My daughter got kicked in the ... between the legs. What to do?

[caseye]

How about getting the other boy (via his parents) to apologise to your daughter, and explain to your daughter why his actions were wrong and why he is sorry.

Simple, he won't be sorry and the parents don't KNOW how bad he is.
Action and fast, get him and your daughter seperated, preferably have him removed form the school.
Make sure your daughter knows she can always talk to you and your wife/partner.
One of my three girls got bullied at school for quite sometime before anyone knew what was happening.
When she told me I was very upset, but i spoke to all three of them and told them this.
if it happens again, go get your two sisters, find the little ( he was big) shit and beat the snot outa him in front of his mates, then I'd see them in the Principals office.
Family meetings , school intervention, nothing worked till I told them to do this, the principal hated that I'd done it but when that kid (11 yrs of age) found out what I'd told my girls, he backed off and was never a problem again.
Do not wait for the school or his parents , make something happen and stay on it till it becomes their bloody problem.

[kit]

Simple, he won't be sorry and the parents don't KNOW how bad he is.
Action and fast, get him and your daughter seperated, preferably have him removed form the school.
Make sure your daughter knows she can always talk to you and your wife/partner.
One of my three girls got bullied at school for quite sometime before anyone knew what was happening.
When she told me I was very upset, but i spoke to all three of them and told them this.
if it happens again, go get your two sisters, find the little ( he was big) shit and beat the snot outa him in front of his mates, then I'd see them in the Principals office.
Family meetings , school intervention, nothing worked till I told them to do this, the principal hated that I'd done it but when that kid (11 yrs of age) found out what I'd told my girls, he backed off and was never a problem again.
Do not wait for the school or his parents , make something happen and stay on it till it becomes their bloody problem.

Yes Get your daughter to bloody hit him back or some older friends to threaten him. My daughter got picked on by a boy too and i told her to make sure the teacher wasn't looking and deal to him. He left her alone after that! Some times the best way to beat a bully is to beat them at their own game of intimidation! Reporting it to the teachers is a waste of time, they can't monitor them everysecond. School is a harsh learning environment but if you can't learn to stick up for yourself here you will let people push you around for the rest of your life or untill you take charge and stand up for yourself and your rights!

[Lias]

A few years ago I had a young lad of about 12 knock one of my daughters (who was 10ish I think at the time)to the ground, put his his foot on her throat and wouldnt let her go until she said she was a slut.

I turned up at his house with a baseball bat and told his mother either she delt with him or I would, and if he _ever_ came near my daughter again I would leave her son drinking through a straw for the rest of his life.

I probably should have just shot the cunt because I suspect he'll grow up to be a serial killer omr something.

[Lissa]

Unfortunately you cant control how the boys parents parent their children, you also have no control over the boys behavior.

I dont condone violence but just heading around to their house and letting the parents know just HOW angry you are is one step. This is your daughter, if you cant protect her who can? You have every right to be angry, infact I feel alittle fucked off myself. All I know is if this happened to my daughter I would be making ALOT of noise, NO ONE respective of age is allowed to touch or hurt my children. This is your right.

If you cant get the boy kicked out of the school, maybe take your daughter out.

Edit/ infact if this little shit is old enough to hurt your daughter and not care, then have a 'word' to him, let the boy know what you think about his actions.

[imdying]

Tell your daughter to wait till the class is settled and quietly working, then assault him with a chair from behind. Tell her to make it worth her while, i.e. don't stop smashing him with the chair till they drag her off of him. The first strike will disorientate him, and he'll be trapped behind his desk. She should be able to inflict brain damage before the shock wear off any onlookers and they can make a move to restrain her. Oh, and make sure she screams, 'The next one to touch me gets it worse', so the rest of the kids in the class no exactly what happened and why.

Or you could nail gun him to the parents front door. That'd work too.

[puttaputt]

Stick with the Martial Arts. It takes a long time to learn. During training your daughter will be often thinking how to avoid or defend herself if that situation ever arises again. It might just save her life in the future.
As for the boy. If you really want to do something about him then encourage him to do MA as well. He will soon learn to respect others.

[geoffm]

Both my brother and I were bullied as kids and we started doing judo. Word got around and that was enough to keep things in check. Later on, I had another bully, I can't stand cricket but I carried a cricket bat... Problem solved

[sharky]

A child that lashes out with hitting requires only one thing in my eyes, patience & love... as they are frustrated and this is how they react...

What a load of 'PC' Bullshit!!!!!!

[tigertim20]

My daughter, who's eight, has been going to a "one day" school. Unfortunately this place is a fair way away so we've been ride sharing with another family - they take the kids there, we bring them home again. We've had some problems with their son being violent. He can be generally a pain in the arse at the best of times and I wrote (physically wrote) to his father following an incident where he chased her round the school and pulled her shirt off - there being enough sex predators in the world without training up any more.

