Kinky Much?

**GingerMidget** · 12th March 2012, 22:22

Originally Posted by oldrider

Life? ... Kinky? ... Reality?

First you are conditioned to become the person your parents want you to become, then you are conditioned to becoming the person that society expects you to become, then you start to become the person that you would like to be and finally (usually when it is too late) you realise who the person really is that you actually are!

That last person can be very scary to get to know and if you are married (or whatever the modern equivalent is) don't forget that your partner has got all that scary shit to work out too!

Getting to know the real one another and accepting each other "kinks" and all can make life very interesting!

Don't ever believe that old age is boring either, it is just a lot more painful swinging on the trapeze at 72 than it was at 21, that's all!

Some people spend their entire lives going round in circles, not knowing what they want, or where they want to go. I'm one of them at the moment. I'm not entirely sure where my life is going, and my only dream, went down the drain a few years ago with a MTB accident and a head injury. That, amongst other things, will prevent me ever being a police officer. Which really fricken sucks. Police were, and mostly still are my heroes.

As society changes, so do peoples expectations. I was raised roman catholic. My church told us we had to be married before sex, but it was also a young church if you could say that. There were some unwed mothers, but they were accepted as normal. I think thats when I realised things were different in my generation, as opposed to my grandmothers. She used to tell me stories, things weren't that different. But then they were polar opposites. There was still the sexual pressure, but then it was oral sex, now its anal sex and toys. Being mostly raised by my grandparents has given my an interesting outlook on life.

**Lelitu** · 13th March 2012, 06:19

Originally Posted by oldrider

Life? ... Kinky? ... Reality?

First you are conditioned to become the person your parents want you to become, then you are conditioned to becoming the person that society expects you to become, then you start to become the person that you would like to be and finally (usually when it is too late) you realise who the person really is that you actually are!

That last person can be very scary to get to know and if you are married (or whatever the modern equivalent is) don't forget that your partner has got all that scary shit to work out too!

Getting to know the real one another and accepting each other "kinks" and all can make life very interesting!

Don't ever believe that old age is boring either, it is just a lot more painful swinging on the trapeze at 72 than it was at 21, that's all!

yeah, that is very true
some of us start becoming our own person much younger than others
and it is fucking terrifying to face yourself, flaws and all, but very good for a person.
as to accepting kinks, that's not always possible to do. I say mine will scare people, based on experience.

as to old age being boring, I have no idea why you directed that post at me. I've never said anything to imply that...

Originally Posted by Newbi

Hahah thats awesome, I too have had the "anal" chat with a couple of friends and their all like eww, and i'm sitting there quietly, thinking get over ya self hahahah. Don't know why peeps have these hangups about sex and stuff. I love having converstions about it. I find it fascinating tbh lol

anal is kinky? that's news to me. really it is...
I knew it's lots of fun, but kinky?

**Paul in NZ** · 13th March 2012, 08:15

Kinky eh? As I get old(er) one thing that really makes me laugh is someone parading some kind of loud kink in front of society purely for the shock value. Wearing cheap 'kinky' tat from the pet shop or same sex kissing in public or masturbating your pet walrus on the bus just to upset the ‘citizens’ does not make you kinky or interesting. Just like wearing a denim cut off and removing the baffles from your HD does not make you a Hells Angel.

I mean think about it – there are thousands of heterosexual people out there that root like randy rabbits and can perform the first 100 positions in the karma sutra without having to show everyone on the train in the morning. Most ‘kink’ is just a sad little cry for attention.

I have on the other hand met a few genuinely kinky people with alarming habits that have spent a lifetime pursuing their little dream of perfection. Almost without fail you will have met these people at the PTA meeting or at the cinema and you wouldn’t have a clue. I have found (just like the add on TV) that the more ‘ordinary’ people are on the out side the wilder they are on the inside.

They just don’t feel the need to tell everyone about it….

**HenryDorsetCase** · 13th March 2012, 08:24

Originally Posted by Paul in NZ

and can perform the first 100 positions in the karma sutra without having to show everyone on the train in the morning. Most ‘kink’ is just a sad little cry for attention.
….

Today I learned that there are more than (wait for it) 69 sex positions.

I'd get bored with that and stop for a cup of tea after about ten minutes.....

**MSTRS:Me** · 13th March 2012, 08:40

Originally Posted by Lelitu

is why I'm reluctant to discuss most of my kinks in a public venue like this. it will upset people
and set off every white knight in NZ

But but but ... you need saving from yourself....the knights against kink (KAK) really do know what is best for you...
Besides, if you don't tell us (oops, I mean, them) all about what your kinks are, how can they know what they need to do to save you?

