Why men cheat.

[portokiwi]

Mate I only have one snake and I dont want it chopped off.
Its hard enough keeping up with the lady I have...... Why dip into something else
I must be getting old

[Goblin]

Getting sex doesn't necessarily mean you're getting good sex and I wonder whether this was the case with the man on Oprah? Did they specify whether the wife was into it or whether she did it as another one of her daily chores?

I didn't see the whole thing but she was sitting next to him gazing lovingly at him so she was obviously still in love with him even after being cheated on. I just dont understand how some men(women too) are such horndogs with no self control, never miss an opportunity to get their end away.

[FROSTY:Me]

Sometimes a guy gets number one prime high quality beef at home .
Yet occasionally he hankers for a tunafish sandwich.

[Finn]

Cheating/straying is a symptom of something wrong with a relationship in most cases imho....

Exactly. There are a lot of unhappy relationships out there. Jokes aside, I've never cheated on any of my partners. When I feel the relationship is not going anywhere, I end it. On a couple of occasions the cross over period was a bit gray but heck...

[The Stranger:Me]

And one more thing - women will climb over the backs of decent guys to get to the bad boy.

Pretty much sums it up don't it?
They want bad, they encourage bad, yet when shit happens they wonder why.

[The Stranger:Me]

Well said!
All very well with couples who are emotionally divorced already then go looking elsewhere

What would induce a couple to remain in such a relationship?

[jrandom]

What would induce a couple to remain in such a relationship?

Cha-ching, cha-ching...

[MsKABC]

It human nature to look and to want somthing you dont have, but restraint is what matters.

It's the same old story of "The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence", but as we all know, it very rarely is.

No harm in looking at the menu Bruce, just dont order anything eh?....

Well as my husband says: "Why go out for sausages when you can have steak at home?"

[MsKABC]

What would induce a couple to remain in such a relationship?

...or children.

[vifferman]

13 pages in one day...

Don't you have your KB set up right?
I've got only 5 pages. Saves the baby lesbian fur seal whale penguins, y'know.

[MotoGirl]

What would induce a couple to remain in such a relationship?

Cha-ching, cha-ching...

Dan's right. It's often cheaper to stay in the relationship than it is to fork out on solicitor's fees and to split stuff down the middle (especially in this economy).

A few months after my father left my mother, he told me that he would've stayed with her if he had of known how much trouble he was going to cause by leaving. When I say "trouble", I'm referring to fucking over everyone he "loves" in the quest for money.

I guess one would need to weigh up the cost of being old and bitter versus that of halving their empire.

[The Stranger:Me]

Cha-ching, cha-ching...

...or children.

Dan's right. It's often cheaper to stay in the relationship than it is to fork out on solicitor's fees and to split stuff down the middle (especially in this economy).

A few months after my father left my mother, he told me that he would've stayed with her if he had of known how much trouble he was going to cause by leaving. When I say "trouble", I'm referring to fucking over everyone he "loves" in the quest for money.

I guess one would need to weigh up the cost of being old and bitter versus that of halving their empire.

Interesting.
Personally I would have gone with children first then a promise/vow - what are you if not a man of your word? A liar.

But would include as well as the above-
Belief - in yourself.
Optimism.
History.
Faith - religious.

[The Stranger:Me]

Dan's right. It's often cheaper to stay in the relationship than it is to fork out on solicitor's fees and to split stuff down the middle (especially in this economy).

A few months after my father left my mother, he told me that he would've stayed with her if he had of known how much trouble he was going to cause by leaving. When I say "trouble", I'm referring to fucking over everyone he "loves" in the quest for money.

I guess one would need to weigh up the cost of being old and bitter versus that of halving their empire.

Perhaps this would be a case where all would have been better off had he simply cheated?

I do know of instances where women have admitted after the fact that they wish they never knew and would have been better off and would have preferred not knowing.

But of course this being KB and everyone here being of such high moral value these possibilities can not even be entertained.

[jrandom]

Perhaps this would be a case where all would have been better off had he simply cheated?

I don't think human nature allows the majority of people to do that without having their primary relationship substantially affected. Always better to be up-front about things, even though it takes a lot of balls to do so.

But of course this being KB and everyone here being of such high moral value...

I don't think anyone in this thread is claiming to be a saint. But a lot of people have learned from experience that trying to run multiple relationships at once in secret tends to end in tears.

[vtec]

Great thread. Read every post.

Me personally. If I was in a relationship with someone, I would never cheat, I would never make threats to break it off, if it gets to the point where I'd do either I'd just break it off. Nice clean cut, no messing around, and do all the emotional damage at once to keep the fighting to a minimum. But then my last serious relationship burnt out all my vast stores of tolerance.

But I do understand why many would cheat. Out of desperation to make themselves feel better when they've been controlled and emasculated by a manipulative power hungry woman, in the hope that they could make themselves happy/confident/satisfied enough to overcome the difficulties in their relationship perhaps.

I'd say I'm going to be single for a lot longer yet. Freedom and adventure is my new course. Next destination, San Francisco.

P.S. Please note, that I'm aware in many situations, the guy's just a knob. But I'm trying to come up with what would push an otherwise, nice/loyal guy to cheating.