Nothing wrong with being someone who sees and wishes to find a deeper meaning to sex.
Once you find someone that you are actually comfortable with and that you trust, then it will become a whole lot easier to accept certain boundaries pushed a bit...
Just make sure you don't judge everyone else based on your view, which is in turn based on doubtful sources. Trust me, sex is meant to be fun, healthy and liberated. What limitations you give yourself does not make those that don't have them sick or twisted people. It just makes them different.
In my view, as fun as porn is to watch, it is a very poor source of information and really mislead a lot of people who watch it partly in the hope of gaining useful information...
And as far as over thinking things...so what? you think these things through, and as long as you're happy with the result, then that's all that matters!
There you go again being obscure...Less is more in my books!
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