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AD345, Nice Post Dude. +1.
I don't have a problem slowing down for other peoples kids getting off a bus.
Being a minute or two late, is not a stress factor in my life.
I'd like other road users to slow down for my kids.
They have L Plates.
We as adults know better.
Stop the selfishness and Slow down.
Taking responsibility for yourself is quite a simple thing to do![]()
ter·ra in·cog·ni·taAchievement is not always success while reputed failure often is. It is honest endeavor, persistent effort to do the best possible under any and all circumstances.
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So many men, so many opinions, I respect your right to have and express yours.
What I don't respect are the people (in authority) who carry titles and retrieve comencerate salaries but never face up to their responsibilities!
Why are they retained when they do very little when it comes to taking "action" to improve obviously faulty systems and practices!
Public apathy?
What we all seem to agree on is that the current situation is faulty!
If we always do what we have always done, we shouldn't expect any different results.
If they wont change what they do, then lets have the strength to change them!![]()
No. I will take *care* for vulnerable or fragile people. Including children .I will not take responsibility for them . If I am to take *responsibility* for your children , then I am going to demand a say in their upbringing and training. Which I strongly suspect you would not like at all. I have very definate opinions on such matters. Which are not at all PC .
I will (and do) take *care* around children. I will ensure (or do my best, anyway) that I can stop when they run out onto the road in front of me. But if I am *responsible* , then after taking the necessary evasive action, I will (a) be taking them to a place of safetey , since manifestly you (a hypothetical you, not necessarily a personal you) are not capable of properly caring for them . And (b) I will be round at your place reading *you* the riot act , and telling you how to raise them in futire., After all, I'm responsible.
You bred them. Your responsibility, Stop trying to shuffle out of it (again, hypothetical you)
All care. No responsibility.
Originally Posted by skidmark
Originally Posted by Phil Vincent
That's an incredibly simplistic view of community dynamics. You posit an "all or nothing" scenario where there are no differing levels of responsibility.
To be a responsible member of the commnity and make an effort to impart some of your knowledge and experience to a child seems to be beyond you.
To take your position to its logical extreme the role of teachers come with the burden of raising every individual that they have the responsibility of educating.
You (hypothetical you) choose to live in a community comprised in part of vulnerable and fragile people. Stop trying to shuffle out of the responsiblity that comes with being a member of it.
Neca eos omnes. Deus suos agnoscet
I should have mentioned, BTW, that if I am to be responsible for your children, then I also demand a say in whether you have them in the first place. And the answer is going to be "No" in almost every case. For reasons that this thread should make self evident.
You make the decision to have children. They are your responsibility. If you want me to be repsonsible for them, then you must ask my permission fisrst. You didn't, I'm not.
Originally Posted by skidmark
Originally Posted by Phil Vincent
This may sound over the top ... but ... they are required BY LAW, when transporting schoolchildren, to display "School Bus" signs. If they are NOT displayed, vehicles are NOT required to slow to 20 km/hr to pass them. A kid may die because of that. A phone call to the non urgent local police station to inform them will do wonders in this regard.
When life throws you a curve ... Lean into it ...
If they are not on in the morning then I'll phone the local station.
Alcohol. The cause of and solution to all lifes problems.
As I said in my previous post you (hypothetical you) should take a measure of responsibility for vulnerable or fraigile members of your community.
I'm not asking you to raise my (hypothetical me) kids, I'm asking that you take an adult responsibility for members of your community over and above those directly related to you.
Would you feel no responsibility to take the keys from a drunk if you could do so?
Having done so - would you then demand the right to tell them how to live their life?
Neca eos omnes. Deus suos agnoscet
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No, it is just you
I actually agree with you, it is not easy to know what the posted speed limit is if you are not familiar with the area.
Going past a school bus that is stopped to let kids off though is a no brainer for me, slow right down, yes, heaven forbid to 20 kph, and putter past looking out for kiddlies darting out in front of you.
I lived rurally when my kids were at school and they were school bus travellers from day one. When they were really little I used to walk down to the end of the drive and see them on to the bus in the morning, was on our side of the road heading into town. After school, I used to walk to the end of the drive and cross the road and wait for the bus to drop them off, and then we would practise safe road crossing skills. I did that everyday for a long time, either my kids were slow learners or I was a paranoid mother who needed to be very certain they knew what not to do before I could let them cross the road unsupervised.
Not rocket science really.
Very sad to hear of children killed crossing roads off school buses.
No, I would not, if only the drunk were involved. The drunk makes his own decisions. He must live with the consequences. If those were certain (not merely lilely, who am I to judge) to endanger others, then yes I would take his keys. And then I most certainly would demand the right to tell him how to live his life. If I am forced to accept responsibility for something then I also demand the right to manage that responsibility.
