Couples separating

[Sniper]

Do you think if the wife has done the dirty and left her husband (for another bloke) that she should give her engagement and wedding rings back to him?

Yes. An engagement and wedding rings are a promise to one another. She broke the promise and should give hers back. As he should do if he did it

[Goblin]

I saw this on Judge Judy once. She should give back the engagement ring but the wedding ring is hers. I'm not sure about the eternity(suffer) ring tho.
Sorry to hear of your split. Look at the bright side...you have ultimate freedom now.

[Grahameeboy]

No warning at all, not one cross word, came home from 4 nights away being parent help with school soccer team to be told that she was leaving after 22 years of marriage.

I realise a gift is a gift and the recipient keeps those gifts, no problems.

But what about an expensive eternity ring that she went and bought, with my okay?

What is she going to use the engagement ring for now?

Now if she had just said when I bought the new bike in May "happy birthday darling"!!! But she didnt

I know how you feel matey but remember she decided to leave, it was her decision, you did not make her leave...........she chose not to talk about her feelings and you should not feel dumb for not realising that something may have been wrong either.......

[Coaster]

You have children - it might be nice for one of you to keep them and pass them onto your children to use when they get married. Lots of people do that and the rings would then go on to hold happy memories for some-one else.
I have still got my engagement ring (it was my great-grandmother's) and wedding ring from my marriage and I still wear my engagement ring that Inline Four gave me - it's just on my right hand now and it reminds me of happier times whenever I look at it.

But then I am a female so maybe we are just more sentimental

[janno]

you should feel dumb for not realising that something may have been wrong either.......

Yes, well.

Maybe not your situation young1, but I spent about 8 months trying to get my husband to work on our relationship before I left, and he spent copious amounts of time and effort avoiding the situation. Then he was genuinely surprised and shocked and very pissed off that I gave up and left.

And he told mates it was without warning . . .

Some people see avoiding things as a solution. Never works.

Like I said, may well be not your case at all though.

[u4ea]

You have children - it might be nice for one of you to keep them and pass them onto your children to use when they get married. Lots of people do that and the rings would then go on to hold happy memories for some-one else.
I have still got my engagement ring (it was my great-grandmother's) and wedding ring from my marriage and I still wear my engagement ring that Inline Four gave me - it's just on my right hand now and it reminds me of happier times whenever I look at it.

But then I am a female so maybe we are just more sentimental

Altho I've never been given a ring to signify everlasting love I do wear my grandmothers wedding and eternity ring as they were left to me after her death.I beleive if there are kids involved then they should have them.
(My mother gave me the engagement ring my paternal father gave her.I hate his guts and pawned it and had the best feed of KFC ever!!!There was no love in that relationship only control and violence!)

[janno]

(My mother gave me the engagement ring my paternal father gave her.I hate his guts and pawned it and had the best feed of KFC ever!!!There was no love in that relationship only control and violence!)

Nice one! Revenge is a dish best served cold - no wait! With a side of coleslaw and potatoes and gravy . . .

[FROSTY:Me]

Dude from personal and conveyed to me experience. STUFF wise just cut ya losses and get on with life.
My sugggestion is YOU get everything you own valued by a registered valuer--bike,house,car,and 'stuff'
That includes said rings as no matter what they are still "stuff"
Do it asap because some assets will be increasing in value and others will be having payments on them .
You also need to get a value on your total joint debts as at today.
Get an official seperation order under way
sorry if i sound cynical but the only people that gain by being emotional over the "stuff" is the lawyers

[young1]

Thanks everyone for all the replies.

She left with no warning at all, our realtionship had (I thought) been excellent even to her telling me to buy the 990 in May! She has all new riding gear etc etc

But within the space of a couple of months I suppose she has found her "soul mate" and has moved out

[Grahameeboy]

Yes, well.

Maybe not your situation young1, but I spent about 8 months trying to get my husband to work on our relationship before I left, and he spent copious amounts of time and effort avoiding the situation. Then he was genuinely surprised and shocked and very pissed off that I gave up and left.

And he told mates it was without warning . . .

Some people see avoiding things as a solution. Never works.

Like I said, may well be not your case at all though.

Whoops, I meant to say 'Not' dumb..have edited.

[Grahameeboy]

Thanks everyone for all the replies.

She left with no warning at all, our realtionship had (I thought) been excellent even to her telling me to buy the 990 in May! She has all new riding gear etc etc

But within the space of a couple of months I suppose she has found her "soul mate" and has moved out

That's spooky cause I was allowed to buy my SV in April 2005 and was told the good news by ex in June................

She may have found her soul mate and you still have your soul...

[Stickchick]

I got a gold ring everytime one of my exes cheated on me including my engagement ring and my eternity ring. He asked for them back when I walked away after enough was enough but i told him that he would get them over my dead body. I have since had the 6 rings melted down and made into a ring that I can use later in life or hand to my nieces if i so wish.

[tri boy]

I'm useless at giving relationship advise Y1. Just know that YOU have many MATES, and they will assist you when/where they can. No judgement, just good ears.

[imdying]

Of course not /edit: ahh, personal tale, leave that for another day!

[roogazza]

Thanks everyone for all the replies.

She left with no warning at all, our realtionship had (I thought) been excellent even to her telling me to buy the 990 in May! She has all new riding gear etc etc

But within the space of a couple of months I suppose she has found her "soul mate" and has moved out

Bah ! enjoy your new bike and don't even attempt to understand "why" !

When it all calms down, you can get two twenties for a forty you know ? Gaz.