I'm in a situation. Serious advice from wise people needed.

[Hans]

If things get really bad check out the price of a takeaway.......recession eh,every cloud has a silver lining.

The sort of takeaway that gives you the clap?
Looks like you folks might give me a better view of humanity then I've ever had.
Some of you are saying "find out what you are by yourself". The problem is I remember what I was by myself... I sure hope I've changed since then. I think she might have been my only hope for salvation...Here's to hoping that I can now save myself.
We learned a lot from each other while we were together. I don't think we'll ever be able to "hate" each other or not get on. That just makes it worse I guess. I'll seriously have to consider moving so I don't ever see her again. What's worse? Seeing each other and scratching at the scabs or never meeting again?
Oh and btw, You're a fine lot. Thanks

[MsKABC]

I'll seriously have to consider moving so I don't ever see her again. What's worse? Seeing each other and scratching at the scabs or never meeting again?

You don't have to never see her again, but I'd recommend no contact for a few months at least, if you can manage it. It will really help, because you'll never be able to get used to life without her and focus on yourself and rebuilding your life if she is constantly in your face.

[Hans]

Not having anything to do is the worst thing. So if you get short of things to do and wanna go out for a drink or something, I'll come out with you and annoy you.

And by drink I don't mean get drunk. I probably should have substituted that for 'socialise'

Oh, cheers, I'll take you up on that sometime soon.

[SARGE]

Hi ya all,

Well, it seemed me and the significant other had gotten on top of our issues. Wrong. Instead we were just dead walking together and didn't realise it. As of today the two of us are no longer an item. After ten years out of the 28 I've lived so far.
I'm looking for some advice on what it takes to start your life all over again. We were very close, and still are in some ways. And I have absolutely no idea what to do with myself. I'm not looking for pats on the back or sympathy, just some good practical advice from people who've been there and come out the other side still breathing. I have every intention of getting on with life. As soon as I know which way to go. I expect to be told to HTFU by a fair few "members" and I don't have a problem with that.
Looking forward to some words of wisdom here.
I'll go and take a bath now and see what I come back to.
I'd rather be shitfaced right now, alas I have to work tomorrow morning.
Peace.

go sleep with her sister...seriously

[mister.koz]

The sort of takeaway that gives you the clap?
Looks like you folks might give me a better view of humanity then I've ever had.
Some of you are saying "find out what you are by yourself". The problem is I remember what I was by myself... I sure hope I've changed since then. I think she might have been my only hope for salvation...Here's to hoping that I can now save myself.
We learned a lot from each other while we were together. I don't think we'll ever be able to "hate" each other or not get on. That just makes it worse I guess. I'll seriously have to consider moving so I don't ever see her again. What's worse? Seeing each other and scratching at the scabs or never meeting again?
Oh and btw, You're a fine lot. Thanks

Dude, your life 10 years ago was 10 years ago, its more than likely that you have changed and grown allot since then and living with someone for a great deal of time teaches you humility and patience that you didn't have before

After over a year i am about to cut contact with my ex even though its been a while it still hurts.

Don't have huge expectations or decide on anything yet, cause you will go through all sorts of things. hell, my ex proposed to me 4 months after she left my ass and moved over seas...

Let yourself be a mess and take your time to find your way, you will be sweet in time.

It might be an idea to have some space from her for a while, seeing and/or talking to her will confuse you and play on your mind a bit. I told my ex to leave me alone for 2 months, it helped me allot.

[mister.koz]

go sleep with her sister...seriously

lol don't burn bridges, lay charges and vaporize it eh?

[SARGE]

lol don't burn bridges, lay charges and vaporize it eh?

yea.. why waste time grieving and crying?... closure baby :...closure


i've been married 4 times ..



im startin to think its ME!

[Morepower]

Sorry to hear it , its a rough place to be . It will take time , more time than you think. the best advice I can give you is to get a life ( I mean that in a good way ), as hard as it will be sometimes. Do things that you enjoy even when you don't feel up to it. Visit friends . Set yourself small goals , try new things . If you have the cash buy some new clothes . There is no reason that you should not stay in contact but don't chase her or stalk her.
It will get easier , time is your friend.

Take care of yourself , exercise , eat properly .

Dave

[mashman]

Sorry to hear of the break, but if it ain't workin it's damn near impossible to fix, not saying that it can't be fixed, but it's always something that could be thrown in your face further down the line... took me almost 2 years to work that one out... first proper love and all, 6 years we went and the last 2 where close to hell.

Advice, ha ha... We're all different. I sought solice down the pub with my mates, ney, friends... Pretty much HTFU was there advice (in a takeaway kinda way ). There's never a better time to try something new, extended holiday, move town, fuck knows... and my cliche for the day would be "the world is now your oyster"

Good luck man

[Hans]

I am now totally out of bling for the next 24 hours. Damn.

[SARGE]

I am now totally out of bling for the next 24 hours. Damn.

you can owe me..


oh .. by the way..


is she tidy???

[Hans]

you can owe me..


oh .. by the way..


is she tidy???

Very. Very tidy by Czech standards. That answer it? Upshot is we can now both dream

[Blackshear]

Hey mate, I'm just a kipper, so no help here.
Just stay sharp and don't do anything silly, like bed every sheila in town.
Get your feet firmly on the ground before you get around to your head.
Establish the basic needs, etc.

Wish you the best of luck mate, chin up.

[Hans]

Chin is up. Just another fine example of useless hope in the face of adversity :-)

[sinfull]

Not having anything to do is the worst thing. So if you get short of things to do and wanna go out for a drink or something, I'll come out with you and annoy you.

And by drink I don't mean get drunk. I probably should have substituted that for 'socialise'

I was gonna say +1 but i gave up drinking (in moderation)

The sort of takeaway that gives you the clap?
Looks like you folks might give me a better view of humanity then I've ever had.
Some of you are saying "find out what you are by yourself". The problem is I remember what I was by myself... I sure hope I've changed since then. I think she might have been my only hope for salvation...Here's to hoping that I can now save myself.
We learned a lot from each other while we were together. I don't think we'll ever be able to "hate" each other or not get on. That just makes it worse I guess. I'll seriously have to consider moving so I don't ever see her again. What's worse? Seeing each other and scratching at the scabs or never meeting again?
Oh and btw, You're a fine lot. Thanks

Why move ? You said your still getting on ? Your posts are degrading from the one where you said you won't cry on here Hans !!!
Give it a week or 3 and get in touch if ya like mate (not into my shoulder gettin wet)
One bit of advice i'd give is don't show her (or any on here) that yr grieving !
Life goes on ! She'll respect ya for it (and not that it matters a fuck, but so will I)
Our social club is having a bit of a gathering on labour weekend sunday which your welcome to come along to !
I will be attending any trackdays i can (which your welcome to come along to)
We have a poker run soon, which your welcome to come along to !
There are truckloads of events happening this summer, which your welcome to go along to !
Life goes on bro and suddenly it looks brighter huh ?

yea.. why waste time grieving and crying?... closure baby :...closure


i've been married 4 times ..



im startin to think its ME!

Your not alone Sarge ! Marrage should be a 7 yr contract which you can walk away from !
Some make it through the 7 yr itch and last till 14 and they may or may not make it through that one !
Others try to keep it alive till perhaps 10 or 11 yrs and then realise it aint what they want, so move on and wish they had quit it at 7 yrs
others get out while the goings good at 6.5 !!!!!

My moto is love to love ya babe, catch ya l8tr !