Relationships

[007XX]

I agree with you..........first a relationship is about friendship so it is important to know where one stands........otherwise, one ends up tip toeing around things which is not being honest.

Plus I actually think that a strong and honest friendship in a relationship helps the physical side too.

Oh most definitely! A succesful relationship (in my view) is about a lot of things held in balance...

Throw one thing out of quilter, and everything else will suffer from it!

Hence the fact so many people find it very complicated to have a stable relationship. If the balance of the two personalities don't add up, too many compromises have to be made to make it work, and it turns into a chore rather than a pleasure.

Which is why also a lot of relationships do not last much longer than the "honeymoon period" of the first 6 months. While it's all new and lovely, both sides are wanting to please, but after a while, it looses its charm and becomes hard work if it requires too much "out of character" compromises.

Call it what you will (Yin and Ynag is a favourite of mine), but people don't change, so realising very earlier on if you can or cannot live with their personalitie goes a long way into ensuring wether the relationship has any future in it.

Sorry rant over...

[Finn]

I think most people are honest with each other. But to be honest, if you are going to be 'brutely' honest your are going to piss people off. The trick is knowing when people ask a question do they want an honest answer or an answer that they want to hear. No knowing the difference can destroy a relationship just as easy as lieing.

I agree and I think that's why I'm currently single.

[nodrog:Me]

...I'm currently single.

sweet, call me on 0800 844357

[jrandom]

Ynag is a favourite of mine...

What an inspired relationship-related typo! XY absolutely must buy you this personalised plate for the VTR...

[Finn]

sweet, call me on 0800 844357

Nice one. When I heard the name of the organisation, I asked to speak with Helen Clark. These people have no sense of humour.

[007XX]

What an inspired relationship-related typo! XY absolutely must buy you this personalised plate for the VTR...

Oh my God!!! I Love It!!!!!



Shame its about $400 minimum...

[nodrog:Me]

These people have no sense of humour.

sorry mate, i must have given you the number for the moderator hotline.

[jrandom]

Shame its about $400 minimum...

$700, actually. I know, because I just spent that on a new plate for the Snail. But it was worth it.

[scumdog]

What prevents people from being honest to each other? Hmm.

I think people who lie are driven by selfishness. A lack of empathy for others, a focus on the immediate gratification of their desires, and a low self-esteem that makes them feel that they need to project a false image of themselves to be accepted.

So true - especially that last bit about self esteem.

So many of my 'clients' feel the need to (a) lie about how important/influential/TOUGH/good they are and (b) knock everybody else - especially those who directly influence their lives (WINZ, CYPS, Police, etc).

And then there's always those that are plain mean and selfish - and are too thick to realise when Kharma has bitten them but good.

And needless to say honesty to anybody from the above types is the exception rather than the rule.

Regardless of the relationship type honesty goes a long way.

(Doesn't count for "Does this make my arse look big" type questions though.)

[scumdog]

Yep that's the GOLDEN RULE. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." Language is a bit archaic but the meaning is still the same.

Skyryder

I'll vote for that - if we ALL did it the world would be a better place.

I always treat others as I would want to be treated myself.

If they don't treat me nice? I often just keep on treating them nice - kinda throws quite a lot of them and they think I'm taking the piss but can't figure out how!

[chanceyy]

most ppl are to busy lying to themselves, so they would not know the meaning of being truthful in a relationship ...

and I agree you do lose respect for ppl when you know they are lying ..& have no idea why ppl think they can get away with it either .. everything comes out in the end ...


as for me I am straight up ppl know where they stand, but I am not brutal with it .. mind you thats my own perspective .. others on here who actually know me can give a more accurate account

[idleidolidyll]

everybody lies whether by use of words or deed or by ommission; that's human nature

those who say they don't lie, are liars

[scumdog]

everybody lies whether by use of words or deed or by ommission; that's human nature

those who say they don't lie, are liars

Liar!....

[Joni]

everybody lies whether by use of words or deed or by ommission; that's human nature

those who say they don't lie, are liars

Then you have never met my partner Kickaha - that man is as honest as it comes... at times it cuts like a knife, but you always know where you stand, which I appreciate...

Sometimes I ask him a question (not a stupid does my arse look big question), and he looks me straight in the eye and says "Do you really want me to answer that", then I know this one is going to cut... my call if I say yes or no.

[chanceyy]

Then you have never met my partner Kickaha - that man is as honest as it comes... at times it cuts like a knife, but you always know where you stand, which I appreciate...

Sometimes I ask him a question (not a stupid does my arse look big question), and he looks me straight in the eye and says "Do you really want me to answer that", then I know this one is going to cut... my call if I say yes or no.

and you appreicate them more .. cause you know they are not bullshitting you ..