Ex's partner

[ManDownUnder]

The right way will prevail. I have got this far after 2 years and not been beaten down yet.

and 2 years of patience is a lot to lose on one throw of the dice.. no matter how good it would feel (and let's face it... it WOULD be nice!)

[avgas]

The right way will prevail. I have got this far after 2 years and not been beaten down yet.

Yeh that is true - misfortune will crash like a house of cards when their time comes.
Also everyday you see your daughter - we only live for so many days so right now they are removing the days they don't get to see her.
I still wish that i could control lightning so i could make a few people i know the .4% of death related to lightning.
Thankfully i know all ready that some are heading down that track as i speak.

[inlinefour]

Well Police Action 1 seems to have vanished so to continue the saga.

Ring up Rehab Services for update on repairs to wheelchair. Yep should be fixed Friday so ask them to deliver to my house as I have Nats.

Ask ex for the battery charger which was not dropped off last night. No answer so left a message.

Get a call this am from Technician. Got a problem he says.....I knew it was not about wheelchair repairs...ex's partner has called us this am and told us to deliver ther wheelchair on Monday......remember it will be fixed Friday and obviously Nats needs her powered wheelchair........geeze.

Anyway they agree to deliver to my place. Problem is I don't have battery charge and if I ask for it I alert cave man to facts......Technician says we can make sure wheelchair is charged for you when we deliver.....bit more discussion and they have located a charger that is surplus to requirements...excellent.

After dropping Nats of at Kindy, go home to collect bike to go to work.....guess who drives past? If you knew my road, it is pretty obvious he was checking on me as he knows my movements with Kindy etc...so I do a quick recky around the block and he is no where to be seen so obviously he was not doing a job near me was he.

What a selfish git....his name is xxxxxx xxxxxx and he owns xxxxxxx...anyone know him?.....sorry don't care about naming him.

Anyway, looked up on internet....discovered I can issue my own written warning under Trespass Act so have delivered to him and will fax copy to Takapuna Police tomorrow..stuff 'im.

Apart from this I had a wonderful day.

My ex-wife played our son against me many years ago. Funny thing is that it was not until several years after we had seperated, but not until she had found out that I was with another woman that the ex started to go ferral. She tried a different tact, by attempting to take me through court, at a rather large cost to me to try to remove my right to see my son. Now after several months and thousands of dollars, two days before it was all due to goto court, she withdrew it all. Leaving me quite possibly with a stomach ulcer and much lighter in the pocket. The funniest thing though is that now my boy is starting to see things more the way that they are and now that I've parted company with Coaster after breaking my back, low and behold the ex is wanting to get chummy again? Dunno about the rest of you, but my memory is a tad better than that. How does that apply to you Grahameeboy? Just like it has to me, it will go full cycle and you will also reep the rewards. There was plenty a day and night that I spent banging my head against the wall wondering why. Its a matter of wading though the B/S and getting out on the other side. The truth will allways prevail and the liars will eventually be seen for exactly what they are, arseholes.

[Grahameeboy]

My ex-wife played our son against me many years ago. Funny thing is that it was not until several years after we had seperated, but not until she had found out that I was with another woman that the ex started to go ferral. She tried a different tact, by attempting to take me through court, at a rather large cost to me to try to remove my right to see my son. Now after several months and thousands of dollars, two days before it was all due to goto court, she withdrew it all. Leaving me quite possibly with a stomach ulcer and much lighter in the pocket. The funniest thing though is that now my boy is starting to see things more the way that they are and now that I've parted company with Coaster after breaking my back, low and behold the ex is wanting to get chummy again? Dunno about the rest of you, but my memory is a tad better than that. How does that apply to you Grahameeboy? Just like it has to me, it will go full cycle and you will also reep the rewards. There was plenty a day and night that I spent banging my head against the wall wondering why. Its a matter of wading though the B/S and getting out on the other side. The truth will allways prevail and the liars will eventually be seen for exactly what they are, arseholes.

Ex just does not share Nats issues with me whereas I do and she just is not interested. She has manipulated appointments eg cancelled them without telling me.

Since moving in with new partner, things have got worse. Nats is not allowed to take a toy there etc.....new Partner has started to create as you can see and conflict has arisen because they don't want certain equipment because I just happened to receive it..he is just insecure.

I have tried to tell Kate that our differences have to be put aside for Nats.....I have not resentment because she wanted another child who was 'Normal' (almost impossible for us) and thought an affair was greener..it wasn't. We only have conflict due to Nats special circumstances which require a joint effort.

Today I called her several times as I took Nats to Dr's. She texted late pm me asking me to text her. I said "No" we need to talk..she called, I told her..and she asked me why I could not have text her and I just told her that we needed to talk about these things..........in a grumpy voice "can I talk to Nats"...she did her usual fishing to make sure she was in Stander etc.

Obviously recent events with cave man have pissed her off......tough I say, I have to do what I have to do and it is not me instigating, I am simply participating....I just cannot turn the other cheek.....

I do have a girlfriend......shock horror, gayboy has a girlfriend.....but Kate does not know as she knows her and really it is not her business...my folks don't know cause my Dad is a racist and she is London born Nigerian and it is not worth the grief..it is my life..sad but that is the way it is.

I am not perfect, however, ex is not doing what is right and her partner is just digging a whole for himself cause he thinks he can bully me.......he doesn't know me so does not realise that Nats comes first and she deserves a Dad who fights these battles so nothing he can do will change me and despite my demeanor, if he ever hurt Nats (and even Kate) he would know what bikers represent............he likes lawns so he is simply sowing the seeds of his destiny right now.

