Threesomes

**007XX** · 28th November 2007, 10:41

Originally Posted by jrandom

Hmm, I'm very dubious on that one. Smells like bullshit to me. The kind of bullshit that a selfish man would brainwash a woman with as a way of acting out his fantasies. It's the kind of line you'd hear from a woman when she was the lower rung in a ladder disparity relationship.

I'd say that only the least committed relationships would handle sharing. What I know for sure is, the closer I am to a partner, the less inclined I'd ever be to share her with another guy.

It's got nothing to do with security or insecurity, it's a simple instinct that I have no intention of denying or suppressing. My woman is my woman. End of story.

Maybe the female mind is a very different thing, and you girlies wouldn't mind seeing the man you love sticking his dick in another woman. I dunno. I can't see it happening, to be honest.

Given the generally greater fluidity of feminine sexuality, I'd say that the FFM where the man only focuses on one woman is both the most likely and the psychologically healthiest form of threesome.

All just theorising on my part, of course.

Once again, what makes it right or wrong for you doesn't mean it is a law onto itself...

You and I have had a similar debates in the past...what bothers me with your approach is that it always seems to revolve around what is right is the way you think, and if it is not that way, then it must be wrong...

Now, as much as I think of you as a hell of a nice guy, I do believe you need to open your mind a little more and give room for other people's wway of thinking. I'm not saying adopt it as your own, just don't be quite so judgemental (eg: highlighted text).

**jrandom** · 28th November 2007, 10:52

Originally Posted by 007XX

Now, as much as I think of you as a hell of a nice guy, I do believe you need to open your mind a little more and give room for other people's wway of thinking. I'm not saying adopt it as your own, just don't be quite so judgemental (eg: highlighted text).

I did hesitate before posting, knowing it'd spur this reaction from you. But I'm nothing if not a stirrer...

I'm not offering judgement, heaven forbid. Rather, I'm expressing my own feelings, and calling for comment and input from others. Everyone's different.

I take it you're saying that, in the right context, watching 007XY bone another woman would be fine by you? Well, cool, lucky him.

You shouldn't need to feel defensive when I express my instincts and opinions about subjects, you know. I'm very receptive to robust refutation, and as I stated in the text you highlighted, when it comes to what women think, I dunno.

So, enlighten me!

**007XX** · 28th November 2007, 11:11

Originally Posted by jrandom

I did hesitate before posting, knowing it'd spur this reaction from you. But I'm nothing if not a stirrer...

I'm not offering judgement, heaven forbid. Rather, I'm expressing my own feelings, and calling for comment and input from others. Everyone's different.

I take it you're saying that, in the right context, watching 007XY bone another woman would be fine by you? Well, cool, lucky him.

You shouldn't need to feel defensive when I express my instincts and opinions about subjects, you know. I'm very receptive to robust refutation, and as I stated in the text you highlighted, when it comes to what women think, I dunno.

So, enlighten me!

:d

Gawd...it's so hard to explain properly what I mean via posts...My reaction was not meant to make you feel like I was telling you off.

I guess what i was trying to say is: everytime I have read a post of yours on a similarly touchy subject, it has come across as judgemental and fairly aggressive.

And I am not feeling defensive for myself, but more for the concept of open mindedness that needs to be applied on such sensitive subjects...I get angry when someone says something to the effect of: "if you don't think my way, then you have got to be sick in the head".

Itr is one thing expressing your opinion, it is another categorising everything else as unacceptable.
"...and you girlies wouldn't mind seeing the man you love sticking his dick in another woman", is not to me stating your opinion, but if it is, it is poorly formulated, and comes across as offensive... No woman in love with her man would want to see this. However, if you had said:

"Could a woman possibly find it a turn on to see her partner having intercourse with another woman"

Then, that is a question inviting feedback. Just trying to explain the difference, that's all.

**TerminalAddict** · 28th November 2007, 11:18

do you two need a room?

**MSTRS:Me** · 28th November 2007, 11:24

Originally Posted by TerminalAddict

do you two need a room?

With suitably-tiered seating for the audience?
*will watch developments with keen interest*

**Stickchick** · 28th November 2007, 11:28

007XX, I am not coming to the defensive of Dan here and he is capable of fighting his won battles but I do believe that you are only taken a part of what he said and therefore it comes across as offensive. His whole comment as you highlighted above came across as an opinion, if you read the whole thing rather than the part you just took out.

**Krusti** · 28th November 2007, 11:31

You get a bit sick of them after a while. One person at a time thinking I am a God is enough for me these days......

**DMNTD:Me** · 28th November 2007, 11:32

So then....who's for a game of tag?

**007XX** · 28th November 2007, 11:32

Originally Posted by TerminalAddict

do you two need a room?

I'm already in my own little padded room...

Originally Posted by MSTRS

With suitably-tiered seating for the audience?
*will watch developments with keen interest*

Nope, I've said my peace...no more of that!

Now, who else has done the triple humpback whale????

**MSTRS:Me** · 28th November 2007, 11:36

Originally Posted by 007XX

Nope, I've said my peace...no more of that!

Now, who else has done the triple humpback whale????

So, you are saying you have? But you're not going to tittilate us with the juicy details? *skulks away to sulk*

**skelstar** · 28th November 2007, 11:37

Triple humpback whh...?!?! .... oh myyyy...

**007XX** · 28th November 2007, 11:40

Originally Posted by Hitcher

There are several occasions that Mrs H and I have shared a ride.

Originally Posted by Robignevil

Another 3some true story...

That was like a 5some

Originally Posted by Lias

I've done a MMF threesome when i was in my teens.. Was alright but not something I'd be all that keen to repeat.

Originally Posted by MSTRS

So, you are saying you have? But you're not going to tittilate us with the juicy details? *skulks away to sulk*

Aaaaaaahh, wouldn't you like to know ?!? Dear, a woman has to keep some secrets to herself....the above posts were those I was hoping to find other tales to add to...Feel free to join anytime!

:innoncent:

**Trudes** · 28th November 2007, 11:43

Hey you're all invited to the weekly orgy at our house (ok, only some of you, eh V)

I have nothing else to contribute, thanks.

**007XX** · 28th November 2007, 11:45

007XX, I am not coming to the defensive of Dan here

Yes you are...but it's ok. You wouldn't care about him unless you did.

and he is capable of fighting his own battles

Oh trust me, I know that! He is a very smart young man, and normally has a very tactful approach to most things. That tact is lacking in this instance, hence me voicing my disapproval. And this is one out of a few other situations, so there is a prelude to my comment.

but I do believe that you are only taken a part of what he said and therefore it comes across as offensive. His whole comment as you highlighted above came across as an opinion, if you read the whole thing rather than the part you just took out.

That is the way you read it, and that is fine. Allow me my opinion though, and as you said, Dan is perfectly able to prove me wrong, should he choose to do so.