Wanted: a serious relationship

[Toaster]

im sick of having relationships based entirely on sex. while its fun, something different now and then would be nice.

Yep... they are like a broken pencil.... pointless and useless.

I hope you find someone and sonething rich and meaningful and fulfilling in the new year!

Good luck!

[Toaster]

I have this thing for females and bikes (preferably together). Could that be considered a fetish??

The best kind!!.... and it usually includes leather hehehe.......

[Mully]

Sunhuntin, sorry to hear about the break-up.

To be honest, at 22, I was probably in the same place you are now. At 27 I am happily living with Miss Mully.

I'd suggest not actively looking for love (Guys over 50, with a 22 year old are only doing it for one thing, as previously mentioned). Socialise a lot, with plenty of people and you will trip over it when you least expect it.

Chin-up and good luck.

Mully

[Harry33]

Mmmm this is a hard one...I think in a way you would be better off with someone closer to your age. Hear me out... I could be wrong but I think a guy whos thirty years older than you and is single, probably wouldn't be really that interested in settling down with a girl half his age. Lets face it if your in your fifties and not married (or have been married and are no longer) your probably pretty set in your ways.

Hell the guy could have kids the same age as you. Heck when you make it to 50 he could be in his eighties. It would be like humping a large dried up rasin that shits it's self. Oh and think of the poor guys hip for Gods sake. Old people are fargile. (I'm hopeing there's no eighty year old single guys reading this)

Plus you ride a bike. I would have given my left nut for a Chick that ride a bike. I still can't get my wife interested in bikes. Feck!!

Anyway you seem pretty cool I can't imagine it would be hard for you to find a decent guy maybe a move to a slightly bigger city could be the way to go.

[YellowDog]

Hi Sunhuntin. Happy to New Year to you, and what a great way to start. Out with the old and in with the new and this time, looking for something more permanent.

It is good to have standards and if you stick to them, you will find what you want.

Good luck :-)

[chanceyy]

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Hey don't give up on a younger fella, there are some younger decent guys that are looking for something more serious than a casual bonk. I met my guy when I wasn't looking - complete fluke, just broken up from my 6 year relationship, complete waste of 6 years if you ask me! Been married nearly 8 years now, never thought I'd be a Mum and I've got two kiddies now. The good ones are out there, I'm just saying don't write off certain generations, it's nice to have someone to grow old together with, if they're significantly older the sad truth is they'll probably pass before you (& probably will need little blue pills to keep the romance going). Hope you find a good fella (no matter the age or package he comes in).

I've met a lot of younger than 50's over the years that are looking for the one, they tend to be around age 30-40 when they think about getting serious. I feel for the nice guys I meet that are looking for love, many ladies are looking for a guy to change - they're looking for the edgy bad boy (who generally breaks their heart in the end) and the keepers get left on the shelf.

Hope love finds you in 08 Biker Angel!

Sunhuntin, love seems to come when you are not looking for it, and it seems to me that pain is all you get when you are looking for love. You have plenty of years on you to find Mr Right....I was 35 before I found my wife.
Have fun while you are in your 20s. Enjoy those years, live those years as they only come once... Love will find a way to you when the cupid is good'n'ready and all loaded...

some really good advice above there sun ..

before the last guy, i was single for about 7 months... therefore, my heart was ready for love.

7 months is not alot of time in the big scheme of things ... you need the time out to heal, get rid of the baggage from your previous relationship or else you drag crap from that into your new one ... for most ppl two yrs after a serious relationship they are then ready to move on

I have found that when your actively looking for a relationship you will not find anything satisfying .. when you stop looking something turns up .. being single has its advantages & disadvantages .. I just love the freedom to go where I want when I want without having to explain myself, of course you do not have a warm body to snuggle up to at nite ...

just make sure your not writing off a whole heap of guys cause of their age ... all you can do is met & get to know guys, you never know what you may be attracted too, and along the way you will develop excellent friendships that could last a life time ..

good luck in your quest chicky - the pain does ease ..

[Grahameeboy]

some really good advice above there sun ..