[Patrick]

Don't be afraid about texting and keeping a record of them. Its what we did over our tenant problem and it has been an absolutely awesome "weapon."

If she is being unreasonable it will show in the texts. If he is butting in and abusing you via text too, there is a record... Note the time and date and the text content, and then your "calm and reasoned" response...

It is hard to understand why she is doing all this (Cancelling appointments etc) and if you keep a record...

What you do with this record is of course up to you, but if she is being deliberately irresponsible or just plain nasty, I know what I would do, whether or not she went through the traumas you have had with Nats...

Good luck.

[Grahameeboy]

Don't be afraid about texting and keeping a record of them. Its what we did over our tenant problem and it has been an absolutely awesome "weapon."

If she is being unreasonable it will show in the texts. If he is butting in and abusing you via text too, there is a record... Note the time and date and the text content, and then your "calm and reasoned" response...

It is hard to understand why she is doing all this (Cancelling appointments etc) and if you keep a record...

What you do with this record is of course up to you, but if she is being deliberately irresponsible or just plain nasty, I know what I would do, whether or not she went through the traumas you have had with Nats...

Good luck.

I have kept his original texts that lead to first Police report just decided that he needed to be told.

Ex, agree if she will not talk then at least I have texts. Just trying to get dialogue going and would rather not have to get evidence if that makes sense.

Partner is main worry which is why I have taken action.

I have never sworn etc at him. Worse I said he was being selfish a while back.

He is a bugger, the backup chair folds in for easy storage and after he had it it doesn't so he must have done something to it........geeze.

But I have the powered chair back despite his attempts to divert this.

Ah well all good fun and off to Motat to take Miss Speedy later.

[Patrick]

Ah well all good fun and off to Motat to take Miss Speedy later.

And isn't that what it is all about? Sunny days up your parts? ENJOY!!!!

[Scouse]

Have you stopped to think for one moment that maybee you have contributed to the situation your self by being your self I have noticed since being on KB you seem to have a habit of rubbing people up the wrong way and when people point this out to you, you start claiming to be hollier than thou.

[Rhino]

Have you stopped to think for one moment that maybee you have contributed to the situation your self by being your self I have noticed since being on KB you seem to have a habit of rubbing people up the wrong way and when people point this out to you, you start claiming to be hollier than thou.

If you have ever met Graham, you will know that he is a very pleasant and honest guy, who absolutely dotes on Nats.

Hang in there Graham. As others have said, play it by the rules and make sure you have good solid evidence if any Family Court/Police intervention is required.

[007XX]

Have you stopped to think for one moment that maybee you have contributed to the situation your self by being your self I have noticed since being on KB you seem to have a habit of rubbing people up the wrong way and when people point this out to you, you start claiming to be hollier than thou.

Well...if that was meant as a stirring, for once, I'll take the bait...

a) do you know Graham personally?
b) since when is KB in any way demonstrating what kind of parent we are?

The little I do know of Grahameeboy is that he is a very caring father, dedicated to making things work for Nats...and yes, a stirrer on line, but a funny one.

Talking about rubbing people the wrong way, I once misunderstood what Grahameeboy posted back to me, and after I PM'd him to clarify, he was more than happy to tell me he'd just been pulling my chain...

Now, if you got offended by something he said, don't take it out on him in this thread...this is about him, and his daughter struggling...and any help or advice we can give him to assist with the situation...

And you're not helping...

[BIGBOSSMAN]

Was nice to meet you today at Mt Eden M/C Graham, see you out on the road, eh!

[Colapop]

Chin up G. I help if you want me to - I'll bring my own chicken...

[Scouse]

If you have ever met Graham, you will know that he is a very pleasant and honest guy, who absolutely dotes on Nats.

Hang in there Graham. As others have said, play it by the rules and make sure you have good solid evidence if any Family Court/Police intervention is required.

Yes I have met graham in real life and I am able to conferm that he is in real life as big a nob end as he is online

Well...if that was meant as a stirring, for once, I'll take the bait...

a) do you know Graham personally?

Well er I have been on bike rides with graham more than once or twice

b) since when is KB in any way demonstrating what kind of parent we are?

Oh did I say it was?

The little I do know of Grahameeboy is that he is a very caring father, dedicated to making things work for Nats...and yes, a stirrer on line, but a funny one.

Exactly the little you do know

Talking about rubbing people the wrong way, I once misunderstood what Grahameeboy posted back to me, and after I PM'd him to clarify, he was more than happy to tell me he'd just been pulling my chain...

Now, if you got offended by something he said, don't take it out on him in this thread...this is about him, and his daughter struggling...and any help or advice we can give him to assist with the situation...

And you're not helping...

Funny that a lot of the time his posts don't help so "quid pro quo"

[Winston001]

Have you stopped to think for one moment that maybee you have contributed to the situation your self by being your self I have noticed since being on KB you seem to have a habit of rubbing people up the wrong way and when people point this out to you, you start claiming to be hollier than thou.

I'd red rep but would rather say my piece in public. No-one is perfect but a person like Graham who loves and cherishes his disabled daughter is pretty high on my list of admirable people.

[ynot slow]

Never met grahame but for what it's worth,after splitting and if you have kids they are all that matters,what sort of dad would he be if he DIDN'T care for his daughter,my hats off to him,most would have spat the dummy and bollocked the ex new guy,and /or the ex,shit we have enough knuckle dragging morons in this world who DON'T fucken care about their kids,put them in dryers,clothes lines and smash the shit out of them,all most kids want is LOVE,unforteunately their parents can't fathom that out,yet said parents manage to get pregnant.