Shit, shit and more shit

[Timber020]

Your bike is made up of about 1,000 individual parts which all must work for it to do what its supposed to.

When your bike breaks or isnt working and has let you down, its only one or two parts that have failed, and although its less than .1% of it, its only that part or parts that you focus on, not the 99.99% thats still going well. If that part fails a few times, its enough to make you want to get rid of the whole bike.

Little parts, little stuff, lots off little stuff. And thats all it is, its just hard to see past it. Instead of throwing it aside we carry it above our heads and it weighs you down where ever you go.

Keep on trucking mate, life at times might suck but it beats the hell out of all the alternatives

[Apollo]

You remind me alot of my ex-girlfriend, in more ways than one(looks and personality) I had to take another look at your profile to make sure it wasn't!

My ex was and still is going through situations similar to you
She was abusing her body
She was having a very hard time with relationships, past and present.
She was having a hard time at her house(bieng kicked out and having to stay with friends)
She's even attempted suicide
She was on the verge of bieng fired

She was getting involved in gang's( to try and get a different family I presume)
She felt like the whole world was against her( sometimes even I thought it was!) She's had a hard life since she was young( sexually abused by a member of her family) She went to councillers, they didn't help.
Then I went out with her as we had been friends for along time and i liked her. I thought I would be the hero that saves her from her miserable life, to help her. But I was wrong I ended up getting frustrated with her( and i'll admit that I hurt her( emotionally) a far few times. So you see you can't depend on everbody, sometimes not even your family even though they love you. I'm sorry to say theirs no happy ending to her story, she's still going through hardship.

She thought no one loved her and hated her looks but she was soo wrong she was beautiful and lots of people loved her. But she always looked on the negative side of life she didn't want help from people she just wanted them to pity her and that's why I think she still struggles.

So what I'm trying to say I guess ( and I'm deffinatly no expert) is that life throws shit at everyone but some...more than others...I know it may seem like it's never going to end this pain and hardship but it WILL just look on the positive side of life, we all have dark days,weeks and months but they end as does life so live it to the fullest.
Also I found something that helps and thats to channel your emotions and energy into something like a hobby or sport ( I Chose Motorbike and I love it)

I know that probably didn't help, but cheer up better things are ahead in life

[DUCATI*HARD]

every day when you wake up you have two choices .. you can look forward to the day & the lifes lessons its going to teach you .. or you can think of the past & drag that into your day

its called living postively or negatively ..

we all go through high stress periods .. I know how that feels at the mo .. but apart from giving into the stress for a week or so I still asked myself what is the lesson this is teaching me .. & I try to turn it into a positive .. no its not always easy & only those close to me will know when I am going through it ...



certainly something worth reading is "the secret: its so old its new again ..

read "The Secret" by Rhonda Byrne.

[peasea]

Perfect way to explain my life.. "shit shit and more shit"

Anyone ever gone through that stage..???

The past 2 and a half years I've had nothing but a struggle.. One thing after another... It starts to wear a bit thin...

From losing a parent (something that I have never been able to get over) to smaller things.. It just doesn't end..

Is it that bad things happen to bad people???????????

If I'm such a bad person what should I do????? How do you figure out exactly what life is trying to tell you so you can fix the wrong??????

Everytime things seem to be looking up I seem to get yet another kick in the teeth...

Everyone and everything just love getting the boot in while I'm trying to get up again...

Its getting to the point my relationships failing.. I feel like nothing but a burden on my partner.... And I know deep down that he is to good for me, and far better off without me..

Anyone else here been through that stage of their life and can offer any advice it would be appreciated...

Errrrryup.

I had my own business from 1989-98. It wasn't easy sometimes and there were days when everything would go wrong, everyone was on my case, I had to work Sundays to keep up, didn't have a Chrissy holiday for five years and was often so broke we used deposits on work to pay domestic bills. That wasn't so smart, but it kept my family fed. It all got turned around and through dogged determination and hard work I managed to sell up a viable business, no bad debts, some cash in hand and some cool holidays were paid for through it, fond memories that'll last a lifetime.

Don't ever give up. If you need a book to inspire you I've got one, it's called 'Life is so good'. In fact, the book is so good it's out on loan at the mo, but you're more than welcome to it when it comes back. After reading it, you'll never think you're having the world's worst day, ever again.

Also, property magnate Bob Jones once said "If you don't like your circumstances...change them." I didn't like my life in '01, now I love it. Nobody but me changed things.

You can change your life and make it what you want, but you're at the helm, nobody else. I have no idea who you are, where you're from or what your circumstances are but I'll say this; there are a lot of good people in this world who WILL help out if you hit the skids, I don't doubt you'll fine some on KB, but the first person who needs to help you is you.

I'm betting you're an onto-it person with some get-up-and-go and this 'down' part of your life won't last. Mine didn't, I was determined to beat the blues. Now the blues are something I play on the sound system and I can relate to them with so much more depth of understanding.

Go for it; change your space, make it positive. If you're really stuck though, re-post your predicament and some KB'ers will pick up on it.

Good luck...

...and don't forget that book, I am happy to loan it to you.

[janno]

What you focus on comes to pass, whether it's good or bad.

When things are going really wrong for me, I allow myself a five or ten minute pity party for sanity's sake, when I absolutely wallow and whine and cry - but that's it!

