Sex - or no sex?

[Number One]

What if this were a different world and #1 was a virgin and veeeeeery naive (a stretch I know - but give it a go ) and you DIDN'T know before you married - how would you react?

Wouldn't happen..I would always try before I buy

I would expect that prior to making a lifetime commitment to him the subject of children/sex/beliefs/interests would have been discussed, and some common ground established and agreements made. Unlikely I would agree to a sexless marriage, therefore if I did not know I was marrying a bloke that had no interest in sex, he lied to me by ommission I would be very angry and the relationship would be over in a flash.

I concur little Momma.

Skinny partnerships are so much more satisfying

You calling me and hubby fat hmmm?! I like a bit of meat on my men...and I hate those inner thigh bruises that skinny boys can give ya

[Swoop]

Common knowledge that sex doesn't occur after the wedding ceremony.

Something in the wedding cake is thought to cause this...

[SixPackBack]

You calling me and hubby fat hmmm?! I like a bit of meat on my men...and I hate those inner thigh bruises that skinny boys can give ya

I dunno are you??......just talking from personal experience #1....being fit and slim lifts the libido and stamina

[Number One]

I dunno are you??......just talking from personal experience #1....being fit and slim lifts the libido and stamina

I would call myself well rounded definitely not skinny...I'm Bulgarian and I have big sensible bones

...no probs with libido or stamina here ...infact you've given me an idea...maybe I need to put some weight on to calm myself...the libido seems to have gone through the roof since I hit dirty 30 ...that or maybe I could just get myself a less attractive husband Nah bugger that!

by the way I agree with you! Thankfully neither of us is what I would term tubby to the point of it effecting our sexlife...no mission impossible here...don't know if you've seen that cartoon but I always think of it when the old waistband gets a bit tight

[Pussy]

I would call myself well rounded definitely not skinny...I'm Bulgarian and I have big sensible bones

...no probs with libido or stamina here ...infact you've given me an idea...maybe I need to put some weight on to calm myself...the libido seems to have gone through the roof since I hit dirty 30 ...that or maybe I could just get myself a less attractive husband Nah bugger that!

by the way I agree with you! Thankfully neither of us is what I would term tubby to the point of it effecting our sexlife...no mission impossible here...don't know if you've seen that cartoon but I always think of it when the old waistband gets a bit tight

Sounds like you need bromide in your tea, Number One! For me, I'm like a dog chasing a car, even if I caught one, I wouldn't know what to do with it

[Her_C4]

Common knowledge that sex doesn't occur after the wedding ceremony..............................

Ring too tight??

[duckonin]

My ring isn't tight, my wife say;s my problem with sex is (always wanting) that big I should go and see ACC about a claim
Yep could not live in a relationship without it(sex) really end of story, we were given various parts of our bodies to have fun with and fun I shall have, hopefully till it wears out or I die..

[fire eyes]

...the libido seems to have gone through the roof since I hit dirty 30

I totally agree with that Number One!

As for the weight thing .. I think if your completely happy with your weight it will show through your confidence in the bedroom .. if not .. then thats the beauty about choices.

[Goblin]

What if this were a different world and #1 was a virgin and veeeeeery naive (a stretch I know - but give it a go ) and you DIDN'T know before you married - how would you react?

So how would you handle it Her_B4?

[Her_C4]

So how would you handle it Her_B4?

Dunno - the question was intended to be thought provoking and it certainly did that for me after I watched the programme and started thinking 'what if'. It gets complicated when you start thinking about all the scenarios that might have prefaced it.

My initial rection is that if it happened in the manner I outlined, then it would be a deception and I don't take deception well under any circumstances. A healthy sex life is surely at the core of every good relationship and if I had had the (pre-marriage) conversation as Mom suggests and the matter was not raised then I would probably not stick around.

BUT - if the guy was honest about it (and the character on Shorty street was) and I REALLY loved the guy (you said yourself there are other ways to obtain satisfaction other than penetration) then there is a (slim) chance that I might be happy to stay and look for other ways to fulfil the sexual intimacy component of the relationship.

With some of the answers, another question is raised - Does sex = love (well we know that one is not true) or does love = sex???

[fire eyes]

Dunno - the question was intended to be thought provoking and it certainly did that for me after I watched the programme and started thinking 'what if'. It gets complicated when you start thinking about all the scenarios that might have prefaced it.

My initial rection is that if it happened in the manner I outlined, then it would be a deception and I don't take deception well under any circumstances. A healthy sex life is surely at the core of every good relationship and if I had had the (pre-marriage) conversation as Mom suggests and the matter was not raised then I would probably not stick around.

BUT - if the guy was honest about it (and the character on Shorty street was) and I REALLY loved the guy (you said yourself there are other ways to obtain satisfaction other than penetration) then there is a (slim) chance that I might be happy to stay and look for other ways to fulfil the sexual intimacy component of the relationship.

With some of the answers, another question is raised - Does sex = love (well we know that one is not true) or does love = sex???

Absolutely not! I don't believe for a second sex = love. I think sex is an extention or progression of intimacy .. random sex is ok for some people but is just dead sex (I guess we have all done that) .. I think sex in a loving committed relationship is far more fulfilling and why expend energy on many with restricted reciprocation when a whole world can be opened up with someone special.

[Swoop]

Ring too tight??

Perhaps it is the same type of ring that gets used when docking lamb's tails???

[doc]

Im a male, and have sort of scanned thru 3 pages of womens weekly type stuff with no pictures. So has Her B4 just got married and something is not happening.

[Her_C4]

Im a male, and have sort of scanned thru 3 pages of womens weekly type stuff with no pictures. So has Her B4 just got married and something is not happening.

Interesting that the guys have trivialised the question with their responses

So if you just got married and found out that you and your new wife were never going to have sex again - what would be your response? Would you stay or would you go??

[doc]

Interesting that the guys have trivialised the question with their responses

So if you just got married and found out that you and your new wife were never going to have sex again - what would be your response? Would you stay or would you go??

Once heard a saying "A stray dog is looking for something it didn't get at home" Send a pic before you come up this way aye.