids and money is needed for other things, that has to be taken into consideration. But if that is not the case, things need to be discussed openly and honestly. Look at it another way - how many people give up other hobbies when they get married? Most married men I know still play sport, go out fishing or hunting, etc. Sure, they usually spend a lot of time with their wife and they do things together, but neither one stops doing everything they enjoyed before they married, and neither should they. Marriage should be a union of soul mates, not a punishment!

[Okey Dokey]

I felt bad reading all these posts about breaking up marriages and spouses being intolerant. It makes me realise how very lucky my partner and I are; he taught me to ride while we were going out, after pillioning me for a while.

For 10 years we have had to share one bike between us due to financial reality, but we each got lots of rides on our own and I was happy to pillion as well.

Now, at last, we have a GSXR each- and he has insisted I have the new one!!!

Anyhoo, I don't want to go all Pollyanna on you guys, but I wanted to add something positive to this thread. Not all wives/husbands are evil.

[Beemer]

I felt bad reading all these posts about breaking up marriages and spouses being intolerant. It makes me realise how very lucky my partner and I are; he taught me to ride while we were going out, after pillioning me for a while.

For 10 years we have had to share one bike between us due to financial reality, but we each got lots of rides on our own and I was happy to pillion as well.

Now, at last, we have a GSXR each- and he has insisted I have the new one!!!

Anyhoo, I don't want to go all Pollyanna on you guys, but I wanted to add something positive to this thread. Not all wives/husbands are evil.

Yay, another woman who thinks like me! If we could only afford one bike, I'd be happy for that to be one my taller husband could ride and I'd go pillion. The big thing is sharing the fun. I certainly don't think the guys with the flashest and newest bikes have more fun than those on old bikes.

Just look at Valentine's Day - guys think they have to spend a fortune to keep the other half happy. We got fish and chips last year and went down to the beach. Cost us less than $10 and it was the best Valentine's Day we'd ever had!

[sweetp]

When I started dating again earlier this year i made it very clear that i was after a man who loved bikes as much as me or was willing to learn to ride. Ended up with a wonderful man (who had a similar criteria) who while he owned a harley was happy to buy a sports bike so he could keep up with me.

I have got him into track days, and he got me into poker rides. The only thing we dont do together are rallys - i say they are boy bonding and he should keep going with his brother (read too wimpy to camp on any rallys that start with "cold" - which is pretty much all of them)

I think it is a package deal - people come with hobbies and lifestyles and if you don't like them up front then you shouldn't be with them. If you look at the arguement that it is dangerous - well then would you not marry someone who was in the army? You can get shot!

[YellowDog]

After being divorced for a couple of years I told my newish girlfriend (5 years ago) that I was getting a bike. She told me that I wasn't however I explained to her that I was happily divorced from a nagging wife that controlled everything that I did and I WAS getting a bike. She insisted that I wasn't.

When I showed up with a bike 2 weeks later, she opened the front door to greet me. She took one look and then slammed the door shut. I ignored her (as we do) and was tinkering (as we do). 10 minutes later the front door opens with my girlfriend in a great set of leathers and helmet I never knew she had. She is a great pillion rider and it turned out to be a very good move. She even paid some money towards my new bike I bought earlier this year; so they're not all bad! At least I have a goodun...........

[Subike]

Sorry to disappoint you (as most women probably do),
Sure, they usually spend a lot of time with their wife and they do things together, but neither one stops doing everything they enjoyed before they married, and neither should they. Marriage should be a union of soul mates, not a punishment!

This post paints a totally diferent picture of you and your partner than the first posting does.
I agree with what you have said in the second post. With the exception of the opening line.
End!

[Sharry]

Don't mind a relationship... but I do know she (when she comes) wouldn't like the answer to the good old "Its me or the bike"

If she is the right woman she will never say "it is me or the bike" She will never say it is me or anything......unless of course you are being a norty boi.

[Beemer]

When he heard about this post, the other half said "don't these guys discuss this stuff BEFORE they get married?"

The post brings to mind women who want kids who marry a guy who swears he never wants a child - then a year or so down the track when they realise he REALLY doesn't want kids, they pack a sad and tell him he's not being fair.

And I get really annoyed with some people's reaction to parents owning bikes - "but they're so dangerous! If you were killed on your bike, how do you think your kids would feel? etc" - I've even heard guys say now they have kids they no longer want to ride because they feel they shouldn't.

Look at what happened to Austin Hemmings. He was just going about his business when someone else's life intruded on his and he lost his life. There was a Sunday show last night with three young people from the one family dying suddenly from heart problems. The fact is you never know when your time is up and most people don't die riding motorcycles. Sure, it's a terrible tragedy when one does, but the majority of people probably die from natural causes or health-related problems. To be honest I'd worry more about my husband if he worked in a liquor store or bank than if he rode bikes.

[Morepower]

Just look at Valentine's Day - guys think they have to spend a fortune to keep the other half happy. We got fish and chips last year and went down to the beach. Cost us less than $10 and it was the best Valentine's Day we'd ever had!

Guys . there is much wisdom in those words .

[madbikeboy]

I've got a warm feeling in my tummy after reading the last few posts. Maybe it's acid reflux?