Couples separating

**young1** · 5th September 2007, 22:51

Do you think if the wife has done the dirty and left her husband (for another bloke) that she should give her engagement and wedding rings back to him?

**Cibby** · 5th September 2007, 22:56

Originally Posted by young1

Do you think if the wife has done the dirty and left her husband (for another bloke) that she should give her engagement and wedding rings back to him?

no. a gift is a gift at the end of the day. The husband does not retain owner ship of the rings, it is not like he simply lent them to her.

it would be like asking her asking for all the gifts back from him over the years as well.

She is obviously a fool for cheating and running of in the first place but I dont think that the rings are related.

This ofcourse assuming they have been together for some time, if she ran off 3 weeks after the wedding then i guess maybe he could have a claim on them.

Now that you have started this, you need to tell us who ran of and details!!

**Steam** · 5th September 2007, 22:57

I dunno, who bought it? Are we talking traditional stone-age couple here where the man buys that stuff? Or a modern couple where they buy ones for each other.
Was there a pre-nup?
Did the wife leave because the pool-boy was hot (naughty), or because the husband wasn't meeting her needs? (justified).
Please, do elucidate.
What's the situation?
Gives us the goss, precious? Is it the one ring, preciousss?

**ajturbo** · 5th September 2007, 23:02

Originally Posted by young1

Do you think if the wife has done the dirty and left her husband (for another bloke) that she should give her engagement and wedding rings back to him?

na... what he should do is

phone her up and thank her for showing him just how much of a slut she is before he spent any more of his money on her...
change the locks
throw all her stuff out on lawn, then txt her to tell her that it is getting wet ( if not raining, water garden)
keep the kids
buy new bike
get new job
smile and live a stress free life again!....

**Karma** · 5th September 2007, 23:45

If she left for another bloke what are they both doing still walking around?

**Steam** · 6th September 2007, 00:12

Originally Posted by Karma

If she left for another bloke what are they both doing still walking around?

Nice. Just what New Zealand needs. More blokes attacking or killing their wives.
But of course, you were joking, eh.

**scumdog** · 6th September 2007, 00:17

She kept the engagement and wedding ring.
I got to keep my skull rings.

**Karma** · 6th September 2007, 01:26

Originally Posted by Steam

Nice. Just what New Zealand needs. More blokes attacking or killing their wives.
But of course, you were joking, eh.

If she left him, she's no longer his wife.

**Coaster** · 6th September 2007, 03:46

Depends on why you want them back! Do you plan on giving them a ceremonial burial or keeping them for the next jaunt down the aisle?

**skidMark** · 6th September 2007, 03:50

Originally Posted by Steam

I dunno, who bought it? Are we talking traditional stone-age couple here where the man buys that stuff? Or a modern couple where they buy ones for each other.
Was there a pre-nup?
Did the wife leave because the pool-boy was hot (naughty), or because the husband wasn't meeting her needs? (justified).
Please, do elucidate.
What's the situation?
Gives us the goss, precious? Is it the one ring, preciousss?

man we gotta make sure u goto bed before 10pm old man lol

**young1** · 6th September 2007, 05:01

No warning at all, not one cross word, came home from 4 nights away being parent help with school soccer team to be told that she was leaving after 22 years of marriage.

I realise a gift is a gift and the recipient keeps those gifts, no problems.

But what about an expensive eternity ring that she went and bought, with my okay?

What is she going to use the engagement ring for now?

Now if she had just said when I bought the new bike in May "happy birthday darling"!!! But she didnt

**RantyDave** · 6th September 2007, 05:42

Originally Posted by young1

No warning at all, not one cross word, came home from 4 nights away being parent help with school soccer team to be told that she was leaving after 22 years of marriage.

Bummer, man. No wonder you're posting at 5AM.

Yeah, I think she should. But then I think some discussion of why she might want to leave, or perhaps fessing up to the relationship in the first place might be more to the point.

Dave

**janno** · 6th September 2007, 06:02

Legally if the husband bought the engagement and wedding rings (ie not joint purchase), they are to be returned to him in the event of a split.

It's been awarded in court - the rings were worth about $30K and the silly tart said she had thrown them away in a huff.

She then had to front up with the readies.

Morally I'd give them back.

I left mine behind with my husband. He's welcome to them . . .

**magicfairy** · 6th September 2007, 07:12

Originally Posted by young1

No warning at all, not one cross word, came home from 4 nights away being parent help with school soccer team to be told that she was leaving after 22 years of marriage.

I really feel for you, you must be in shock right now, and really hurting.
22 Years is a long time to be with someone.
And although things must be pretty bad now there must have been good times and you have had kids together. If it were me I'd want to keep engagement and wedding rings as a rememberance of those happier times, the kids we had together, and how I spent 22 years of my life.
(The eternity ring however could be up for discussion)

She must have her reasons, ending a marriage of that length is no small thing.

Who knows - she may find that the grass is NOT greener and you guys might work it out. Early days.