No more after that time limit is up. You've got to get on. If things are really insurmountable at the moment, getting on might mean you arrange to see a counsellor to help you through things.

If you are not a reader, the DVD of the Secret is fun to watch. It's nothing new really, but it's presented in an inspiring and engaging way and will make you want to take charge of your life again.

The more you feel devastated by what someone has done to you, the more they win, over and over and over . . . imagine the satisfaction they might get out of knowing they are nearly destroying you. Don't give it to them any more! And keep working, I don't see how not working is going to help anything. Perhaps you need to explore a new career if your job at the moment is not the best.

And to be blunt, as long as you have good physical health you are in control and are capable of changing your life. Don't lose sight of that.

[peasea]

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The more you feel devastated by what someone has done to you, the more they win, over and over and over . . . .[/QUOTE]

Too true.

"Non bastardus carborundum"

Don't let the bastards grind you down.

[Karma]

Pretty simple really... harden the fuck up.

If you've got an issue with some dude, either tell him to get fucked, or take yourself out of that situation.

Get your shit together in a van and fuck off somewhere else... some place where this dude won't hassle you.

Running back to mummy won't solve shit because unless you plan on living at home until 60 you'll face the same problems when you come out again.

[peasea]

[QUOTE=Karma;1132474]Pretty simple really... harden the fuck up.

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I thought the same but was a little softer with the delivery.

[justsomeguy]

Pretty simple really... harden the fuck up.

If you've got an issue with some dude, either tell him to get fucked, or take yourself out of that situation.

Get your shit together in a van and fuck off somewhere else... some place where this dude won't hassle you.

Running back to mummy won't solve shit because unless you plan on living at home until 60 you'll face the same problems when you come out again.

To summarise yes, it is that simple. However people (talking in general Kitty) have the most difficulty attempting the simplest things.

Also I hope that avatar is just a prank. Can't see you as a cop at all......You're gremlins old mate right. If I got your identity wrong then I'm sor... eh who cares.

[Karma]

To summarise yes, it is that simple. However people (talking in general Kitty) have the most difficulty attempting the simplest things.

That's why you don't bother wasting your time explaining it.

Also I hope that avatar is just a prank. Can't see you as a cop at all......You're gremlins old mate right. If I got your identity wrong then I'm sor... eh who cares.

He's my mate, and the avatar is that the cunts are in the car and they seem to be attracted to me.

[ShadeeLady]

Shit does NOT happen for a reason always some times it just happens. Every-one's character is made up 10% by the shit that you receive and 90% how you handle the shit.Oh to be 20 again and just think how much shit I could get into. No on second thoughts the world was not ready for me the first time. I used to think there was some arsehole screwing with my life but no it was me. Be happy and you will attract happy people, believe me sadness is only in your head and you can get control of your head. Laughter & tears are what life are made of. Don't worry what people think and only 50% what your best friend thinks. be true ot your-self and to be honest that is the only person that you realy have to please and don't be overly critical of your-self after all you live with your-self 24/7 and nobody likes a bossy boots. Listen to all of the advice of your fiends on KB and ignore what is not you BUT know that you have FRIENDS lots of them Love Richard

[NotaGoth]

Pretty simple really... harden the fuck up.

If you've got an issue with some dude, either tell him to get fucked, or take yourself out of that situation.

Get your shit together in a van and fuck off somewhere else... some place where this dude won't hassle you.

Running back to mummy won't solve shit because unless you plan on living at home until 60 you'll face the same problems when you come out again.

Issue being that I have taken myself out of the situation.. I did a long time ago.. Even went to the the cops for help, had a tresspass served against said person... To find out that it did not get served (found out after another bad situation)... Even though he said he would.. Major let down.. Bit hard to just harden the fuck up when it comes to that.. Not when you try getting help and get that slap in the face... Leaves you resorting to other methods of fixing the problem.. why should I be the one to leave..? Its my home and has been for 20 years of my life.. Its what this person has been telling me to do..

[Mr. Peanut]

Pretty simple really... harden the fuck up.

If you've got an issue with some dude, either tell him to get fucked, or take yourself out of that situation.

Get your shit together in a van and fuck off somewhere else... some place where this dude won't hassle you.

Running back to mummy won't solve shit because unless you plan on living at home until 60 you'll face the same problems when you come out again.

Not everyone's 7' + and built likeabrickshithouse. I know where you're coming from, but I think what you lack is an understanding of the situation.

Sometimes the mind is as real a prison as bars and concrete.

[magicfairy]

My 2 cents. Time to get professional help.
You may have been down this track already though, so my post my not be helpful. But neither is "harden the fuck up" when you are in despair.
And I don't know the details of the situation you are in.

First to help sort out the situation you are in, Womens refuge or the like ... not saying you move into the refuge but to sort out options and to get empathy from people who have been in same situation.

Secondly you sound depressed to me. I mean clinically depressed. And despite the torrent that is likely to follow my post about how "doctors are all idiots", "pills never help anyone" there are times when anti-depressants can turn your life around and change your outlook on life, and give the coping skills you need to deal with major problems.

Haven't needed them myself but have had very close family members needing that sort of help when in a very stressful situation. They don't work straight away but can take a few weeks. So if you havn't been down that path, talking to your doctor about depression, consider it.

[Mr. Peanut]

I'd second that...