Anyway, today she heads off to spend the afternoon with these people. Events transpire that there is a playstation and a game made as part of a digital media course. Mine asks theirs if she can have a go and shortly afterwards this lad spazzes his go and in the process of not dealing with his failure kicks my daughter in the twat. She comes home looking really kinda down, says that she's been hurt emotionally as well as physically and I call kids mum on the mobile to tell her to get her arse back here now. Which she does.

I explain. Get little boy to tell me where he kicked my daughter. Strangely he doesn't want to. Get my daughter to explain. Mother looks at me dumbly.

"YOUR SON KICKED MY DAUGHTER IN THE VAGINA. WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO ABOUT IT?"

She starts making excuses. Kids starts smirking. I tell her that I've had a massive sense of humour failure about the whole thing and she'll have to discuss the rest of it with my better half because shit is only going to get worse if I try to deal with it. I go in the garden and boot a football around. That was half an hour or so ago and I'm still absolutely fucking fuming.

I was going to ask .... I dunno. What would you guys do? Am I being completely unreasonable about this? Clearly we can't ride share any more. I'll give it 24 hours for them to do something about it before ... I dunno. Shit. SHIT.

I am BIOLOGICALLY WIRED to look after this little girl. What was I supposed to do?

Visitors have arrived. Gonna go try be pleasant.

Dave

after the temptation to go around and boot the kid right back in the nuts has passed...
write letters. to the parents, and to the school, every chance this kid bullies other children too. do what you can to keep your daughter away from the little shit.

if his parents decide they dont wanna do anything about it, and you wanna be a cunt, write to cyfs of your concerns too.

Id go outta my way to make every man woman and child that has reason to be near the kid, know about his behaviour. dont need any more kids getting bullied and booted around.

[Ratti]

We have a similar situation here. My daughter is a teeny little 9yo and a big, lazy 10yo bully in her class has given her shit ever since she started at the school. I crawled out of a marriage based on fear and abuses most folk wouldnt even know were possible, so I'm just a tiny bit protective of my sproggies.

Both kids really bright and have ended up in the gifted kids programme here. The boy is totally out of control, teachers, parents and other kids. As already mentioned, he's smart enough to try and get out of it..but guess what shit head, Im big, Im scary and I stood over him in front of the kids one morning and talked real loud and real definate about what I thought of his behaviour and what I would do to him if he ever tried it on my kid again. When he justified what he's done and believe me he tried, he got the 'BULLSHIT, I DONT BELIEVE YOU AND I WONT ACCEPT THAT CRAP, DONT FUCKEN DO IT AGAIN OR ELSE'...
Hes been mostly ok since then, my stroppy wee girl is more than capable of defending herself, and she does try bless her. It's really important that she knows I will stand up for her and to be able to watch me in action.
For all the pc folk here, let me add, this was not and is not my first choice of action, but FFS, sometimes one needs to have all the finesse and delicacy of a large blunt instrument to get the fekkin message home.

end of rant.

[Tink]

What a load of 'PC' Bullshit!!!!!!

mmmm ok thats your opinion, how do you handle kids?

[sharky]

I'm still learning, mine are just toddlers. But I'd be inclined to go along with some of the other suggestions made here...

[Winston001]

What a load of 'PC' Bullshit!!!!!!

I agree with Rocketgal who has made thoughtful posts here based on experience with children. At the core of every human being is a need to be loved. Some kids don't ever get that at home.

It's likely in this particular case that there is a personality disorder or some form of psychosis which can't be cured by hugs.

[puttaputt]

Reaction from frustration. Frustration from the lack of knowing how to respond.

[CookMySock]

There are two sides to "anger".

Firstly, those who act it out in an unacceptable fashion go to jail.

Secondly, anger is a secondary emotion and is usually preceeded by fear or hurt.

The first concept is the whole idea behind the justice system. Pretty much we have to have it, or else assholes who are inclined will simply ride roughshod etc etc ad nauseum.

The second concept has to be accepted and understood before anything positive can ever happen for the individual. Unfortunately, it's not the rest of societies' problem, leading us right back to the beginning.

Those who either have been put through the legal system, or those who have enough honesty to stop and look at themselves, be honest, and take stock, will usually be able to see where they and their feelings come from, and accept that they are a product of them and not some juggernaut dictated to by their emotional state.

Unfortunately, to many of them it's everyone elses' fault they feel so aggrieved, and not their own, so basically you can't do anything about what's not in your back yard.

You can't fix the world.

Steve