Should yummy mummies ride?

**White trash** · 7th January 2008, 19:36

Originally Posted by Kickaha

I don't think there's any probably about it

Originally Posted by DEATH_INC.

Waddaya mean 'probably'?

edit: Oops he ^^^^ said that orreddy

That's fucken it! I'm bustin' out Guido on both yo asses soon!

**White trash** · 7th January 2008, 19:53

Originally Posted by Riff Raff

because I won't know how I'll feel until after my baby is born.

"Your" baby? Wonder what the dad has to say about that.

Who is he?

**mstriumph** · 8th January 2008, 13:22

Originally Posted by jrandom

This thread reminds me of this thread, from four years ago.

ohh - i do so miss Zed .......

**buellbabe** · 9th January 2008, 11:34

Originally Posted by Chanak

Riding is not irresponsible, riding irresponsibly is. In my opinion, keep riding... responsibly.

Totally agree.

Lots of really good points made in this thread. Personally I am of the opinion that shit happens and knowing that is not gonna stop me from doing the adrenaline-rushing things I enjoy but it does stop me being a total idiot...ok those of you who know can just shut the hell up now!

On a slightly different note. A good friend who died last year was always into dirtbikes. His wife (also a really old friend) gave their 10yr old (or is he 11? can’t remember) son an 80cc dirtbike for Xmas. Now this was something she and hubby talked about and agreed on before he died...I fully support this and so do most of her male friends. However,her other female friends are horrified! They have given her a REALLY hard time about it. And whats really making me angry is that they are harassing the kid as well.

Bloody rude in my opinion.

**Number One** · 9th January 2008, 11:46

Originally Posted by buellbabe

However,her other female friends are horrified! They have given her a REALLY hard time about it. And whats really making me angry is that they are harassing the kid as well.

Bloody rude in my opinion.

You are right - that sucks and how disrespectful to the dad, her and the kids...some people have no bloody clue! Good on her for honouring her and her mans decisions even in death. Good woman.

**vifferman** · 9th January 2008, 14:30

Originally Posted by madandy

Uncle Helen thinks I'm important enough not to grant us any financial assistance and my partner gets less from her 'maternity leave allownace' each week than she was paying in tax every damn week while still at work.

That comment reminded me of summat my GP said. He is (or was) an obstetrician (and delivered our two oldest boys), but he said he doesn't practice obstetrics any more as the Labour Gummint has made it impossible. Sounds like it's a heavily biased and sexist policy that favours midwives over obstetricians. While I'm bleating (meeeehhhh!), he's also finding it very difficult making a living being a GP. If he didn't love his job, he would've quit, because he sure isn't making big money out of it.

**Maha** · 9th January 2008, 14:59

Originally Posted by jrandom

This thread reminds me of this thread, from four years ago.

Question is....would God look good in leathers?
I think he would be of a Goldwing kinda dude so tassles would be part of the equation too...

**Mumbles** · 9th January 2008, 19:51

Live in the now, think positive and nothing should go wrong.
If my wife wanted to get her license for a bike I'd say no only cause she dosen't have the hand eye coordination to be safe on the road.

Ride Ride Ride.

**Bikernereid** · 9th January 2008, 20:04

As someone who has lost a father and nearly lost a mother I can say they are both important. So both dads and mum should ride as much or as little as they want to. At the end of the day I learnt from my parents what was safe and what wasn;t and I am really pleased that my parents didn't wrap themselves or me ion bubble wrap as I God alone know what type of wuss I would be today.

As long as you are riding with your wits about you and with remembering that every other person on the road is a dick head you can't go too wrong!! You really sound as if you have you head screwed on the right way so good luck to you and happy riding.

Originally Posted by Number One

Struggling a little with this myself. Gave up my bike when I got pregnant and am on the long road to getting another as I do miss the freedom and well just doing it heaps and feel it is time to reclaim some of 'my pre-mummy self' of which biking was a big part - it was also how hubby and I really connected and used to enjoy ourselves...so thinking about it for my marrage too as he still rides and I'd like to be able to again share that with him - and lets face it being on the back is ok for a while but ya just want to own those handlebars!