7 months is not alot of time in the big scheme of things ... you need the time out to heal, get rid of the baggage from your previous relationship or else you drag crap from that into your new one ... for most ppl two yrs after a serious relationship they are then ready to move on

I have found that when your actively looking for a relationship you will not find anything satisfying .. when you stop looking something turns up .. being single has its advantages & disadvantages .. I just love the freedom to go where I want when I want without having to explain myself, of course you do not have a warm body to snuggle up to at nite ...

just make sure your not writing off a whole heap of guys cause of their age ... all you can do is met & get to know guys, you never know what you may be attracted too, and along the way you will develop excellent friendships that could last a life time ..

good luck in your quest chicky - the pain does ease ..

+++1 for that Missy C.

I agree that going out and looking is like going to the Supermarket. They always put those things that you would not normally do near the entrance to tempt us and 12 months later the stuff is still in the cupboard.....does that make sense?

You are young (you too Sandra) so no rush and I would 100% suggest you be more flexible with age..............sugar Daddy's are only sweet for a while.

[vixter]

just turn lesbian!!

[chanceyy]

You are young (you too Sandra) so no rush

thanks Grahame ... but not that young ... & definately no rush at all

[Rashika]

thanks Grahame ... but not that young ... & definately no rush at all

young enough Chancyy!

Sunny, chicky... dont push things so hard, you need to relax, and go with the flow... I know sounds stoopid, but it usually works far better than trying to force situations to happen. 7 months aint bugger all time to start over, and as you get older you'll see its just a spit in the pan...

Want something nice to cuddle up to? ...get a pet, or maybe a dog... they will listen to your woes, dont mind ya crying on their shoulders and may even get you outa the house and into seeing other likeminded people. I know a pet is a big ask (and a big committment), but they really do give a whole lot more than they get.
Find some stuff you really enjoy doing and do a whole lot more of it. Get selfish and do stuff just for you. Cos there will be a point in your life when you do have that someone, and maybe little someones, and think back to the times when you were single and hated it, rather than enjoying the space.
I was single for a long time, and sometimes hated it, but sometimes loved it too. Wouldn't trade it now tho, and I think if you treasure your single time , you will treasure your couple time when it happens... and it will, dont doubt that.

[Fatjim]

Simple facts of life, there's three types of people in the world (no, not dicks, pussys and arseholes)

1. Guys pretty much just want the sex. Even if they get serious its only so they don't have to go out trawling for it.

2. Chiks pretty much want the..... well I don't really know what they want, but sex is the price they're usually willing to pay.

3. Nymphomanics.

[Grahameeboy]

thanks Grahame ... but not that young ... & definately no rush at all

Kinda like a 'standstill' then................................

[Grahameeboy]

young enough Chancyy!

Sunny, chicky... dont push things so hard, you need to relax, and go with the flow... I know sounds stoopid, but it usually works far better than trying to force situations to happen. 7 months aint bugger all time to start over, and as you get older you'll see its just a spit in the pan...

Want something nice to cuddle up to? ...get a pet, or maybe a dog... they will listen to your woes, dont mind ya crying on their shoulders and may even get you outa the house and into seeing other likeminded people. I know a pet is a big ask (and a big committment), but they really do give a whole lot more than they get.
Find some stuff you really enjoy doing and do a whole lot more of it. Get selfish and do stuff just for you. Cos there will be a point in your life when you do have that someone, and maybe little someones, and think back to the times when you were single and hated it, rather than enjoying the space.
I was single for a long time, and sometimes hated it, but sometimes loved it too. Wouldn't trade it now tho, and I think if your treasure your single time , you will treasure your couple time when it happens... and it will, dont doubt that.

Relationships with pets.....now that is a worry......

[sprag]

so... if there are single guys over 50 here who are looking for a serious relationship thats not entirely sex based,

Ewwww people over 50 still do it ?

LOL

[sunhuntin]

well... after one hell of a long night last night [i didnt get to sleep till after 2 or 3am] ive had some more replies from people who contacted me last night. much good advice. one reply, i am likely going to visit this weekend.

i spent last night just thinking... i went to a friends place and watched a movie... got some physical contact that i was badly craving. his brain and my brain are basically identical... we were talking, and i swear that he was reading my mind. totally amazing.

i feel as though a part of me is missing now. my now ex, i didnt realise how much he meant to me. i missed him so bad when i went down south, and it was like heaven when i saw him again. i miss him badly today, and cannot see what the next few weeks will bring. i havent eaten in 3 days.
i hate the fact that he started something for what is now no reason. i truly felt there was something there, and i was ready for it.

i just want him back