Ahhhh, anti-biking mother

**ScarFace** · 21st June 2009, 20:19

Hey Guys,

Im 19 and Im currently living in Hamilton, I have been saving up for ages after me and my mate decided to buy motorcycles, he bought his about a month ago (91 FZR) which has made me even more keen to by one myself. But whenever I bring up the topic of my buying a motorcycle to my mum (yes I live at home) shes goes all over-protective mother on me and shouts no repeatedly. She is pretty determined that I wll crash, burst into flames and die as soon as my hand touches a bike.

So im opening up the forums for you guys to help me, how can I convince her it will be alrite without her turing into the T-Rex from Jurassic park and ripping off my head?

How would/did you guys handle this situation?

ScarFace.

**James Deuce** · 21st June 2009, 20:22

You can't.

The only thing you can do is get a real job, leave home, buy a bike and live with the consequences.

There isn't any middle ground.

The only way you can convince her that you're serious is to do the above, buy ALL THE GEAR (budget between $1 and $2,000 for gear alone) do a couple of courses with RRRS and the apologise every single time you see her.

**James Deuce** · 21st June 2009, 20:23

You don't need to make multiple posts about it. We get it that you want EVERYONE to answer, but there are no magic solutions.

**98tls** · 21st June 2009, 20:29

When i was 19 i probably wouldnt have taken any notice of her ranting and gone ahead anyway,but looking back that wouldnt have been the smartest move.Possibly sit her down and go through the motions of having a discussion about it,i guess at the end of the day she loves ya and is just doing what moms do when they love there son..look out for them.Is there an older experianced biker that you know?If so maybe he could be there as well.I wish you luck,above all when it gets frustrating remember shes only looking out for you in the only way she knows how.Moms are good though at times frustrating.

**frogamic** · 21st June 2009, 20:31

My mum was like this too, I think after I'd been going on about it for a while and chosen a nice slow bike to buy she decided she may as well give up lol

**PirateJafa** · 21st June 2009, 20:33

Buy a bike. THEN tell her, once it's lovingly nestled in the garage.

**The Pastor** · 21st June 2009, 20:35

Originally Posted by PirateJafa

Buy a bike. THEN tell her, once it's lovingly nestled in the garage.

its what i did, parents dont listen to reason.

**chrispy121** · 21st June 2009, 20:40

buy it and store it at your mates place thats what I did

**Indiana_Jones** · 21st June 2009, 20:40

A few people I know seemed to have this problem.

One of them just brought a bike and hid it at his mate's place lol

I was fortunate to have a father who had biked and he shoved me onto a bike before I knew what was happening after I mentioned I fnacy giving it a go lol.

Afterwards he got himself his 1st bike in about 20 years

-Indy

**16silver** · 21st June 2009, 20:42

simple, move out like i did, my mum wouldn't let me buy a car so i said i'm getting a bike or a car, she said ur not buying that damned car, so i brought a bike to piss her off and got kicked out because of it, i'm much better off now because i get along with her much better and like living with flatmates

**chrispy121** · 21st June 2009, 20:46

dude your 19 legally you can do what you want buy the bike if she kicks you out you and your new bike can sleep in a tent with your exhaust pipe for a heater

**Winston001** · 21st June 2009, 20:51

And please - take it easy. Riding a motorcycle is deceptively simple. The exuberance of youth makes you go faster and lets you think you are good.....until one day some idiot turns in front of you, or you hit a patch of oil......

Mum's right. Unfortunately for her. Her fears are rational. So get your bike, take it easy - for your family's sake. You'll have fun. And as James says, do some RSSS courses.

**jtzzr** · 21st June 2009, 20:51

It`s alot easier to ask for forgiveness ,than it is to ask for permission.

**Ixion** · 21st June 2009, 20:53

Why do you think your mother is wrong? An awful lot of motorcyclists do end up in a pine box. It's a dangerous pasttime and statistically the odds are you'll die.

**98tls** · 21st June 2009, 20:56

Originally Posted by Ixion

Why do you think your mother is wrong? An awful lot of motorcyclists do end up in a pine box. It's a dangerous pasttime and statistically the odds are you'll die.

Yep true,maybe he should tell her hes taking up smoking instead.