Wife or the bike?

**munster** · 5th July 2012, 07:07

What's this choosing business?

21 years last April and I've never been asked to chose between her or anything?

Today she making use of a voucher I gave her for Mother's Day and is getting her Basic Handling Skills, along with our 17 year old daughter who I'm paying for as her birthday present.

Oldest son isn't interested in bikes, but I'll have me two girls on the road with me soon and looking forward to it.

**caspernz** · 5th July 2012, 19:32

This is a funny subject... When my wife met me I had a bike, went thru a period without one and then when I wanted to buy a bike again she was briefly resistant.

With a straight face I said: "Well babe, I'm buying this bike. Whether the money for it comes out of the joint account or the divorce settlement...is your choice."

She understood, and it's not been an issue beyond that point.

**joan of arc** · 5th July 2012, 19:53

Should never have to be a choice. If partner/spouse wants to ride then each enjoys the company and the riding. If they don't, then each enjoys the solitude and peace. Those who ask us to choose do not want either, they want to control

**Paul in NZ** · 6th July 2012, 07:36

The answer is - it depends....

A partnership is just that. I would sell any bike in a flash if my family was enduring some kind of hardship, I'd need to because we would all be suffering. BUT if it was just for some kind of foolishness then I'd think that we would be in all sorts of other trouble already and selling the bike would be pointless.

I sold a rare and wonderful bike to help fund Vickis engagement ring. It was without a doubt the best investment I ever made and I have never ever regretted it. Yes - we were very broke for a long time and I was muchly diminished in the type of motorcycle I had. BUT I got paid back in spades.

Remember it is supposed to be an equal partnership. For a while I pretended to like gardening and Vicki pretended to like motorcycles. Not I'm a fair to middling gardener and Vicki is a hell of a good pillion.

**tristania** · 6th July 2012, 07:44

Bike. It's outlasted all of my relationships

**Maha** · 6th July 2012, 07:52

Originally Posted by joan of arc

Should never have to be a choice. If partner/spouse wants to ride then each enjoys the company and the riding. If they don't, then each enjoys the solitude and peace. Those who ask us to choose do not want either, they want to control

''If partner/spouse wants to ride then each enjoys the company and the riding. If they don't, then each enjoys the solitude and peace''
We have the best of both worlds made possible by owning a bike each.

''Those who ask us to choose do not want either, they want to control''
If my wife was addicted to gambling and I wanted her to stop, thats not control, thats a marriage saving request.

**5150** · 6th July 2012, 08:23

A while back I sold my bike to help my wife get her NZ residency and help fund her studies. It hurt, but now that she has got a good job and is NZ Citizen she was the one who told me that I needed to buy another bike. Small sacrafice for a good outcome

**Jantar** · 6th July 2012, 08:32

My first wife gave me that ultimatum 3 months after we were married, when I was looking at a new bike. Her comment was "If you bring a bike home, I'm leaving." I kept my side of the bargain and brought home the new bike. It took her 17 years to keep her side of the bargain before we split up.

**Eddieb** · 6th July 2012, 09:54

Originally Posted by 5150

If you were given the dreaded task of choosing between your wife/husband/partner or your beloved bike, which would you choose and why?

Your wife.

You ride a Honda Hornet but your wife is hot

**5150** · 6th July 2012, 10:19

Originally Posted by Eddieb

Your wife.

You ride a Honda Hornet but your wife is hot

Would you like to borrow her? ........ I ment the Hornet

**SMOKEU** · 6th July 2012, 10:42

Bikes before bitches.

**joan of arc** · 6th July 2012, 11:07

Originally Posted by Maha

''If partner/spouse wants to ride then each enjoys the company and the riding. If they don't, then each enjoys the solitude and peace''
We have the best of both worlds made possible by owning a bike each.

''Those who ask us to choose do not want either, they want to control''
If my wife was addicted to gambling and I wanted her to stop, thats not control, thats a marriage saving request.

Oh for fucks sake, there is a big difference between asking someone to give up gambling which has the potential to ruin their life and that of all of those around them and demanding that a rider choose between their beloved bike and a partner.

**duckonin** · 6th July 2012, 11:11

Originally Posted by joan of arc

Oh for fucks sake, there is a big difference between asking someone to give up gambling which has the potential to ruin their life and that of all of those around them and demanding that a rider choose between their beloved bike and a partner.

Take that MAHA !!!

**Maha** · 6th July 2012, 11:13

Originally Posted by joan of arc

Oh for fucks sake, there is a big difference between asking someone to give up gambling which has the potential to ruin their life and that of all of those around them and demanding that a rider choose between their beloved bike and a partner.

You totally missed the analogy Einstein...and where has the word demand been mentioned?...
Replace gambling with say...Marathon running...

If my wife was addicted to Marathon Running and I wanted her to stop, thats not control, thats a marriage saving request....is that better?

or....If my wife was addicted to Bungy jumpimg and I wanted her to stop, thats not control, thats a marriage saving request.... clearer yet?