I split with the bitch

[mstriumph]

............ Yep, it's true. No matter who you married, when you split up and her family gets involved your partner will become a lying thieving scumbag supported by sichophants and losers.................

not all experiences are the same
we divided things fairly, managed to split without drawing up teams and staging pitched battles .......

that's a help when you have children together ... it's a mean thing to badmouth your ex under those circumstances - puts the offspring in a really uncomfortable position

neither of us would have wanted to damage someone we'd spent so much time and money nurturing

divorce is an exercise in being a grownup methinks

[mstriumph]

..........*edit* Shit I just read my post, I sound like some friggen hippie! .......

ahHA!!!

[Number One]

Spend enough time on KB'r and it will happen.

You may well be right there....

[1 Free Man]

Awwww and posts negative stuff in threads !!! (light goes on)


Chill ! don't let it eat ya ! As ya Name says, ya free and alone (tis what ya want aint it ?)
If not, get used to it cause with the hate ya feeling and expressing, it can bring only hate in return my man ! Quote from someone infamous *Chill and all will be well, Love thine enemy but watch him/her closely*

No need for me to chill Dude. I'm as happy as a pig in shit. The thing that fucked me off was the fucking lies she told to the kids. She tried as hard as hell to turn them against me but it wouldn't wash with them . The more she tried the bigger the lies became. Ya had to be there if you know what I mean.

[BIHB@0610]

Awwww and posts negative stuff in threads !!! (light goes on)

Na, not really - it was a p/t (obviously in too small a font!). I'm still a believer - and I'd get married again in an instant if the right guy came along

[avgas]

Good on ya mate - you are alive.
Don't feel too bad about ya ex lying - just make sure that you are the honest parent and the kids will do the math.....hell, if you don't treat them as naive they may know more than even you on the subject of 'mum'.

[sinfull]

Na, not really - it was a p/t (obviously in too small a font!). I'm still a believer - and I'd get married again in an instant if the right guy came along

Was actually referring to the post you quoted lol and yep saw the small font !I'm a believer too , i believe i'm still married to her !

No need for me to chill Dude. I'm as happy as a pig in shit. The thing that fucked me off was the fucking lies she told to the kids. She tried as hard as hell to turn them against me but it wouldn't wash with them . The more she tried the bigger the lies became. Ya had to be there if you know what I mean.

Yep i just happen to know exactly where ya coming from ! The unfortunate thing for me is the kids didn't realise it was a pack of lies as they were young and there was a lot of (don't tell dad or you might feel his wrath) Implications of that thought in young minds you can imagine !

But i move on Kids are my kids and i have no regrets ! Grand kids now and there will be no stopping me !

[ynot slow]

As kids get older they will find the truth.

Walked away and cost me $100k,house,most furnishings,hell ya can't take 1 kids bed,1 kids drawers etc.The funny thing is going out with a girl a couple of years after,finding her birthday is same as the ex's,just one born 19 yrs later,really upsets her when your at same venue for birthday tea.

Lifes for living,no kids makes it easier,but ya get sick of the mum saying your never around blah blah,she forgets when the kids have sport the guy is working sat morns etc.Then kids have jobs on sundays and during the week etc,can be really tricky at times.

Had a mate who got his settlement finalised in family court,was with him for support,he was so maligned by his ex that he basically gave her everything except his car(pride and joy)he'd had since an apprentice.Left court to be told he'd have to go through custody for kids just to see them once a month,she made accusations of child abuse in bath with kids which was low and bullshit.After the settlement hearing and having to fight for his kids he said,fuck this if I can't see the kids she won't get to,we had a few beers and this comment fucked with me,went home rang the cops(was pissed a bit)with my concerns,they said we have no record (criminal)of him at all so could be talk due to stress and such.They found him later as neighbours were concerned of noise from his shed,blew his face off in his car,nice note written to his kids,which was read abridged at funeral,they now understand why he did it and hate their mum,which is sad,even though she had a big part to play,she didn't deserve to lose her kids' total love.

[Katman]

Unfortunately, I think far too many people take marriage far too lightly. Not only the 'making it work' but also the 'jumping into it' in the first place.

[portokiwi]

not all experiences are the same
we divided things fairly, managed to split without drawing up teams and staging pitched battles .......

that's a help when you have children together ... it's a mean thing to badmouth your ex under those circumstances - puts the offspring in a really uncomfortable position

neither of us would have wanted to damage someone we'd spent so much time and money nurturing

divorce is an exercise in being a grownup methinks

Well said mstriumph

[portokiwi]

pffftttt....I can do better than that, I was having affairs with 3 men at the same time, two in Auckland (about an hours drive from here) and one who lived in the south island mind you. All this while working 25 hours a week and running a 7 day a week business with my husband and looking after three kids and a home!
Wow you sounded like a machine.

I am "Super Woman" I tell ya!

Mate hurt feelings sometimes take over from common sense, I am pleased to hear you are coming through the other side! Best of luck from here on in. Dont let this sour you though. I have re-married and am happier than I ever remember being in 22 years of being married to my ex.

That is so true, The hardest part is how the kids feel.
(well it is to me). I will marry again soon and to tell you the truth I realy cant wait.

[Colapop]

I seprated from my ex after a long time. According to her she never saw it coming. Funny, coz I'd been saying to her we had problems for ages. It got a bit shitty but she was hurting still. I see her at the kids sports but that's it. Suits me fine.

There have been ups and downs but I'm pretty happy now. I've met someone now who really floats my boat - we're even going on a cruise....

[HenryDorsetCase]

prenup is usually worth nothing if challenged by a good lawyer

like everything, that depends. I do a bit of work in this area. The legal side is easy, but you are generally dealing (at least I deal with) decent people at a particularly bad time of life.

a s21 agreement can be useful but there is a bunch of other stuff to consider....

Meh.

good luck to anyone. To quote a philosopher "She's a hard road finding the perfect woman, boy"

[HenryDorsetCase]

I seprated from my ex after a long time. According to her she never saw it coming. Funny, coz I'd been saying to her we had problems for ages. It got a bit shitty but she was hurting still. I see her at the kids sports but that's it. Suits me fine.

There have been ups and downs but I'm pretty happy now. I've met someone now who really floats my boat - we're even going on a cruise....

on the Guzzi?

[HenryDorsetCase]

divorce is an exercise in being a grownup methinks

You'd think, huh? I agree it should be.