Oh damb, was it your wife that I told about your off thread in March
Never mind that just means she can keep a secrete from you as well![]()
Having to hide a bin from the missus? Jesus.
So you've got one of those "You can ride a bike, but only so long as I can maintain the pretense that you won't ever fall off" ones.
Got kids? You're probably stuck with her, and you have my sympathy; your pain will last for many years.
No kids? Dump her already, and find one with a bit more sense in her head, who's capable of understanding and accepting the risks associated with what you do.
In my experience, it's not that motorcycles are that important per se, but a woman with that particular attitude toward them is generally a certain sort of woman, whom one is always better off without.
kiwibiker is full of love, an disrespect.
- mikey
It will be the one time you have a mate over or you are telling people about your bin you had after sometime (slip of the tongue) and she picks up on it and goes hang on i don't recall this.
World of hurt time becuase if you hide that from her whatelse is she going to think you are hiding.
Keeping your partner in the dark is hardly a survival skill mate.
It is preferential to refrain from the utilisation of grandiose verbiage in the circumstance that your intellectualisation can be expressed using comparatively simplistic lexicological entities. (...such as the word fuck.)
Remember your humanity, and forget the rest. - Joseph Rotblat
Bear in mind that if he has the option of doing that, or having the woman do her utmost to actually stop him from riding his motorcycle, he might feel as though he's kinda run out of options.
Being up-front only works when the other party is willing to be reasonable.
I sniff the tangy scent of an ill-advised relationship.
In such situations, some people prefer to hide things from their partner to maintain a 'comfortable' status quo, and some people prefer to admit their mistake and regain their freedom... you pays your money and takes your choices, etc.
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kiwibiker is full of love, an disrespect.
- mikey
your've started a trend now, next time I'd "fess" up to bring back some balance...
I ask for nothing but to ride where ever the road calls
Not that I disagree as such - although I would definitely choose differently - my subtle point was just that the slow death of emotion that often accompanies a disfunctional relationship is not really surviving. (Not that I am saying anyone has a disfunctional relationship, but having to keep your partner in the dark is usually not a sign of health...)
Alternatively, some temperamental women have been known to bash the head in on their less-than-forthcoming partners, while they slept...
Considering we are in the survival skills forum, I just thought to advice caution in these things.![]()
It is preferential to refrain from the utilisation of grandiose verbiage in the circumstance that your intellectualisation can be expressed using comparatively simplistic lexicological entities. (...such as the word fuck.)
Remember your humanity, and forget the rest. - Joseph Rotblat
What kind of relationship is it if you have to hide that sort of thing? Surly it cant be healthy if there is not enough mutial trust there?
In the course of 25 years of connubiality I have NEVER told Mrs Ixion of any mishaps, near misses etc. I see no point in worrying her needlessly. We, as bikers, and blokes, know that these things will happen. And that once one ventures onto a track, or trail, a certain degree of bruising and pain must be expected. Women, however, never understand trhese things. They would worry their little heads quite needlessly.
I am quite sure that she fully realises that this is the case, and takes care not to needlessly enquire. I leave her mind at ease, she tactfully turns a Nelsonian eye to the odd bruise or limp.
To a guy, a comment "Had a minor off today. Cunt pulled out in front of me, bikes a bit twisted , but I rode it home, and I'll be sore as a sore thing for a few days ", invites a response of "Bastards! Good the bike's OK. And you too I guess. ". To a woman it reads "OMG. OH OH . You nearly died!!! Maybe you did die!!! OMG . Tomorrow you'll CERTAINLY die . OMG . I'm going to be a widow. Probably already am. OMG , Think of the children. How can you leave them orphans. OMG. Is your life insurance paid up. I woinder if that cute guy I saw the other day is still available. "
Best not to rock the boat unless needful.
EDIT. This logic is not confined to bikes. I apply it also to the minor scrapes and flesh wounds that are an inevitable comcomitant of doing bloke stuff in the workshop. Everyone knows that power tools have an insatiable appetite for human flesh. Some blood now and then is inevitable. I never mention it, she never comments on the steady diminuation of the medicine cabinet supplies, or the occasional bloodstained dressing. Harmony and light abound on all sides.
Originally Posted by skidmark
Originally Posted by Phil Vincent
I can not begin to express how happy I am that I am young enough to have been taught to expect more of my partner.
As you point out yourself, she is most likely not exactly unaware of what goes on, nor will she always be without worry of what might happen. Talking about it, understanding the risks involved and what the potential consequences are is quite important I believe.
When a wave rolls by it rocks the boat - irregardless of whether those onboard acknowledges it or not.
It is preferential to refrain from the utilisation of grandiose verbiage in the circumstance that your intellectualisation can be expressed using comparatively simplistic lexicological entities. (...such as the word fuck.)
Remember your humanity, and forget the rest. - Joseph Rotblat
I never told my Mum about my bin, for the same reasons.
I did manage to show just about everyone else I knew my badly sprained ankle and other grazes though.![]()
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