Ring?

[Squiggles]

Jeez, I hope the purpose of this thread isn't to indirectly tell your partner you what you want... They will probably end up reading this.

I thought it was a prompt too

Hanne, i want a 6 pack of tui for xmas.

[Devil]

Speaking of single ladies...

[Okey Dokey]

When me and Mr OD decided we would marry, he said "If you want a ring, go and get one." I did. Nice and simple.

[alley cat]

Do you want the ring or the wedding? after 11 years i put my foot down and asked for a ring, just because i wanted one really. It put the family off our tails thinking we were kinda engadged. Dont plan to marry. Dont really see the point.

[Skyryder]

So many think that the commitment is 'only' to the partner. While he/she is the one that it's made to their are other factors in a marrage ceromony that tend to be forgotten.


But when ya got daughter's it's pretty important for the man whose shagging her to stand up in public and say 'there'll be no one else.

Still each to their own and if either or both for any reason.....it's a no no...........


Skyryder

[LBD]

She says......18 months...2 years tops.

[imdying]

Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?

By that I mean, weddings are expensive, no man into bikes is looking to spend ten thousand dollars or more on something other than a bike!

Tell him you're happy with the ring, a visit to the registry, and a week on a beach... the rest is just fluff for other people to enjoy.

[HenryDorsetCase]

25 years and counting of unmarried bliss here.

[duckonin]

Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?

By that I mean, weddings are expensive, no man into bikes is looking to spend ten thousand dollars or more on something other than a bike!

Tell him you're happy with the ring, a visit to the registry, and a week on a beach... the rest is just fluff for other people to enjoy.

This from the biggest fucken jerk on Kiwibiker

[Trudes]

Why buy the cow when you get the milk for free?

By that I mean, weddings are expensive, no man into bikes is looking to spend ten thousand dollars or more on something other than a bike!

Tell him you're happy with the ring, a visit to the registry, and a week on a beach... the rest is just fluff for other people to enjoy.

I agree actually.
Weddings are expensive and they generally are "fluff for other people to enjoy", I hardly remember our wedding day, was too busy making sure everyone else was having a good time. Wasn't a particularly expensive wedding as that's not our thing, but the costs still add up, and we both agree if we could do it over we'd piss off to Vegas, have 'Elvis' marry us and spend a shit load of money having fun instead.
At the end of the day, the wedding isn't the important part, it's the marriage and the commitment that is put into it that is the important bit.

[imdying]

we both agree if we could do it over we'd piss off to Vegas, have 'Elvis' marry us and spend a shit load of money having fun instead

Heh, amazing how many people feel that way

If the OP was younger (oooer, treading carefully there!) then a regular wedding might be just the ticket, but after 13 years together I'm guessing that you and your partner have already had some doozy knees ups with your mates yeah?

I know it sounds like I'm all about the money, and TBH I wouldn't change the wedding I had, but if I had married later in life after 13 years together, I'd rather be taking a big swipe at the mortgage instead (ok ok, I mean 'get another bike').

But in answer to the original question, from a guys perspective... after 13 years, no, I would not expect a ring, unless you ask for it. The status quo is always comfy, not like a man to change that without prompting.

[Slyer]

I agree actually.
Weddings are expensive and they generally are "fluff for other people to enjoy", I hardly remember our wedding day, was too busy making sure everyone else was having a good time. Wasn't a particularly expensive wedding as that's not our thing, but the costs still add up, and we both agree if we could do it over we'd piss off to Vegas, have 'Elvis' marry us and spend a shit load of money having fun instead.
At the end of the day, the wedding isn't the important part, it's the marriage and the commitment that is put into it that is the important bit.

If only the other 90% of women thought like you.

[Stirts]

I'd rather be taking a big swipe at the mortgage instead (ok ok, I mean 'get another bike').

Most certainly agree ..... with the 'get another bike' part. Fuck paying the mortgage, there is no instant gratification in that!!

I would not expect a ring, unless you ask for it.

That's what I did. I knew what I wanted, and I asked. Got a "spose so" and now I have a ring on my finger.

[Trudes]

If only the other 90% of women thought like you.

There are probably many women who think like this...... pity is, most of them are probably already married.... or bogans. (cause we're all about the booze and the good times!)

[oldrider]

Interesting question. My answer is no. If I had been in a relationship of 13 years and I was still hanging out for a ring then there is no deep communication happening, and I would have been long gone.

I lived with my lovely man for many years. We of course had talked about the future for us,we agreed it was a long term relationship. We talked of marraige too. But it was not what we were about right now. I was unconcerned about our future, we had already made the commitment to each other by our words.

Then one day he asked me to marry him. Down on one knee, in public. I was completely blown away! We were married 4 months later. Best decision I have ever made. That aside, I would not have drifted along without a commitment. We had made our promises to each other long before we actually gathered our friends around us, made a public promise to one another and signed a bit of paper.

Hey, if you feel the need to test the waters again, give me a bell but please hurry, I'm running out of time!