Find it interesting to see the mixed views and can't help but feel my heckles raise at the suggestion that it's ok for dads but not mums....WTF?! Kids need their daddies as much as their mummies and hey mummies need daddies too!!!!!

Anyway - Things are looking good for me to have my own 2 wheels in the garage some time in the next few months (bring it on!

) but all the while I am torn about the 'What if?' I would hate to think my riding a bike (even like the nana that I am) could cost me the opportunity to watch my handsome wee boy grow up (whether I love riding or not keeping in mind we have no control over all the other numskulls on the road) however I do also know that I must be happy and my boy should see me taking calculated risks and not being afraid of life...Life lived in fear is a life half lived and all that.

Anyway I am not yet ready to give up for good, so guess I will just be mindful at all times to ride slowly and defensively and keep reminding myself that I AM invisible and EVERY bastard is out to kill me!

Posted this a while ago in Biker Angels to get thoughts from the ladies on this issue: http://www.kiwibiker.co.nz/forums/sh...ad.php?t=60710

**duckonin** · 9th January 2008, 20:15

You only live once so while you are doing it you have got to do what you want to do, I say go for it and in time your kids will grow with firm recreational values, way better for them to see you out riding your bike, than teaching them to lay about on the couch...

Stay with your bike and enjoy your life to the MAX!!!

**Richard Mc F** · 9th January 2008, 20:18

Can't give the answer but I can give one perspective, in the oh fuck mortgage and young children stage we flagged away bikes, they are teenagers...we are back ! actuall could not give a fuck about the house but the boys....don't even ask if ya have to ya don't understrand

**Cleve** · 10th January 2008, 17:00

A complicated area (and I am not alone in thinking this looking at the various responses on the thread). It is a personal decision that each individual must make. My wife decided to give up riding (at least until kids are older) and I decided to revive my very old desire to return to racing. Occasionally I have pillioned her, but I do sometimes have doubts about that.
As for Yummy Mummys. I would say yes, do it, as you would consider and do anything you do once you have your own children, based on how it is for you AND how it is for them.

**BALZY BUELL** · 10th January 2008, 22:34

Originally Posted by Jim2

Dads are not required in NZ society. Mums are. It is infinitely more easy for a Solo Mum to negotiate life than a Solo Dad.

I'm sorry but i had too giggle at your comment, My mum was and still is a dead beat mum, If it wasen't for me my dad i wouldn't be the chick i am today, WAY TO GO SOLO DADS!!!!! (balzy buell's missess)

**karla** · 11th January 2008, 08:50

Originally Posted by BALZY BUELL

I'm sorry but i had too giggle at your comment, My mum was and still is a dead beat mum, If it wasen't for me my dad i wouldn't be the chick i am today, WAY TO GO SOLO DADS!!!!! (balzy buell's missess)

I wouldn't be here without my dad either - he raised my brother and I from ages 7 and 9. Granted, I wouldn't be here without my mother either, and I spent many years not valuing her. I understand now that she did the best that she could given her struggle with alcoholism. But it was my father who stepped up to the plate at the end of the day, and who will always have my love, admiration and respect.

Society doesn't value fathers, and it's sad. Men (and the occasional wman) are often treated like walking wallets, rather than being valued for the time and wisdom they can give. A natural reaction to hearing that men aren't "good enough" is that is that men will walk away, and often women get left on their own. Feminism taught us all that "girls can do anything", so men of my generation are not so quick to step up and take the world on their shoulders the way that my father did.

I'm greatful that I live in a society that has valued and supported me to bring up my sons when I needed it, but that is a two-edged knife. When men are given the message that they aren't needed because the govt will provide, they will leave and go where they do feel needed. But a government will never give our children time or love, and kids need this as much as they do the material things.

I acknowledged and fought actively for men's rights for many years, and I see that the tide turning now. A lot of women - like yourself - support our fathers, brothers and sons, as men once supported women and feminism. Often men are too busy or scared to speak out about the discrimination they experience, and I think that they need to be given the space and even encouraged to do this.

I am growing old, and the fire in the belly is less strong now - I have even come to feel peace with the way that things are. Neither men's rights nor feminism were about equality as far as I can see, so somewhere inbetween we need to find a field where we can meet as one.

Seems to me that that time and place will come ~ whoever knows

I hope to keep on riding til it does!