I ride daily through South Auckland. I see many children. In the great majority of cases, if I am responsible for those children, then I am going to explictly demand major changes in their lives. Starting with removal from parents manifestly unfit to raise them in a manner of which I (as a responsible party) approve.
If I am responsible for (hypothetical) your children, then it would be irresponsible of me not to ensure that they are raised in a manner and to a standard that meets my approval. Those who wish me to accept responsibility for their children are welcome to PM me with details of how they are raising (or intend to raise) them; along with their intentions as to education, religious instruction, school and academic roadmaps etc. Preferably BEFORE the conception of the sprogs. Somehow I do not think I will have many takers .
Parents of children always have this strange attitude that they have done the world a wondrous service by bringing another squalling brat into it. I see no such benefit to an overcrowded planet. The more so considering the personal attributes of 90% of the progenitors.
I am saved from total misanthropy only because I sometimes have the priviledge of social interaction with some of the younger members of this site (mainly those who lurk in the SMC and LOTPIHGAD forums). Whom I would happily accept responsibility for, save that they neither need nor expect anyone to be responsible for them . And would I am certain be indignant at the idea. But , of course, they are bikers, so a higher standard than the average is only to be expected. I am encouraged to believe by their example that there is still some hope for the human race. Indeed , so much so that sometimes I am almost tempted to rejoin it.
Also, BTW, unless you are a lot older than is probable, I did not choose to live in your community. You chose to live in mine. You are always welcome to leave it. Door's on your left.
Originally Posted by skidmark
Originally Posted by Phil Vincent
I agree 100% with Ixion here. I don't have children - a choice made by my husband and me jointly - so I in no way feel 'responsible' for other people's children. If a kid puts itself in a dangerous situation, it is not MY job to do something about it. I remember once trying to point out to a parent that their child was in danger or hurting itself and being told to "keep your fucking nose out of it" so I won't make that mistake again.
As Ixion said, a lot of people should never have kids because they aren't responsible enough to care for them. Unfortunately the general public has no say in the matter so they should not be held responsible for those children.
I don't feel responsible for every child in this world just as I don't feel responsible for every criminal or dangerous driver, etc. I will take action if I am put in danger or if it personally affects me in some way, but otherwise it is not my job to look after someone else's problems. If that sounds selfish, too bad. You have kids, you look after them. I'll take all reasonable care when they are in my presence, but they are NOT my responsibility.
AD345 said "If travelling along a rural road at 100k or higher and you are NOT scanning driveways and the like for possible problems you are running a large risk of grief" - like most of us, I DO scan constantly when riding or driving. Hazards are more likely to be avoidable if this rule is followed - but if someone ran straight out of a driveway in front of me, that would not be a hazard I'd be expecting. When an animal does this, it's because a fence has been breached or a gate left open - and it's the owner's responsibility - but the animal has no road awareness at any age and has never been taught how to cross the road properly. I think Mom had the right approach - take responsibility for your children until you are POSITIVE they can be trusted to cross the road safely.
Yes, I am pedantic about spelling and grammar so get used to it!
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lol, nice eyebrows Mom, but can ya wiggle your ears hehe!!!
Sure parents, and their children have responsibilty, but as road users we have our license as a privelege, not a right.
Beemer. Your statement is indicative of a woman with no children.
I mean nothing by saying that, I thought similarly before children.
I suggest, "You'll" (Borrow's Ixions hypothetical 'you' guy) find most people without kids think this way, vs parents, who have spent 5 nights in a row getting up to sick kids or staying late with them when teething or cleaning up after tummy bugs, tend to have more of a community, and empathetic outlook on children and their safety.
It really does take a community to keep our children safe, always has, always will.
To assume something is not your problem, because it doesn't or won't affect "you" is blind. (borrows Ixions hypothetical you guy again)
Society on all levels, constantly reaps the consequences of that pattern of thinking.
Don't assume in theory that most parents don't educate their children from their ability to stand, walk and run... to look before crossing roads.
I think "you'd" also find kids and young adults, don't quite comprehend the finality of irresponsible actions, unless they've witnessed or lived through it.
"That will never happen to me" is a common theme. In both Adults and Children.
That, is why these things are called accidents.
Assume anything can happen, and quite often does.
Children are NOW species, whatever is going on their lives NOW is what comes first quite often in the brain process.
Hypothetically speaking, we don't know this 12 year child hadn't been teased on the bus before he got off eh?
We will never know why he wandered onto the road.
ter·ra in·cog·ni·taAchievement is not always success while reputed failure often is. It is honest endeavor, persistent effort to do the best possible under any and all circumstances.
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