Counting down...

[ducatilover]

LOL!!! I married a fiery scottish lass! You wouldn't believe it to see her now, but we had some pretty volatile moments!

Red-heads can be gorgeous as well, though...

So if I continue with the current lovely fire headed lass she will become more bearable?
Shit, she better not read this. I do love my testicular capacity

[hellokitty]

Yup! Don't know why, maybe because of my accident and subsequent operation, but this year seems extra special.

After 33 years and now in our 50's, I am blessed with a wife who is, if anything, hotter now than ever, and who loves me more now than ever, too. We've brought up 3 great kids to adulthood and seen them married. We've got a cherished grandson, now 4 and we're comfortable and happy together.

I've lost 16 kg since the accident and everyone is complimenting me on how good I'm looking these days! My wife is my best friend and we are inseperable.

We've been through a lot in the last 33 years, I've nearly died 5 times; I very nearly lost both my wife and youngest daughter when she was born in 1984. Like every family, we've had tragedy and trials along with success and fun. It's been a roller-coaster ride and at times it was touch and go for us, but through it all, we've never stopped loving each other and today I have no regrets that the sweet young thing I spotted across a crowded room in 1975 became my wife two years later.

We have both grown up and changed a lot and most importantly have grown together. Our family is very close and I have so much to be thankful for!

Each morning I wake up beside a gorgeous blonde who rolls over and gves me a cuddle and a smile. Often during the night as she sleeps, I'll just lie there and watch her. Her relaxed face is beautiful in the soft light of the bedside clock and to feel her soft, smooth body against mine is surely paradise on Earth.

I recall on our 18th wedding anniversary telling her over our romantic dinner, that all I ever wanted was someone to love me, and I marvel that I have found such a beautiful lady who loves me and accepts me for who I am.

I'm spoiled for sure! After 33 years, romance is alive and well in the Bear house!

Thats lovely! I hope she reads that, and perhaps you can give my husband lessons about being romantic.......

[Edbear]

So if I continue with the current lovely fire headed lass she will become more bearable?
Shit, she better not read this. I do love my testicular capacity

The first twenty years are the hardest, then it starts getting easier...

[ducatilover]

The first twenty years are the hardest, then it starts getting easier...

Cool, 19 to go. Walk in the park.

[Edbear]

Cool, 19 to go. Walk in the park.

Yup! It'll fly by!

The two subjects most argued over in marriage are sex and money and the reason is a lack of communication. It takes a long time to work out your wife's "language" and understand what she is saying. Women rarely tell the truth and it takes discernment to read between the lines and figure out what she really means and wants.

If you can control your feelings and not react to her based on what she says and how she says it, but you can remain calm and ask the right questions you'll get to the bottom of what is bothering her. Often women, (and a few men for that matter), are not good at expressing themselves, especially when they are emotional and upset. A good husband is always calm and kind, not paying back hurt. Easier said than done, but if you can restrain yourself and try to be encouraging and kind, you will win her respect and trust.

You're both new at this, and you need time to prove to each other that you can be relied upon and trusted, that your word is true and that your love is more than lust. "And they lived happily ever after!" is a fairy tale but the rewards of being loving, forgiving and every day showing her you love her are immeasurable!

[Maha]

The first twenty years are the hardest, then it starts getting easier...

I was ment to get married Labour weekend first time round, but we had to bring it forward to Queens Birthday, reason being.....first daughter was born in November of that year, she will be 21 this year.

[ducatilover]

Yup! It'll fly by!

The two subjects most argued over in marriage are sex and money and the reason is a lack of communication. It takes a long time to work out your wife's "language" and understand what she is saying. Women rarely tell the truth and it takes discernment to read between the lines and figure out what she really means and wants.

If you can control your feelings and not react to her based on what she says and how she says it, but you can remain calm and ask the right questions you'll get to the bottom of what is bothering her. Often women, (and a few men for that matter), are not good at expressing themselves, especially when they are emotional and upset. A good husband is always calm and kind, not paying back hurt. Easier said than done, but if you can restrain yourself and try to be encouraging and kind, you will win her respect and trust.

You're both new at this, and you need time to prove to each other that you can be relied upon and trusted, that your word is true and that your love is more than lust. "And they lived happily ever after!" is a fairy tale but the rewards of being loving, forgiving and every day showing her you love her are immeasurable!

Bugger that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Edbear]

Thats lovely! I hope she reads that, and perhaps you can give my husband lessons about being romantic.......

LOL!!! My other nickname is Snotex...

I was ment to get married Labour weekend first time round, but we had to bring it forward to Queens Birthday, reason being.....first daughter was born in November of that year, she will be 21 this year.

Is she the dancer?

Bugger that!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh, and one other thing, plenty of sex...

