Do you have kippers in the house?

[TheDemonLord]

All 3 were out sooner than I'd liked for various reasons. My son had to leave just before he turned 17 due to his uncontrolled violent outbursts.......I still have the smashed wooden door

He came up for dinner last week and promptly lost it for 45 minutes because his girlfriend had texted her previous bf (of over a year ago) to say hi. The "losing it" included verbal abuse to everybody at full volume, punching himself ("fight club" style) in the face and head so hard he bust the skin on 1 knuckle and had his face swollen up, punching a concrete wall till all his knuckles bled, and chasing one of our dogs out of the garden cos it was frightened. Nobody but him was physically hurt, and we managed to not have the police involved. It just reminded me vividly why he doesn't live at home

Wow.

Your son needs to get some help before he ends up in Jail and someone ends up in a coffin.

[SPman]

A mate has a 38 y.o. son still living at home - complete with a recording mixing studio - he's building a new 2 storey house with one bedroom and selling the current house when it's ready!

My first wife's Aunt had 2 sons come back home to live, aged about 60, after their marriages ended......

[RJC]

I am doing it wrong, my parents came to live with me when I was 24.


it was for 4 months while their house was finished, but it ended up being 7-8 months.


I stung them board, it was gold.

[slofox]

My daughter kept coming back home until she was over 30...every time it resulted in her and her mother fighting like fuck and me tearing my hair out. But I solved it, all in one fell swoop.

I moved out myself. Never looked back.

[swarfie]

Friends of ours son and his fianc�e just moved back home "to save money"... to get married. He's 27, still hasn't got his drivers licence, hasn't worked much at all (currently part time while studying "business management"). Fianc�e works full time though...at least she's got some sense...enough to tell him to walk home from the pub when he rang up asking for a lift home
His parents offered to give them the money for the extravagant wedding they've got planned, for the deposit on a house but they declined because they want to have a knees up
Parents are letting them live at home rent free...... FAR too soft IMO.

[bluninja]

Wow.

Your son needs to get some help before he ends up in Jail and someone ends up in a coffin.

He's had help, (some of it court ordered) was thrown out of a teenage drug and alcohol addiction programme and was then locked up for a total of 13 months for what he did when drunk and high on 2 occasions during an 18 month period. He has met his victim and seen the effects of one punch (self defence but excessive force according to the judge) on someone's future, and that of their children, but it doesn't sink in and stay.

He's been advised to seek more help, and that the next episode of violent threatening behaviour I witness will involve the police.

[The Reibz]

Was out of home when I was 17. My younger brother is still there at 23, works full time making more money than me, and has 3 cars which need to be constantly shifted to allow anyone access to the property. Fair to say mum might be over it...

[oldrider]

Hahaha - some great tales there . All 3 of ours were planning to go on to varsity whilst they were at school when we were living in Tokoroa. My wife told them they could forget about studying at Waikato just up the road in case they were of a mind to drop off their dirty washing on weekends and hang around to be waited on. It was said as a joke but they went further afield anyway but it still didn't stop them from emptying the freezer when they were passing through!

After graduation, it was the inevitable OE for a few years and when they came back, there were calls for loans to buy cars. Doesn't matter whether they're at home or not, they are still attached to our wallets for quite a time . In all fairness though, they all have good jobs now and don't owe us a cent any more!

The older you get the more you realise that your kids are the only things that really matter in life!

Even our handicapped bloke still does his uttermost to be totally independant and make his own way!

As long as they trying to be the best that they can be, they can bleed me dry if they need to (unfortunately not a lot to bleed) ... can't take it with me!

[yokel]

The older you get the more you realise that your kids are the only things that really matter in life!

Even our handicapped bloke still does his uttermost to be totally independant and make his own way!

As long as they trying to be the best that they can be, they can bleed me dry if they need to (unfortunately not a lot to bleed) ... can't take it with me!

I dodged the bullet in having kids, I just couldn't do it
but thats now catching up with me dam it

[Blackbird]

The older you get the more you realise that your kids are the only things that really matter in life!

Even our handicapped bloke still does his uttermost to be totally independant and make his own way!

As long as they trying to be the best that they can be, they can bleed me dry if they need to (unfortunately not a lot to bleed) ... can't take it with me!

Absolutely John They worked part-time going through varsity and we cleared any debt at the end of it all, then told them to make their way using their brains. We loaned them money when they needed it at no interest but they had to commit to regular repayments. And you know what? Although they'll always be our kids, they're also our best friends. Worked out perfectly!

[Woodman]

My Parents sold up and moved to the North Island leaving me homeless at the tender age of 21.

[swarfie]

Although they'll always be our kids, they're also our best friends. Worked out perfectly!

Ours are also awesome, both hard working (that's in their genes I guess), conscientious and making their way in the world and we're bloody proud of them. Was told by an older friend a long time ago the best thing you can spend on your kids is time. Just me and mum at home now and that's also pretty good....well most of the time
Yep, worked out perfectly so far

[unstuck]

I left home and school at 14 got a job, and there is no fucking way I am going back to my parents house to live. My kids are welcome back whenever they need, but so far they have proved to be very resourceful and independent, and we get on better than we ever have.

[oldrider]

My Parents sold up and moved to the North Island leaving me homeless at the tender age of 21.

My parents moved to the South Island leaving me in the house for my brother to move in and take care of me when he moved in. (I was 19)

What seemed like a hundred years later he forced his way through the old baked bean tins and empty bottles to rescue me from alcoholic oblivion!

He cooked me the best feed I have ever had in my life (tripe and onions he knew I hated it but!!!!!!) nom nom nom!

Life took a turn for the better from that day on ... I had to take responsibility for myself and be accountable for the actions I took and things I did.

Later I went down South to see where the folks had gone to and whallah I met the saviour herself (blind date Xmas eve 1959) now my wife of 50yrs!

So OK Woodman if you had a better life than me by moving North it must have been bloody good because mine has been almost perfect!

[Oakie]

27 year old daughter hasn't lived with us for 7 years or so now. Lives in Queenstown and contracts to NZ Post. She does well enough to currently be holidaying in Asia for two months.

30 year old cut us adrift when she went to live in Wanganui with her partner 19 months back. As a solo parent we did support her quite a bit while in Chch and while she had her own place for the last three years here, earthquakes saw her returning home for various lengths of time. She's now studying journalism, writing for a couple of rugby websites (and even got published in 'Stuff' yesterday) and is now 'cost neutral' to us.

Proud of both of my girls.