**swtfa** · 13th March 2012, 08:49

Wow another great read. I wish I could contribute in some way, but in my case it's - "Don't knock what you haven't tried"
Where the hell would I be without KB

**Newbi** · 13th March 2012, 08:52

Originally Posted by Paul in NZ

Kinky eh? As I get old(er) one thing that really makes me laugh is someone parading some kind of loud kink in front of society purely for the shock value. Wearing cheap 'kinky' tat from the pet shop or same sex kissing in public or masturbating your pet walrus on the bus just to upset the ‘citizens’ does not make you kinky or interesting. Just like wearing a denim cut off and removing the baffles from your HD does not make you a Hells Angel.

I mean think about it – there are thousands of heterosexual people out there that root like randy rabbits and can perform the first 100 positions in the karma sutra without having to show everyone on the train in the morning. Most ‘kink’ is just a sad little cry for attention.

I have on the other hand met a few genuinely kinky people with alarming habits that have spent a lifetime pursuing their little dream of perfection. Almost without fail you will have met these people at the PTA meeting or at the cinema and you wouldn’t have a clue. I have found (just like the add on TV) that the more ‘ordinary’ people are on the out side the wilder they are on the inside.

They just don’t feel the need to tell everyone about it….

No one, is parading anything actually, we are having an open conversation about it. It's a free world, if someone wants to talk about something their into then that's their perogitive. And if I want to wear pet supplies and masturbate my walrus on a bus, i'll bloody do it. If ya don't like it, then catch another bus

**Paul in NZ** · 13th March 2012, 09:05

Originally Posted by Newbi

No one, is parading anything actually, we are having an open conversation about it. It's a free world, if someone wants to talk about something their into then that's their perogitive. And if I want to wear pet supplies and masturbate my walrus on a bus, i'll bloody do it. If ya don't like it, then catch another bus

I think you are deliberately missing my point. Thats very naughty - go stand in the corner....

**HenryDorsetCase** · 13th March 2012, 09:06

Originally Posted by Newbi

No one, is parading anything actually, we are having an open conversation about it. It's a free world, if someone wants to talk about something their into then that's their perogitive. And if I want to wear pet supplies and masturbate my walrus on a bus, i'll bloody do it. If ya don't like it, then catch another bus

not strictly true. Pretty sure there are laws against bestiality (notwithstanding the technical difficulty of finding, training, and then getting a walrus on to a bus), and why should I have to put up with some munter doing something I find objectionable in a public place? Do what you want (pretty much) in the privacy of your own home, but I dont need or want to see that stuff.

I get the feeling that you're quite young (early 20's?) and this sort of thing is new and exciting for you: and good on you. But the social contract cuts both ways.

also, pics are still not loading for me.

**MSTRS:Me** · 13th March 2012, 09:09

Originally Posted by Paul in NZ

I think you are deliberately missing my point. Thats very naughty - go stand in the corner....

...and *someone* will be along along to administer the appropriate 'correction'...

**MSTRS:Me** · 13th March 2012, 09:13

The perennial problem...where to draw the line on what is acceptable...

**Lelitu** · 13th March 2012, 09:20

Originally Posted by Paul in NZ

Kinky eh? As I get old(er) one thing that really makes me laugh is someone parading some kind of loud kink in front of society purely for the shock value. Wearing cheap 'kinky' tat from the pet shop or same sex kissing in public or masturbating your pet walrus on the bus just to upset the ‘citizens’ does not make you kinky or interesting. Just like wearing a denim cut off and removing the baffles from your HD does not make you a Hells Angel.

I mean think about it – there are thousands of heterosexual people out there that root like randy rabbits and can perform the first 100 positions in the karma sutra without having to show everyone on the train in the morning. Most ‘kink’ is just a sad little cry for attention.

I have on the other hand met a few genuinely kinky people with alarming habits that have spent a lifetime pursuing their little dream of perfection. Almost without fail you will have met these people at the PTA meeting or at the cinema and you wouldn’t have a clue. I have found (just like the add on TV) that the more ‘ordinary’ people are on the out side the wilder they are on the inside.

They just don’t feel the need to tell everyone about it….

mmm, it can be purely for shock value, but not always
I've worn a collar in public, it's never been about shock, any more than a wedding ring would be.

while I do hide most of my kinks, I don't feel that I should have to lie about it to almost everyone I meet, any more than a heterosexual couple should have to lie about being together in public.
and I shouldn't have to cripple the chances of finding a compatible partner or partners. I'm lucky, I have met people that are compatible with me, and we're all very happy together.