Social conditioning

[Number One]

social conditioning says I should not have a mullet, but I have a baby mullet....fuck social conditioning...

Ahhhhh but would you dare to do a Joe Dirt mullet if you wanted to?!

[jrandom]

What I'm talking about is where the conditioning/social expectations or excepted norms call for or urge you to respond/react/behave in a way that (while may be considered the 'socially acceptable’ or high EQ way) contradicts your own compass and instincts.

So, um.

Is this all about being offensive when you can't be arsed tiptoeing around people?

I can do that.

Edit: Hey, why don't you put a picture of yourself in your profile for a change?

[scumdog]

Ahhhhh but would you dare to do a Joe Dirt mullet if you wanted to?!

I do a 'porn' moustache and don't give a fat rats arse.

Oooh, what a rebel eh???

[Bren]

Ahhhhh but would you dare to do a Joe Dirt mullet if you wanted to?!

maybe not that extreme....but a Billy Ray Cyrus one....maybe!

[Number One]

So, um.

Is this all about being offensive when you can't be arsed tiptoeing around people?

hell no I have no problem with that! Fark mastered that one long ago

Think along the lines of when you consciously choose to behave or react in a way that is not in your best interests.

For example - and I want a better example than this but I'm struggling at the moment between bloody snotty sneezing fits!

When working at a small burger joint as a Polytech student I was prepping salads at the start of the shift, on my own. Guy came to the door (big glass windows) knocked on it and professed to be there to check the extractor system. Now being a stroppy and untrusting kinda person I asked him to show me ID and as he couldn't produce any I then explained that I would ring the store manager to confirm that this visit was 'authorised' at which point the guy turned on his heal and never came back.

Now my instinct was telling me, this doesn't add up, I am on my own and no no no, however he got really toey with me (before leaving) and ranted about just trying to do his job, how I should just open the door so we could discuss it and there was this nagging part of me that felt quite rude about not opening the door and only talking to him through the glass.

Now a younger and less stroppy girl may have let the guy in....despite that feeling of hang on this could be dodgy and I am at risk here...do ya get me now?!

[Number One]

Edit: Hey, why don't you put a picture of yourself in your profile for a change?

Why don't you put a picture of yourself in yours?

My friends know what I look like Poor bastards

[avgas]

It really depends on if it is Timotei or VO5.
none of that cheap stuff

[Number One]

I do a 'porn' moustache and don't give a fat rats arse.

Oooh, what a rebel eh???

Pornstache is kewl! So is the trucker...my mans hotness factor went through the roof when he was sporting his

[chanceyy]

I'm me, if you don't like who I am then that's your problem, not mine.

Basically, I live my life the way I want, generally I do what I want to, and providing my choices and actions are not having a negative impact on someone else's life, then it's all good (well, you know, to a degree, the truly analytical could come and argue that by my riding my 2 stroke bucket around and around for an hour is hurting us all by its polluting emitions.... blah blah blah).
But I think I know what you're on about,... how much should you change your inner-self to conform with what society thinks you should act or think like, and this in turn effects what people think of you and hence how you get treated?? (Is that what this is about??)
Well, like we were discussing not long ago #1, I actually prefer to spend time on my own and would be happy to be just left alone, however I have to work and there I have to be happy cheerful Mrs Kendog who cares about everyone and their little dramas. I believe also that I'm perceived by most people completely differently than I think I really am, and only those closest to me actually really know who and what I am really like. I often get asked what's wrong with me or people think I'm moody, however, that day I may have just chosen to not bother putting on the show and they saw the real me.... again, if you don't like it, bugger off!!
, fuck, that was deep!!!
As you all were folks (Wrote an assignment today, still in ramble mode!)

hmm must say I am with you there Mrs KD .. never been a sheep and prefer it that way.

[jrandom]

Why don't you put a picture of yourself in yours?

I've had plenty of pictures of me in mine. Got a picture of my bike in there at the moment, which is a lot prettier and more interesting to the general audience.

My friends know what I look like

And by implication, I am not your friend?

Fair call.

[Ocean1]

How to override conditioning, especially in situations where you are not even aware that it's 'just conditioning' urging you to make a certain choice or decision.

Grow up.

Children can’t discriminate between internal and external behavioural pressures. They don't know which behaviours produce positive long term returns yet either.

An adult recognises that some behaviours are consistent with a persona they can respect. That’s not to say they necessarily construct a persona against which they can measure their performance, just that they are sufficiently self actualised to recognise external influences for what they are and remain internally consistent.

You don’t meet many adults on any given day.

[Gubb]

Agree with jrandom on social engineering being pretty much social skills.

I'm fairly straight forward, call a spade a spade. Sometimes it gets me into trouble for being honest, other times it's the only way to go.

A lot of the time it seems socially unacceptable to tell the truth either.

And why isn't it OK to Burp and Fart in hilarious places, like elevators? It's a perfectly normal function. It's Social Engineering gone mad I tells ya!

[Number One]

I've had plenty of pictures of me in mine. Got a picture of my bike in there at the moment, which is a lot prettier and more interesting to the general audience.



And by implication, I am not your friend?

Fair call.

I do not see you on that select list in my profile no AND yeah my boys and Pammy are must prettier and more interesting to the general audience than a pic of my ugly mug

[jrandom]

my boys and Pammy are must prettier and more interesting to the general audience than a pic of my ugly mug

I don't wanna see your ugly mug. Just your tits under leathers would do. Str8 Jacket has the right idea.

[Number One]

An adult recognises that some behaviours are consistent with a persona they can respect. That’s not to say they necessarily construct a persona against which they can measure their performance, just that they are sufficiently self actualised to recognise external influences for what they are and remain internally consistent.

You don’t meet many adults on any given day.

You sir get the 2nd Yoda Award for the day