[Daffyd]

You're a very lucky man. Today is my 44th anniversary, but 'her indoors' walked out 6 years ago, (just days before out 38th.) You are so right about the communication thing... that was one of our problems, but I think the main one was side effects of the prescription drugs she was on for blood pressure. (They played with her mind and made her imagine all sorts of weird things about me.)

Of course, we all know when one door closes another one opens; so now I have my bike Through it all we are still good friends, prolly moreso than when we were married.

[Edbear]

You're a very lucky man. Today is my 44th anniversary, but 'her indoors' walked out 6 years ago, (just days before out 38th.) You are so right about the communication thing... that was one of our problems, but I think the main one was side effects of the prescription drugs she was on for blood pressure. (They played with her mind and made her imagine all sorts of weird things about me.)

Of course, we all know when one door closes another one opens; so now I have my bike Through it all we are still good friends, prolly moreso than when we were married.

I am a very lucky man, I know it's not all to my credit, it takes two and my wife has put up with a lot as well. We have both changed hugely over the years and learned a lot about communication. Especially does it touch your heart when you see your loved one trying hard to change the things about herself that she recognises needs changing.

Medications do play a role in our lives, probably more so than we think and if someone is on medication, and especially anti-depressants, they need some slack, some recognition that what they say and feel is a symptom and not a character flaw. I learned to bite my tongue and let things slide, not to react, but exercise patience, knowing that the emotions would settle and rational thinking return in a short while. Reacting with anger, only worsens the situation.

Especially, too, are heart problems difficult to deal with as they definitely affect the emotions and can make one irrational and irritable. If a person is having palpitations, or suffers an irregular heart-beat, or has an actual heart attack, it means being considerate of the persons emotions which are badly affected. It also makes them tire quickly and can contribute to depression.

There were times when I, and I guess my wife too, threw up our hands and said, "This is hopeless, we're not going to survive this crisis! It's over!" But somehow we stuck it out, neither of us would leave the children and deep down we genuinely loved each other, it was just that we were totally exasperated with each other! I'm sure this goes for most marriages, however now we are at a stage where we simply do not argue about anything. We listen to each other, laugh at each other's foibles, don't worry about stuff that is not life-threatening and have decided that life is far to precious and fragile to waste on angst and stress.

Besides, I'd much rather make love than war, she's still a hottie!

[davebullet]

Hee hee! 33 years ago tomorrow, I did something that has stuck with me until today. At the time, there were a few who thought I'd made a bad decision and predicted failure within the year...

You're not coming out of the closet are you? Sex change maybe?

[davebullet]

Ok - so now the truth is out....

Get out those candles, dim the lights, let the chanpagne flow and....

[hellokitty]

Oh, and one other thing, plenty of sex...

always cheers me up if I am sad or tired or whatever..... suitable for any mood and occasion really
my husband says "happy wife, happy life" and good sex helps

[hellokitty]

I am a very lucky man, I know it's not all to my credit, it takes two and my wife has put up with a lot as well. We have both changed hugely over the years and learned a lot about communication. Especially does it touch your heart when you see your loved one trying hard to change the things about herself that she recognises needs changing.

Medications do play a role in our lives, probably more so than we think and if someone is on medication, and especially anti-depressants, they need some slack, some recognition that what they say and feel is a symptom and not a character flaw. I learned to bite my tongue and let things slide, not to react, but exercise patience, knowing that the emotions would settle and rational thinking return in a short while. Reacting with anger, only worsens the situation.

Especially, too, are heart problems difficult to deal with as they definitely affect the emotions and can make one irrational and irritable. If a person is having palpitations, or suffers an irregular heart-beat, or has an actual heart attack, it means being considerate of the persons emotions which are badly affected. It also makes them tire quickly and can contribute to depression.

There were times when I, and I guess my wife too, threw up our hands and said, "This is hopeless, we're not going to survive this crisis! It's over!" But somehow we stuck it out, neither of us would leave the children and deep down we genuinely loved each other, it was just that we were totally exasperated with each other! I'm sure this goes for most marriages, however now we are at a stage where we simply do not argue about anything. We listen to each other, laugh at each other's foibles, don't worry about stuff that is not life-threatening and have decided that life is far to precious and fragile to waste on angst and stress.

Besides, I'd much rather make love than war, she's still a hottie!

watch out for contraceptives! I went on the depo provera contraceptive injection as I couldn't take the pill - I went from being a happy person to being a complete nutcase, crying all the time and being really depressed.

Full credit to my husband (boyfriend at the time) he coped really well and proved he was there to stay through good and bad.

[Edbear]

Ok - so now the truth is out....

Get out those candles, dim the lights, let the chanpagne flow and....

We did go out to a very nice restaurant for dinner, called the Suwan Thai. Lovely food, lovely staff and they gave us a voucher as a gift. Went with our son and eldest daughter and son-in-law and grandson. A nice evening!