Is resignation betrayal?

[007XX]

Oh dear… I feel like a traitorous shit!
Am I being a big softie again?

Hi Joni...i'm sorry, I can't be bothered to read the whole thread, so I'll just jump in here and give my 0.00003 cents worth.

Firstly, I hear you when it comes to feeling guilty...I've felt the same way every time I've had to give my resignation. It's nothing to be ashamed of, it's perfectly normal as it just means you are someone with ethics and loyalty to the hand that feeds you.

However, in this instance, you should not let this detract you from the fact that the hand that feeds is also the one that bites...your employers are behaving in a less than professional manner towards you and each other, giving you undue stress in the process... no one should have to put up with these sorts of work conditions. They have broken their contractual engagement with you the minute they started including you in their marital bickering, therefor one could justifiably argue you do not owe them anything and are quite justified in wanting to get out of the situation.

So, where you are finding yourself in what sounds like a highly emotional environment, I would personally get very business like about this problem...It is a workplace, nothing more, nothing less and so if the working conditions are below the standards you expect, then make the move to a more suitable one. Remove yourself emotionally from the situation.

I truly hope you will find something you really like.

[Finn]

PS - Thanks for keeping the thread on track... your help/approach is great as always

I do my best. Perhaps the answer to your question is in your signature.

[Joni]

Perhaps the answer to your question is in your signature.

As usual you are right babe The nail has been struck on the head once again...

Checked into this thread to see how long it actually took me to make a move. Almost 7 months... damn I’m becoming a wimp...

Handed in my resignation, feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders... can’t really remember why I rationalised working for such an abusive group of people... my leaving could not have happened sooner!

Onwards and upwards....

Have a nice day people :spudwave:

[Str8 Jacket]

Congrats chick! I handed in my notice to my shitty bosses last week. Its amazing how much all the usual shit just doesnt bother you once you've resigned. That and I can now be blunt (not to rude) to the people that caused me the most grieve and there isnt anything they can do!

Enjoy doing as little as possible for the next few weeks!

[Joni]

Congrats chick! I handed in my notice to my shitty bosses last week. Its amazing how much all the usual shit just doesnt bother you once you've resigned. That and I can now be blunt (not to rude) to the people that caused me the most grieve and there isnt anything they can do!

Good on you too babe....

What I don’t understand here in NZ, is that people feel it’s ok to treat their staff however they see fit, just as long as they feel happy about it. Happy, longstanding staff produce more quality work and in turn increases the bottom line... but they seem to think the sausage machine approach works well! Strange...

I told her yesterday, that the mark of a good manager is not what they think of their own management style, but how their staff sees it... I am now in the Dog box, not that the silent treatment is that bad... peace at f***en last.

[Lissa]

When do you leave Joni, and have you got another job to go to? Good on you for handing in your resignation, you shouldnt have to put up with crap from anyone at work, esp your boss. Some people have Powertrips and think they own you, and they dont, everyone deserves to be treated with respect. Good luck babe.

[avgas]

Haha well - I'm starting to eat my words a bit.
But i still feel guilty.
I'm starting to look 'overseas', as i think i have hit my financial limit of what people are willing to pay me here. Could go back to my old job and get a good pay increase.........but that job is crap.
Just out of interest guys - what is the average time you spend in one job?

[Trudes]

I used to work for a company whose motto was "A happy worker is a producive worker", they kept us happy, we had fun and as long as our work was done they didn't mind how much "fun" we had!! Was an awesome place to work for!! Pity more employers and corporations don't think like this!!

[Wolf]

Congrats to Joni and Str8!

Good on you both.

When I handed in my resignation from my last job I felt so free - despite having no idea of where I was going to go from there. Took a lot of delight in the fact I'd taken steps to move on while so many around me were still moaning about how crap their jobs were and they "wished they could do what I was doing."

So many bosses seem to think they're doing you a favour - giving you employment and paying you a wage. They seem to forget that you are likewise doing them a favour by getting their work done and keeping their clients happy.

It's a fucking PARTNERSHIP - something that so many bosses forget.

All the best to you both with your new endeavours.

[Joni]

When do you leave Joni, and have you got another job to go to?

Thanks babe... yes I do have another position.

I think when you are in an abusive/ suppressive place, your confidence gets chipped away a little bit at a time, and eventually you wonder if you can actually do what is needed. However I was reminded about who I am once I actively went into the market place... I had 3 positions I was looking at, and I was in the comfortable position to be able to choose what I wanted to do. Me with my slightly battered confidence was taken back that a company would create a new division to accommodate me, and give me complete freedom to run it as I see things... They recognise my skill and what I have done in the past and have the confidence in me to let me apply it to their business. It’s a huge step for me, as I have taken a few steps back and feel a little broken at the moment... but am sure I will get my mojo back once I’m into things again.

I used to work for a company whose motto was "A happy worker is a producive worker", they kept us happy, we had fun and as long as our work was done they didn't mind how much "fun" we had!! Was an awesome place to work for!! Pity more employers and corporations don't think like this!!

I agree, but also feel it’s not just about fun, it’s about feeling heard and valued as a member of their staff, that they appreciate what you do and not as if they are holding you to ransom because they pay you a salary. All companies pay salaries, but only a few manage their staff right, so they can get out of them what they need to make their business successful. If I recall correctly money is only the fourth reason why people resign or stay at a company... it’s about all the other things that are on offer... and they forget that. So they lose $’s upon $’s finding new staff... training new staff... loosing new staff... instead of valuing the ones they have and supporting them so prosper, because in return they prosper.

Anyway, end of my rant... I obviously feel very strongly about this... and will hopefully apply the valuable lessons I have learnt over the last 2 years or so...

[Big Dave]

It's a fucking PARTNERSHIP - something that so many bosses forget.

Never work for me. 'Team' I can live with.

[Big Dave]

Good luck Joni.

Remember it's just a job huh. I've had three careers now.
When you feel like changing just do it. Meet your obligations then it's ALL about you.

[FROSTY:Me]

When you are going through life working out your personal assets your best and biggest asset is YOU.
If your best asset is being chipped away at by other peoples actions then its worse than like letting someone take to ya bike with a hammer.
Getting away from that situation can only be a good thing

[sunhuntin]

well done, joni and str8!

ive chucked it in as well. gave them a months notice... give me time to look, and them to replace me. its nice... i no longer give a rats about anything beyond not fucking up a petrol sale. ive also started getting sharper with some people, specially the lazy ones. how hard is it to unscrew a petrol cap for someone in their 20s? or even push the flap open?
im there till 9pm every night cos we are apparently busy with gas bottles. guess they are invisible. lol. i asked to go home early last night cos we didnt have a single one, and got told to see what happens. pfft. i was gone at 8.30. kinda nice to see my partner awake and vertical for a change.

[Wolf]

Never work for me. 'Team' I can live with.

A believe a team is just another form of partnership (one can have more than one business partner, can they not?)

From my viewpoint, the partnership relationship I and others in our team have with the employers is: we keep things running for them so their clients are happy thus keeping food on their tables and rooves over their heads, they pay us wages/salaries to keep food on our tables and rooves over our heads.

We do need them but they also need us.

Therefore the respect should be mutual, and we should be valued by them and value them (the company) in return.