Why men cheat.

[ManDownUnder]

Oh gosh...

No need - it was not a good time for any of course but it serves as a fine example of exactly what I was talking about. Life is FULL of semantics... to boldly claim one rule fits all is naive in the extreme

Panic not.

[MotoGirl]

True - tell that to the guy married to a woman with Alzheimers...

You raise a point that I hadn't even considered and being married to someone with a serious injury/disability could have the same effect.

Say, for example, that I got injured to a level where I could not communicate with my hubby, let alone participate in any sexual activities. I'm picking that he would stick by me at the expense of having a normal relationship.

At some point down the line, hubby would most likely want something more than what I could provide. Technically speaking, if he was to seek a physical relationship with someone else that would be cheating. However, is it cheating if I gave him permission to have a sexual relationship with someone else?

[ManDownUnder]

You raise a point ...

Blingo! And respect for that post.

[MsKABC]

Don't take this as an affront - but sadly no - I wish it was that simple. My mother lived that exact story about 5 years ago.

It's very sad indeed. Our neighbour recently had to put her husband into full-time care because he became too violent and her safety was at risk

[vifferman]

In all cases the guys credit at least part of their successful marriage to thier extramarital affairs.
Ironically, their marriages are rock solid and their kids secure.

Rock solid?
A marriage based on deceit?

[Finn]

Say, for example, that I got injured to a level where I could not communicate with my hubby

Ahhhh, the perfect wife.

[ManDownUnder]

So... add into the mix the following... possible situations. Assume he loves her dearly, they have kids they both treasure

• She gets HIV through a blood transfusion
• MV Accident leaves someone physically or mentally incapacitated
• Her libido drops off a cliff for any of a number of psychological, chemical or hormonal reasons
• Post Natal Depression
• She's sexually assaulted and men/sex or certain circumstances are all just off limits.

... etc etc etc

Keep in mind there are cases out there of each and every one of these out there! These are not hypotheticals.

Still want to view this as a simple "ditch her and do what you can minimise the fallout on her, the kids etc"?

[Mikkel]

IDDQD and IDKFA

The only clues a cheating man will ever need.

[Skyryder]

Since I've been with CB (a.k.a. normajeane) I have never really thought about 'straying', I guess if you get the right partner and treat each other right there's no 'need' as such??

Cheating/straying is a symptom of something wrong with a relationship in most cases imho....

Yep my thoughts too. Why risk the best for second best.


Skyryder

[The Stranger:Me]

Yep my thoughts too. Why risk the best for second best.


Skyryder

Why indeed - though I fear one of you is a liar - or you're both sharing the same woman.

However is it that simple?
What would induce Hugh Grant to cheat on Elizibeth Hurley?
I guess we can conlude she don't swallow, but is this enough to make a guy go elsewhere? Well ladies think about it - if it can happen to her it can happen to you - so get swallowing!

Why would David Beckham screw around on Posh?

On the face of it they have everything - fame, fortune, looks.
Did they really think the grass would be greener on the other side?

Did the guys feel under valued, under appreciated, like they're not winning?
Or a good career move perhaps?

[jrandom]

However, is it cheating if I gave him permission to have a sexual relationship with someone else?

Seems pretty clear to me that 'cheating' doesn't involve situations where one party is mentally disabled and incapable of understanding the situation and/or giving consent, nor does it involve situations where the uninvolved partner has given informed consent.

cheat
v. tr.
1. To deceive by trickery; swindle: cheated customers by overcharging them for purchases.
2. To deprive by trickery; defraud: cheated them of their land.
3. To mislead; fool: illusions that cheat the eye.
4. To elude; escape: cheat death.

Deceive by trickery, deprive by trickery, mislead, fool or elude: neither of the two situations above satisfies that definition.

Surely any reasonable person should be comfortable accepting that 'cheating' cannot simply be defined as 'sex with someone other than the marriage partner'.

[Storm]

However is it that simple?
What would induce Hugh Grant to cheat on Elizibeth Hurley?
I guess we can conlude she don't swallow, but is this enough to make a guy go elsewhere? Well ladies think about it - if it can happen to her it can happen to you - so get swallowing!

Why would David Beckham screw around on Posh?

Hugh Grant- he'd had the best, and just HAD to try the rest

David Beckham- he wanted a woman who actually had more than .001kg of meat on her bones



In a more serious note(in a happy departure from common KB threads), its interesting to see in recent pages this issue has gone from "black and white, no grey possible" to "hmm yeah, might not be such an easy question to answer"

My 2 bob

[doc]

Getting sex doesn't necessarily mean you're getting good sex

Ferk your game girl . Talkin about anyone we know ?

[MotoGirl]

I don't know enough cheaters to form an opinion so: are cheaters generally repeat offenders or do they only do it as a one-off to satisfy a need?

There's a saying along the lines of "the way the relationship is started is how the relationship will end."

[The Stranger:Me]

I don't know enough cheaters to form an opinion so: are cheaters generally repeat offenders or do they only do it as a one-off to satisfy a need?

There's a saying along the lines of "the way the relationship is started is how the relationship will end."

A cheater never changes his spots.