I split with the bitch

[Colapop]

on the Guzzi?

Nooo... on a big boat! To Fiji and Tonga... We could go for a cruise on the Guzzi... if Dangerous lends it to me...

[fireball]

As kids get older they will find the truth.

that is not always true either, my parents divorced over 13 odd years ago and still can barely hold a phone conversation. not only that im still asking questions trying to work out if what i saw and experienced through their divorce was actually what happened.
from shot guns out the windows to doors being smashed in even back to when i was born the simple question of "why am i blind?" ive been lied to, no one has given me answers, ive been made to come to my own conclusions just like my brother and sister have. in the divorce and following years mum lost a son and a daughter they wont even talk to her, as for me.... they did the best they could at the time there is no book that says do this or that so i forgave them both.

divorce is not easy and sometimes parents forget about their children, but their children never forget.

[mstriumph]

............Meh.

good luck to anyone. To quote a philosopher "She's a hard road finding the perfect woman, boy"

actually i prefer "A good man is hard to find"

----- or was that "A hard man is good to find"?

[munterk6]

My missus walked out without any warning, she had planned it for a month. It all happened in one day. The hardest part was the realisation that I would never be able to see my kids(2 and 5) every day and to miss out on all the growing pangs they experience and just to be there for them as their Dad. My ex up and moved away as soon as she could sell the house,she moved 300kms away and I drove there every second weekend for three years, til she moved even further away and remarried. I then had only school hols to see the kids and that went on for years.
Thing is, I was never abusive to her, I started getting a life(playing in a band and riding bikes) and she decided she could do better than me. It was all about not having as much $$$ as she would have liked. It was '88, they were hard times and a lot of unemployment, high interest rates etc. So she found a guy with more prospects as she put it, and had more kids with him.
After 14 years with him, she ditched him for a rich land owner/farmer down in Otago and is repeating the cycle, another rung on the ladder.
I thought I had it tough til I met a man who paid child support for a child that he found out was not his at all! He had supported the woman and the boy for 6 years until he found she was sleeping round on him with one of his mates.They split & he then paid child support for the next 13 years and it was shortly after it finished she told him in a fit of rage one day "hes not even your boy you fucking wanker!"
He then ordered a DNA test to find she was telling the truth for once in her pathetic life. He said he was absolutely stunned for a week..didnt know what to do. He rang his lawyer and was told he has no legal recourse and it would be impossible to recover the many thousands of dollars in child support payments.
And guess what? Hes a happy man even after all that..(could be all the Whiskey tho!) he is an inspiration to me...that low piece of scum woman that did that to him is the loser and will surely burn, and hes the winner coz hes still happy and content and defeated the temptation to become bitter. What a guy!

[jrandom]

divorce is not easy and sometimes parents forget about their children, but their children never forget.

fireball's post, here, touched me and stood out from all the bitter bullshit in this thread.

My own greatest hope in life is that my children judge me well when they're grown.

I'll be divorced as soon as I can be arsed pottering around town and paying the $175 at the Family Court to get the paperwork stamped. (She can't afford it, and every month there seems to be something else to buy for the bike, and let's face it, priorities are priorities...)

The longer I spend away from my ex-wife, the more I realise what an odd person she is, and how badly matched we were. The superstitious astrology fans among you might nod sagely at the thought that two Aries getting married was never the smartest of ideas.

Regardless of all that, I don't pretend to have been horribly fucked over by her, and neither do I cloud reality and imply that I was honourable with her myself. In my experience, many divorced guys who witter on about 'the bitch' were never exactly nice of their own accord. What goes around comes around.

Anyway, as often happens, she made my life a misery for some years, but I broke her heart by way of reply, so I figure we're even stevens.

[scumdog]

Nooo... on a big boat! To Fiji and Tonga... We could go for a cruise on the Guzzi... if Dangerous lends it to me...

Sounds like a comment from Cola...Cola...Pop???

[scumdog]

I'll be divorced as soon as I can be arsed pottering around town and paying the $175 at the Family Court to get the paperwork stamped. (She can't afford it, and every month there seems to be something else to buy for the bike, and let's face it, priorities are priorities...)

Aaah fugup, - go to Las Vegas, pay $35 (US mind) and viola, yer married-if that's what ya want.!!!!

Ya only have ta sign up that yer not already married.

Oh, and my Tequila consumption caused me to help in this decision.

[Skyryder]

Fuckin 'ell. Has anyone, apart from me, not been divorced?

30+years married and seven prior. The dice rolled the right way for me that day.

Skyryder

[Gremlin]

Aaah fugup, - go to Las Vegas, pay $35 (US mind) and viola, yer married-if that's what ya want.!!!!

Ya only have ta sign up that yer not already married.

Oh, and my Tequila consumption caused me to help in this decision.

*whispers* errr yes, the tequila is affecting you... he wants to be DIVORCED not MARRIED

fine counselor you would make

[fire eyes]

wow! .. thats on hell of a split up ... good on you for coming out the other side & not putting her 6 feet under for the bullshit .. sometimes is not easy eh .. I can't imagine what it musta been like .. my marriage breakup was a little different .. but theres still alot of bullshit that goes down .. I agree . if its with the right person marriage is a good thing .. maybe second time around is better? LOL .. we had very little to devide anyway which now I see is a god damned blessing .. something to be said for starting again from scratch I guess .. anyway thankx for your post and good

[ynot slow]

fireball's post, here, touched me and stood out from all the bitter bullshit in this thread.

My own greatest hope in life is that my children judge me well when they're grown.

True very true,both points.My kids never saw the crap some kids see,i.e mum getting knocked out due to a pissed dad,or dad getting hit over head by a pissed off mum.My kids have their thoughts on myself and their mum of which I can't do anything about,I have never told them any bullshit about there mum,and I don't think they would take kindly too it.Afterall they have lived with her since the split,my duties were limited to weelends and couple of nights when she worked part time.Same with my folks,never saw dad hit mum and he never did,they argued now and then like all couples,just that after 25yrs ya think they are for life,but afterwards they let things slip from both sides dad doesn't know things I know,mum doesn't know things I know either,some minor some major but it explains things,held a grudge against mum for a while(maybe a week or so).

[NighthawkNZ:Me]

Pre nuptual. Hell, I'm not married but I've got a pre-pre nuptual incase we split up. Much cheaper sorting it out sooner rather than later.

I don't own anything so don't really care if we split she can have the lot... including the bills...

lucky we both think... "blah to much like hard work to split up... "

[scracha]

I don't own anything so don't really care if we split she can have the lot... including the bills...

lucky we both think... "blah to much like hard work to split up... "

Kinda in the same boat. About 9/10ths of the house was bought with her peso's.

[Katman]

30+years married and seven prior. The dice rolled the right way for me that day.

Skyryder

It's refreshing to know that there's others out there who have made the right choice. My wife and I have been married almost 10 years and had been together (with a couple of breaks in between) for about 13 years before that. Katwoman was a sweet 16 when I met her and I was 21. It really is possible to find a soulmate even in this bitterly cynical world that we live in.

[Colapop]

Sounds like a comment from Cola...Cola...Pop???

He's gooonnne.....