Broke my bike and lost the missus

**pritch** · 23rd March 2009, 09:19

Originally Posted by jaymzw

This way you wont need a partner because you have "insert name"

I might have been inclined to avoid using the word "insert" in this particular context...

**klingon** · 23rd March 2009, 09:24

Originally Posted by MSTRS

That's all very well, but do we know that the problem is him? Seems the anger issues lie with the girl. Just because guys sometimes treat their wives like shit, doesn't mean it doesn't happen the other way round. Perhaps he is well rid of her. And with his bike as a refuge, he can just spend time with himself before finding a new relationship...one with mutual respect and tolerance.

Agreed.

On the other hand, I think it needs to be asked "how did I get myself into this position in the first place? How can I avoid it happening again?"

Even assuming the OP is a total angel and his missus is wicked and evil, I think it's still really important to learn from the situation. You see it all the time where people who seem like smart, worldly-wise folks keep ending up in relationships where they are abused and mistreated.

So yeah, time for a bit of a pause, get the bike going, remind yourself that you don't need that woman in order to be happy, and work out what you can do differently next time to make sure you don't end up in a relationship with her clone.

**rosie631** · 23rd March 2009, 09:32

Hiya. For my two cents worth, I took the original post to mean that it was her with the anger issues. In my experience people don't change. Have been with two who have done anger management. Seems to me they now know a bit more about why they react the way they do, but still can't control it. So problem remains. If she is the angry one, I would say let her walk.
As for the bike. Get it fixed so you can enjoy it properly.

**jim.cox** · 23rd March 2009, 09:58

bad luck about the bike

**R1madness** · 23rd March 2009, 10:02

Originally Posted by jaymzw

If you havnt already, give your bike a name, not a name that makes you angry, cause you might bin. Just a name so you can be affectionate towards your bike. Spend money on it and go for looooooong rides. This way you wont need a partner because you have "insert name"

hahahaha i call mine "THE SLAPPA" because when i take her out its for a dam good thrashing....... (the bike that is)........

**sosman** · 23rd March 2009, 11:21

Sorry to hear bout the bike,especially when there's lots of trackdays comming up

**Mystic13** · 23rd March 2009, 11:38

Originally Posted by MSTRS

That's all very well, but do we know that the problem is him? Seems the anger issues lie with the girl. Just because guys sometimes treat their wives like shit, doesn't mean it doesn't happen the other way round. Perhaps he is well rid of her. And with his bike as a refuge, he can just spend time with himself before finding a new relationship...one with mutual respect and tolerance.

I didn't know if the problem was him or not. Or if he had the anger issues or not. And like Klingon says above, it's about learning from what's just happened. And clearly in this instance the bike has crashed. So there is something to learn to avoid crashing the same way again.

Unlike some chook chasers who "apparently" will crash on the same corner a few times before they realize they need to do something different.

Some people learn from the first crash and while they may crash again usually it's not for the same reason. Others will keep repeating the same mistake.

So the crash is either a result of "rider error" or "rider error". In the first instance you need to learn how to ride the bike better. In the second instance you bought a dud bike and you need to learn how to buy a better bike, fix the one you buy or to know when to ditch it if it's a lemon. Or worst case scenario it was all of the above.

It's hard for me to believe that you can't learn from a crash. Of course it would be easier to learn from other people crashing or noticing that you're heading for one then take action to avoid it.

Target Fixation - Would make a good book on relationships.

**Blatman** · 23rd March 2009, 14:49

Yeah, George at Motorcycle Doctors is the man.
What we need is a mobile service like his, but for fixing women - Women Doctors.
Y'know, shove a f-ing diagnostic tool up their fanny and get a read out: "Bad temperament due to low levels of chocolate" or whatever.

**munterk6** · 23rd March 2009, 16:49

WTF? Is this "Doctor Phil" or sumfin? Just ditch the bitch and get on with your life...Doctor Munter.

**kunoichi** · 23rd March 2009, 17:03

LOL, agreed with munter, bike is ur gf, any others r just a bit on the side!

...unless u really like her, in which case that is a problem, but i detect more love for the bike neways!

**mattyt** · 23rd March 2009, 22:16

Bloody hell the support is over-whelming! Who woulda thought bikers would have been such a kind/supporting & helping bunch?

ALOT of good advice here tho, much appreciated.

Haha she definitely has the anger management issues TRUST ME (but hey im no angel, obviously) but I am certainly conscious of my anger and emotions..

And like Kunoichi put it so intuitively, there is definitely more love for me bike than the one who does not require a name.

Cheers peeps