Keep her or dump her?

[Mental Trousers]

You fall in love with a beautiful girl, totally head over heels, and everything about her is your dream. You have been with her for a couple of years.

You find out she used to be a fella

What would you do?

Answer this, if she were to bend over in front of you while naked would you throw up or bone up??

[Whynot]

Man 'her' surgeon has got to be something. Two years and you could not tell 'it' from the real thing. I'll vote that you stay more on the account that she has been honest. Could not have been an easy decision on her part, and no less easy on yours.

Skyryder

This is assuming he has actually been with a "real" girl previously

[Curious_AJ]

I'd stay with her personally.. if everythign about her is your dream, bar the sex change.. wat does it matter? you've found the perfect person for you reguardless!!!

[Whynot]

I'd stay with her personally.. if everythign about her is your dream, bar the sex change.. wat does it matter? you've found the perfect person for you reguardless!!!

exactly ...
looks and feels like a girl, acts and thinks like a guy.

[Toaster]

Do you want to have babies with her?

Damn good question.

[Curious_AJ]

haha, shit, i think you just described me there :O! ... according to most people i know anyways! hahahaha... hmmmmmmmmm,....

[Grahameeboy]

Given the interest in this subject some info


When the decision is made to go through with surgical options, a great deal of consideration must be used. After all, even though surgeons were able to do wonders for John Bobbitt (of Lorena Bobbitt fame), that was a matter of mere reattachment; when a man becomes a woman, doctors will completely reform the penis into a vaginal cavity. That's pretty tough to undo.

The first step in getting surgery is for you to have your case reviewed by both psychologists and medical doctors, who will in conjunction decide if you meet the desired criteria for the operation. These doctors will not only make the judgment about your psychological and emotional stability to go into the procedure, but if they clear you, they will also help you through your transition.

As defined by the now familiar Harry Benjamin International Gender Dysphoria Association's Standards of Care for Gender Identity Disorders, there are several criteria that every individual must satisfy in order to be eligible for the transitional surgery. These include:


Legal age of majority in the patient's nation (18 in the United States).


Twelve months of continuous hormonal therapy for those without a medical contraindication.


Twelve months of successful continuous full-time real life experience. Periods of returning to the original gender may indicate ambivalence about proceeding and should not be used to fulfill this criterion.


If required by the mental health professional, regular responsible participation in psychotherapy throughout the real life experience at a frequency determined by the mental health professional. Psychotherapy is not always required; only if the doctor feels that it is.


Demonstrable knowledge of the cost, required lengths of hospitalizations, likely complications, and post surgical rehabilitation requirements of various surgical approaches.


Awareness of several different competent surgeons. Hey, this is a time when you shouldn't hesitate in getting a second opinion.
As you can tell, you will have to rely quite a bit on your doctors. That's because the medical industry wants to make sure that you are as knowledgeable and mentally healthy as possible before you make any final decisions. The Association also includes what they refer to as "Readiness Criteria." These are much mushier and subjective evaluations by doctors, which include:


Demonstrable progress in consolidating the evolving gender identity.


Demonstrable progress in dealing with work, family, ad interpersonal issues resulting in a significantly better state of mental health (this implies an absence of problems such as sociopathy, substance abuse, psychosis, and suicidality, for instance).
If you jump through all these hoops, you'll finally be ready to face your potential surgery. Sexual reassignment surgery (SRS) is an expensive procedure that, for male to female transsexuals, is relatively successful. It can cost anywhere from $3,000 to $100,000 to get a sex change, none of which is covered under medical insurance. There are several parts to the surgery, which may any or all of the following: orchiectomy, penectomy, vaginoplasty, and augmentation mammoplasty.

A vaginoplasty involves the removal of the testes to create labia. It also involves the inversion of the penis to create a vagina -- this requires extensive surgery and many follow-up visits. The good news is that these newly constructed vaginas look amazingly like the real thing.

As for augmentation mammoplasty (that is, a boob job), it may be performed if the physician prescribing hormones, the surgeon, and the patient have all documented that after undergoing hormone treatment for two years, the patient is still not comfortable in his/her gender role.

Many male to female transsexuals also have cosmetic surgery to feminize their facial features and reduce the size of their Adam's apple. Other surgeries can include: suction-assisted lipoplasty of the waist, rhinoplasty, facial bone reduction, face-lift, and blephroplasty. It is important to remember, however, that most of these procedures are irreversible.

Some individuals choose to get some part but not all of the surgery, for financial or personal reasons. Hey, whatever floats your boat.

[Grahameeboy]

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[peasea]

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There's always a cost.......

[Mom]

I'm your friend???

*swoon*

oopsie... did I just say too much?

BITCH, you promised you wouldn't tell! lol

YOU!!!!! You said I was the only one.....

You guys want to go get a room????????

Seriously though, hypothetically of course, if Lee had this friend, that has a girl, that used to be a boy, that he loves and planned a future with, the fact that this boy, that used to be a girl, that has now admitted used to be a boy, is no different from the girl he used to think was a girl, even though she admits used to be a boy????? should not make a difference.....

OK I am confused, and I used heaps of commas so I could follow what I was saying.......

Good luck with it whoever has this problem

[oldrider]

Blimey! Nice boob job...Next forum: do men really go for silicone? Or are they happy with small, but real???

Forget about the Dangler, I ain't planning on getting one implanted...Although that could be fun!!! Always wondered what it was like.

Why be stuck with one! Being a girl you can have as many as you want, just shop around. John.

[007XX]

especially a North Shore gal................guess I'll be one soon!!!

mwahaha....Come my child! I'll show how to put your makeup on properly and how to avoid your suspenders from twirling into your butt crack! Trust me, it's an art only the initiated can master...

[007XX]

Why be stuck with one! Being a girl you can have as many as you want, just shop around. John.

Interchangeable appendages! The thought has got merit..

I'd say there aren't many that would fit my criterias though...And no, it's not all about size, but it helps if it's about 8 to 9 inches! as they say: You can't make butter with a toothpick!

And before anyone offers themselves galantly for a demonstration, bear in mind IT would be up for removal with sharp instruments if deemed suitable!

[ManDownUnder]

YOU!!!!! You said I was the only one.....

Yeah be careful with that... One at a time... or (more likely) one at THE time...

[savage rider]

REAL BLOODY QUICK TOO LMAO