Shitty rock and a hard place

[Ronin]

Hard one indeed. Were it me... I would be the 'better' person. If you get on with the mother and you want to be in the child's life then do it. Whatever your family do is their choice and any problem they have is also their own.

[HenryDorsetCase]

you did well... my politness is nowhere near that nice in this situation!

Its a long complicated story why my aunt & cousin are being like this... all at the fault of them-selves. The mother is the innocent party in this, and her only fault is loving my tosser of a cousin. Which I tried to tell her months ago, but love is deaf (and dumb) and this is where it has ended up.

I want more-so to be in this baby's life then to back down to my familys whims of selfishness. Just can't seem to wrap my head around not having family here...

answered your own question. And family? fuck them. From my perspective, I have a brother I havent spoken to in over 20 years, and likely never will again, and the other brother I email all the time (mostly smutty jokes but whatever) and talk to and generally get on with. If your family cant or wont accept your decision then fuck them.

[Ronin]

Hard one indeed. Were it me... I would be the 'better' person. If you get on with the mother and you want to be in the child's life then do it. Whatever your family do is their choice and any problem they have is also their own.

Oh, and kick your cousin in the nuts for me next time you see him will you?

[placidfemme]

Is the mother ok with you wanting to hang out with the baby?

Yup she even cried when I asked if that was ok and said she thought she would never hear from me again. She is happy as with me being there

[placidfemme]

Did I bum him? Didn't I meat ya Aunty?

oh you poor bastard you have had the misfortune of meeting them both havnt you... I would pay for your counselling but it would cost too much cause of your pre-existing issues

[HenryDorsetCase]

Yup she even cried when I asked if that was ok and said she thought she would never hear from me again. She is happy as with me being there

there you go. polish up that halo you're doing the right thing.

WWOP means worthless without pictures. basically me being crass. (Who'd have thought?)

[imdying]

my cousin knocked up his girlfriend... found out she was knocked up and dumped her

My cousin and his immediate family, which happen to be my only family in NZ want nothing to do with the mother or the baby.

So I want to be a part of this kids life, but if I do I will effectivley be taking sides and my family will cut me out like they are cutting her out.

What you reckon?

No loss.... fuck em. David Bain will have tips on how to deal with a family that are cunts.

[Ferkletastic]

nthing your cousin needing a smack up the brakett.

Be an awesome Aunty. I'm an awesome Uncle and it's pretty great.

[yungatart]

You know what to do Tammy. Sometimes family ain't worth a flying fuck...your little niece or nephew needs to know that their paternal family aren't all losers....

[Scuba_Steve]

Yup she even cried when I asked if that was ok and said she thought she would never hear from me again. She is happy as with me being there

Then do it . But 1st fix your cousin

[Indiana_Jones]

So when are the pictures coming?

I need some new stuff for the wank bank...

-Indy

[placidfemme]

lol Indy I think your wank bank keeps declining due to insufficent funds

Got plenty of pics of her from my last holiday in Tauranga, but ain't putting them up here

Thanks all you've made me feel better (and right) in my choice! I will have a cute new little family member and loose two big shits in the trade!

[racefactory]

Hang on I thought Christians didn't have anything to do with cock until after popping the ring?

[mashman]

Do your parents ask you who they can be friends with? irrespective of wether you'll like them or not? Tis your life to do with what you wish.

[george formby]

Be truthful, stick to your guns & do what is truly right. Stuff the people who do not have the balls to act that way. They will drag you down.
I grew a set of clangers in broadly similar circumstances & my future improved immeasurably as a consequence.

The view is pretty good from the moral high ground with an easy conscience.