Just how incestuous is KB?

[Str8 Jacket]

Well me and my man met outside of KB and were mates for awhile before we became a couple. Although we were both KBers at the time and hung out with other KBers as well, we never met through any events organised through KB. BUT me and my ex met through KB.....I think I have confused myself?! Does that make it 1 or 2?

[Drew]

Well me and my man met outside of KB and were mates for awhile before we became a couple. Although we were both KBers at the time and hung out with other KBers as well we never met through any events organised through KB. I think I have confused myself?!

You're answering the wrong question, I wasn't asking if your partner is a kb mamber, rather how many of your partners were with other kbers before you came along.

The implication being that we are all with the love of our lives, and wont need to trawl the pages of here looking for another.

[007XX]

None like you Drew...and for very similar reasons. 007XY was on KB before he met me, and I knew nothing of KB. He had a beautiful 3 posts to his name til I dragged him in it!

It's an interesting question though, and not for the gossip (which I'm definitely notinterested in), but more from a sociology point of view.

Hubby have been in a group of friends (about 30 odd people roughly), who have known each other since they were kids, and are now in their mid to late thirties. Listening to them recount life's stories, it would seem that every single one of them, at one point or another, had some sort of sexual interaction with another member of that group, and sometimes, even more than one over a span of a few years...

Hubby and I have given up trying to make a complete and accurate "family tree" of this lovely bunch...

Don't get me wrong, they are all fantastic people, and we count them as friends, but as far as we're concerned: You don't shag the crew!

That's our opinion, we're not criticising anyone who does this btw...Live and let live I reckon!

[Str8 Jacket]

You're answering the wrong question, I wasn't asking if your partner is a kb mamber, rather how many of your partners were with other kbers before you came along.

The implication being that we are all with the love of our lives, and wont need to trawl the pages of here looking for another.

Ahh I seee.... my ex was with at least 1 other KBer before me.... Happy now?

[Drew]

Well me and my man met outside of KB and were mates for awhile before we became a couple. Although we were both KBers at the time and hung out with other KBers as well, we never met through any events organised through KB. BUT me and my ex met through KB.....I think I have confused myself?! Does that make it 1 or 2?

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[jrandom]

You don't shag the crew!

As asserted very sincerely by many, right up until the point that they're lonely and horny and presented with an opportunity to break the rule.



Anyway, define 'crew'.

Are you saying that one shouldn't enter into sexual relationships with people whom one already knows well? Sounds pretty back-arsewards to me.

[Drew]

Anyway, define 'crew'.

Are you saying that one shouldn't enter into sexual relationships with people whom one already knows well? Sounds pretty back-arsewards to me.

Na, that would mean hardly anybody would ever hook up in this country, since dating goes out the window and we shag a person from our circle, or a complete stranger the first time we meet them.

[jrandom]

Na, that would mean hardly anybody would ever hook up in this country, since dating goes out the window and we shag a person from our circle, or a complete stranger the first time we meet them.

That does seem to be how things often go these days, doesn't it?

Personally, I'm all about a reasonable period of dating and talking before entering into a sexual relationship. Even just a few weeks of intensive communication can teach you a lot about a person, and about whether they're someone you should go there with.

Nothing worse than shagging someone, realising you don't particularly enjoy their company, and then being in the awkward position where going no further requires blushes and mutterings along the lines of "well, we're not really breaking up, you know, because there was nothing much there in the first place..."

Ouch.

Anyway, when it comes to 'screwing the crew', I'd hypothesise that if it happens, it's because the people were attracted to each other in the first place. Why pretend that social interaction is platonic when it's patently not?

[007XX]

As asserted very sincerely by many, right up until the point that they're lonely and horny and presented with an opportunity to break the rule.



Anyway, define 'crew'.

Are you saying that one shouldn't enter into sexual relationships with people whom one already knows well? Sounds pretty back-arsewards to me.

Mmmmm...been lonely and horny before, but never found a friend attractive in that way, sorry!

And I am notsaying it is either good or bad, or passing a judgement on it...what I said was: Neil and I don't believe in having relations with people we have as friends. Simple and straight forward. I guess we always saw people in two black and white categories : friends or potencial partners.

*And what you do with your back arse is yours, and yours alone my friend!*

[Drew]

That does seem to be how things often go these days, doesn't it?

Personally, I'm all about a reasonable period of dating and talking before entering into a sexual relationship. Even just a few weeks of intensive communication can teach you a lot about a person, and about whether they're someone you should go there with.

Nothing worse than shagging someone, realising you don't particularly enjoy their company, and then being in the awkward position where going no further requires blushes and mutterings along the lines of "well, we're not really breaking up, you know, because there was nothing much there in the first place..."

Ouch.

Anyway, when it comes to 'screwing the crew', I'd hypothesise that if it happens, it's because the people were attracted to each other in the first place. Why pretend that social interaction is platonic when it's patently not?

Your method is just as flawed as the scenario I put forward. In those first three weeks or however long, both parties are caught up in the other to the point that they "lead with thier best foot," and no way can anyone form a true opinion of another when some things and opinions are being omited.

[jrandom]

I guess we always saw people in two black and white categories : friends or potencial partners.

You did.

He nodded and went along with the idea.

Yes, I know I'm dreadfully, terribly wrong, and that you know him far better than I ever will.

[jrandom]

Your method is just as flawed as the scenario I put forward. In those first three weeks or however long, both parties are caught up in the other to the point that they "lead with thier best foot," and no way can anyone form a true opinion of another when some things and opinions are being omited.

Of course.

However, I'd say that the 'honeymoon period' of presenting oneself in the best light possible can last six to twelve months. Are you suggesting that one refrain from sex with a new (potential) partner for that long?

[DMNTD:Me]

Of course.

However, I'd say that the 'honeymoon period' of presenting oneself in the best light possible can last six to twelve months. Are you suggesting that one refrain from sex with a new (potential) partner for that long?

Oh fark that! I was a cunt right from the start!

[007XX]

You did.

He nodded and went along with the idea.

Yes, I know I'm dreadfully, terribly wrong, and that you know him far better than I ever will.

I wish!!!! What is true is that I knew from the start he was the one for me...yeah, yeah I know... It took him a little longer to see that as well. And I guess I'd be wating my breath trying to convince you that he came to that conclusion all by himself, eh?

But I do agree with you wholeheartedly in regards to talking to someone for some time before getting into anymore action...Especially if you are serious about relationships on a whole.

[Drew]

Of course.

However, I'd say that the 'honeymoon period' of presenting oneself in the best light possible can last six to twelve months. Are you suggesting that one refrain from sex with a new (potential) partner for that long?

Shit no, I fully agree that people will often not be themselves for up to a year, and longer, and that is no reason to abstain.

It was just a social observation, not at all something to change someones habbits for.