Advice please?

**Keystone19** · 6th September 2005, 09:40

Dear Mr K informed me last night that he doesn't want me riding a bike. It's too dangerous, I will get killed and I should be more responsible.

Any of you people out there have trouble with partners with ideas like these?

Is there a good way to approach this?

I don't want to give up riding...

**crashe** · 6th September 2005, 09:44

Shit Keystone.... not good to hear..

Then why did he buy you the bike in the first place..?

Talk to him..... tell him that even walking across the road can be dangerous...
That other weekend when you running, kayating and mountain biking is just as dangerous... you could have fallen off your bike and cracked your head...
are you going to give that away as well... I dont think so.

Keep riding cos that is what you love to do...
If you give it all away then you won't be a happy gal....
Does he want a sad gal moping around.... I don't think so....

I havent seen you ride danderously... you may ride fast but safe.

Just living is dangerous...

**bugjuice** · 6th September 2005, 09:45

I use the old - 'you could get hit by a bus tomorrow, would you still get out of bed? life's too short to worry..' routine.. of which it is.

I had immense pressure from my family when Postie hit the deck and broke his leg. But it's something I love to do, and no amount of determination from people will stop me from doing what I love. Hate to say it, but if he loves you for who you are, then he has to respect the fact that you enjoy your two wheels. Tell him this - could he put up with you when you're feeling really moody, cos a good weekend is there, and you can't go for a few hours on the bike? You'd surely drive him mad! And he can't have that now, can he? That's what I was told, when I was thinking about selling up. No one would be able to put up with my moods!

**Keystone19** · 6th September 2005, 09:46

Originally Posted by crashe

Then why did he buy you the bike in the first place..?

I bought the bike...

**crashe** · 6th September 2005, 09:50

Wasn't it him just a short time ago... wanting to go and buy you a brand new and bigger bike when you sat your Full License?

You were even looking at a few bikes... cos of this.

**GR81** · 6th September 2005, 09:53

i told the missus where the door was when she started harping on about dangerous bikes etc

she hasnt said anything since

**Keystone19** · 6th September 2005, 09:53

Originally Posted by crashe

Wasn't it him just a short time ago... wanting to go and buy you a brand new and bigger bike when you sat your Full License?

You were even looking at a few bikes... cos of this.

Yeah, he did seem a little more positive a couple of weeks back. I know he has always worried, I guess the idea that I am actually going to get a bigger bike and keep riding might have triggered this off. I think he thought this was a passing phase...

**crashe** · 6th September 2005, 09:58

Can you get him interested in riding a bike at all....
Maybe that will help... then you can both go out riding..together...

BUT don't you give up riding...

If it comes down to it... you can store your bike in my garage and come over here to get it to go for a ride.

**Zed** · 6th September 2005, 10:02

Originally Posted by Keystone19

Dear Mr K informed me last night that he doesn't want me riding a bike. It's too dangerous, I will get killed and I should be more responsible.

Any of you people out there have trouble with partners with ideas like these?

Is there a good way to approach this?

I don't want to give up riding...

You and Gordon should work this out privately Jill, he's a good guy. Sorry to hear it!

**The Stranger:Me** · 6th September 2005, 10:07

Just say the word and he's gone.

No seriously, from what I know you are doing everything right. I know you have done the BRONZ course and are going the Pass Rite route for your license. You are participating here (Kiwi Biker) and at track days and can not help but learn from the excellent people and wealth of experience around you.

I did the same (no track day yet though) and use that to emphasise that I am doing the learning so as I know how to ride safely.
I piont out that I have no death wish so do try hard to learn and be safe, but I would rather live than be alive.

**MSTRS:Me** · 6th September 2005, 10:10

Originally Posted by Keystone19

I think he thought this was a passing phase...

It is.....one of those ones that takes a *while* to pass. Stick to your guns. Better still, convince HimInDoors to get his own bike & join you.

**Keystone19** · 6th September 2005, 10:17

Originally Posted by Zed

You and Gordon should work this out privately Jill, he's a good guy. Sorry to hear it!

Yeah, we will. Just thought that there might be some good ideas on how to approach this.

**Zed** · 6th September 2005, 10:20

Originally Posted by CaN

I did the same (no track day yet though) and use that to emphasise that I am doing the learning so as I know how to ride safely.
I piont out that I have no death wish so do try hard to learn and be safe, but I would rather live than be alive.

I trust also that riding behind your 250cc acquaintance has held you back somewhat? I look forward to the time you come out alone to see how learned you have become!

**Zed** · 6th September 2005, 10:21

Originally Posted by Keystone19

Yeah, we will. Just thought that there might be some good ideas on how to approach this.

Hehe, just imagine if Mr K was a secret KBer?

**Keystone19** · 6th September 2005, 10:22

Originally Posted by Zed

I trust also that riding behind your 250cc acquaintance has held you back somewhat? I look forward to the time you come out alone to see how learned you have become!

Wait until we get his 250cc acquaintance on a sports bike. I get the feeling she may be leaving him behind...

Oi, stop hijacking my thread...