Dilemma

[Sniper]

Hey Guys and Girls and those that do both on friday nights. I have a question and I need advice. Usually I would go to parents for advice on this, but as I only have one and MissSnipers folks want to kill each other (makes planning a wedding interesting, trust me), I have to come to the next place where there is mostly usually on occasion sometimes great advice from some folks I do consider good friends even though I have never met them and they may sit behind a screen and sweat lots while proclaiming to look like Beckham (different story)

Went up to Blenheim this weekend to shoot stuff and spend time with MissSnipers (T) folks. I get along really well with her dad and stepmum which is backed up by the fact of that he hasn't shot me as of yet (he has had ample oppertunity) and the other night (after a bit [a bottle or two] of whiskey and other stuff, he was offering me sex tips which made me less than comfortable but was still a good laugh. Anyway....

T has a half degree (not finished yet) in massage therapy which can take her places. The thing is, she realised half way through the course that it wasnt her and is now looking for something different. I on the other hand have 7th form and a couple of very minor qualifications under my belt which wont c arry any weight when I want to do other stuff. I also have A+ and Network+ quals, but they dont prove much. Never cared much for school and although they told me I was a bright kid (lies I tell you) I never really managed to apply myself and get good marks even though I did well and came 6th in the country for agriculture But that doesnt prove much. Growing up, I always wanted to do a variety of jobs, top 3 being, 1. Joining the army (done), 2. Be a herpetologist (snakes and other reptiles) or 3. Do nature conservation. (No Im not a tree hugging hippie). T's main ambitions are to work with people although she doesnt know how exactly.

There is a Trainee Ranger course for DOC that I can do in Nelson that lasts a year (22hrs a week, 2 17 week semesters with a 3 months working stint in the middle) and afterwards I have a gaurenteed (sp) position anywhere in the South Island from a friend of Ts dad that I chatted to. T and I have decided that it would be a fantastic oppertunity to go ahead and try and see if its me as well as getting a qualification in something I enjoy. After looking, there are courses that T could do as well if she wanted to try out different avenues and see what job she enjoys most. Great thing is, most of them are free for her. Heres the crunch part which is a big decision for us..

T's folks live on a farm in Blenheim. On the farm there is a fully contained cottage. They have offered us the cottage RENT FREE for as long as we need it. All we need to do is cover the basic of expenses and our own groceries of course. We would be completely separate to her folks and could come and go as we please. They offered this solution because they saw how much we are struggeling to save for a wedding and our own home as well as the fact of neither of us ever being able to study and have a ticket to our name if we decide to move on. The cottage is there for us completely rent free until we have saved and had our wedding and even until we have saved and bought our own house (if we do). They have not given us a time frame and are happy for us to live there until we are qualified and have had our wedding (2.5years away now)

Im just after what some of you would do in this situation. T and I spent the past couple of days talking about it and deciding on if we move (based on if I can talk to the course coordinater about a couple of things). The great thing is, we will be saving $12000 a year from the word go because our rent is $250 per week. We will also be saving more on top as our expenses and grocery bills will go down. Only cons we can see if me having to travel backwards and forwards to Nelson 3 or 4 days a week and living close to her folks.

There will be hunting, fishing, duckshooting, tramping and my school chums on my doorstep. There will be very little expenses and we will be able to give T the wedding she has dreamed of because we could save more.

I would need to travel and therefore need to invest in another vehicle and I would have to leave a secure job, There is nothing holding us in CHCH as we have few friends (they are from Blenheim anyway) and I don't really enjoy my job as much as I used to and have been looking to move to a different job for a while.

So what should we do? Take the plunge and move to Blenheim and see if it works or stay in CHCH and carry on going as we are, plodding along, but never making headway, just being comfortable?

[Jantar]

"Find a job you enjoy doing, and you never have to work another day in your life"

This is a comment a wise man once made to me, and he is right. Work becomes fun and the job stisfaction is worth double the pay. If you enjoy the outdoors then take the opportunity now. It may not be there later.

[MSTRS:Me]

No dilemma there, young fella. In fact, the expression "No brainer" comes to mind.
Send Ms Sniper out to work, using her love of working with people and her massage skills. You can therefore become a kept man, and enjoy a life of leisure.
Just decide where you will do this and you're set.

[Maha]

I would need to travel and therefore need to invest in another vehicle and I would have to leave a secure job, There is nothing holding us in CHCH as we have few friends (they are from Blenheim anyway) and I don't really enjoy my job as much as I used to and have been looking to move to a different job for a while.

So what should we do? Take the plunge and move to Blenheim and see if it works or stay in CHCH and carry on going as we are, plodding along, but never making headway, just being comfortable?

You have answered your own question really Stu, its a no brainer from where i sit, and that would be on the Blenheim side of the fence....

[Colapop]

As the lads have said above. It's all in this sentence..

"Take the plunge and move to Blenheim and see if it works or stay in CHCH and carry on going as we are, plodding along, but never making headway, just being comfortable?"

You don't want to stay in Chch. You've said it yourself.

[Steam]

Yep, it's pretty clear.

Blenheim is a boring place though, great to retire to. But you're not looking for nightlife, and that Nelson course is only 1.25 hours away over the hill - a nice hill for motorcycling actually.

My two cents

[sAsLEX]

aint nothing wrong with the road between B and Nelson...... could always go via St Arnaud?


Sounds like the B option is an alright one

oh and Goats Don't Shave (neither do half the woman) is a great draw card for B, so is the Os mess down the road mind you.....

[MSTRS:Me]

*puts on serious hat*
Take the opportunity, mate. Life is full of these things, most of which we fail to reecognise at the time. You've said it yourself that you are both just marking time, yet wanting to go places. Little to lose, much to gain.

[James Deuce]

I don't think you need us to tell you what to do.

I go to work everyday. You have the opportunity to avoid that and I think you should do it.

[Sniper]

There is some great advice there, cheers guys. Nelson aint that far away really and 22 hours a week isnt that bad is it?

KB is really one great big happy family

[Korea]

Here's a good technique for anyone with a dillema:

Flip a coin
Choose heads or tails
if don't like the result then you know what you really want

Good luck with that

[Toaster]

You have answered your own question really Stu, its a no brainer from where i sit, and that would be on the Blenheim side of the fence....

I couldn't agree more. My advice is to give something new a go, otherwise you will always sit there wondering what it would have been like. Let's face it - you could always go back to CHCH.

Just don't shoot us if you don't like it!

[Smokin]

Just do it mate, It may just be a real turning point in your lives together.
Lifes a gamble, Throw caution to the wind.

Just coz your a greenie you can still kill stuff eh?

[Sniper]

Just coz your a greenie you can still kill stuff eh?

That wouldnt stop me. I think most DOC workers do pest control for fun too don't they

[yungatart]

When you are on your death bed, the regrets you will have will be to do with opportunities you didn't take and the things you didn't do.
Don't be left wondering.
Go to Blenheim.