Sex - or no sex?

[awayatc]

No sex BEFORE marriage....?
Thought there wasn't any AFTER......

[Bikernereid]

No sex BEFORE marriage....?
Thought there wasn't any AFTER......

HELP, no sex before marriage and no sex after marriage???

Oh brilliant actually- no sex=zero population growth.

[alanzs]

That's why I have the above as my sig.

And a great sig it is...

[alanzs]

Interesting topic.

I guess it depends on who you meet in life. From what I hear, sex complicates everything.

I'm a strong believer in what happens, happens.
Everything happens for a reason. There is no right or wrong answer here, all down to personal preference. Ex-boyfriends have tried to pressure me in to having sex, but I do what I wanna do and so, I haven't. It'll happen eventually (I hope )

This is the Dad in me speaking: Knowing what you want is something that many men may find very attractive. And, unfortunately, some may not, but its your life and you have to be true to your self.
My daughter has been pressured by boyfriends and I have told her the same thing. She waited till she felt right about having sex and she has said she is very glad that she did. Sex should be fun, not something you have to feel pressured about, and if communication is open and honest, as opposed to complicating things, it will create even greater intimacy. Things get more complicated when people aren't open and honest, IMHO. Hang in there....

[jrandom]

I'm a strong believer in what happens, happens.
Everything happens for a reason. There is no right or wrong answer here, all down to personal preference. Ex-boyfriends have tried to pressure me in to having sex, but I do what I wanna do and so, I haven't. It'll happen eventually (I hope )

I do hope that my daughter grows up with your level of moral courage and self-awareness.



Quite frankly, I can't blame teenage girls for not wanting to have sex. Most teenage boys are fuckin' horrid.

I'd advise you to do yourself a favour and date older men instead, but then your mum would hunt me down and cut off my nuts, so I won't.

[HenryDorsetCase]

My daughter has been pressured by boyfriends and I have told her the same thing. She waited till she felt right about having sex and she has said she is very glad that she did. Sex should be fun, not something you have to feel pressured about, and if communication is open and honest, as opposed to complicating things, it will create even greater intimacy. Things get more complicated when people aren't open and honest, IMHO. Hang in there....

It couldnt have hurt when you had the conversation with her boyfriends:

"Remember chump, I own a shotgun and a shovel: you won't be missed"

[alanzs]

It couldnt have hurt when you had the conversation with her boyfriends:

"Remember chump, I own a shotgun and a shovel: you won't be missed"

There was always a rule that the guy HAD to come in side and meet me. The meeting meant, and my daughter was aware, that he had to look me in the eye and shake my hand. If he couldn't do that, he wouldn't last long. My daughter used to hate when I told her that was the rule of dating, but very quickly she used it to weed out any turds that wanted to be involved with her.
I told one guy who was a bit of a smart ass that my daughter was the most precious thing in my life and I'd have no compulsion killing anyone who harmed her, in any way. I said it totally straight faced and then turned and walked out of the room. Later she told me he apparently got so freaked out, she said he didn't want to leave the house. After that everything was "Hello Sir, thank you Sir." We both laughed about that one.
Gotta take care of the ones we love!

[BIHB@0610]

Oh brilliant actually- no sex=zero population growth.

Same result with up the bum - no babies .......

[Mom]

Gotta take care of the ones we love!

We sure do! My eldest daughter, maybe 15 at the time had this boyfriend who used to leave these huge hickeys on her neck (that is the teenager sex without having sex thing I think) anyway... I told them both I thought it looked trashy and revolting and to at least put them somewhere where they could not be seen! In the end I used to take this lad out to the kitchen, open the pantry and get out the bread and peanut butter and offer him a sandwich if he was that hungry...LOL

Honest and open with your kids is the secret, respect follows no problem. Building their self esteem is the key here, if they respect themselves and have your support they will be fine

Same result with up the bum - no babies .......

You seen those friggen religious zealots in the States? They take these no sex/celibicy pacts and even have a bit of a ceremony complete with a ring to say they wont have sex before marriage. These kids have anal sex at the drop of a hat, because in theory the hymen is intact therefore a technical virgin can go to the alter......Sickos!

I prefer the open, honest approach myself.

[alanzs]

Bill Clinton said it incredibly well. Anything other than vaginal penetration isn't sex!

[alanzs]

We sure do! My eldest daughter, maybe 15 at the time had this boyfriend who used to leave these huge hickeys on her neck (that is the teenager sex without having sex thing I think) anyway... I told them both I thought it looked trashy and revolting and to at least put them somewhere where they could not be seen! In the end I used to take this lad out to the kitchen, open the pantry and get out the bread and peanut butter and offer him a sandwich if he was that hungry...LOL

Honest and open with your kids is the secret, respect follows no problem. Building their self esteem is the key here, if they respect themselves and have your support they will be fine



You seen those friggen religious zealots in the States? They take these no sex/celibicy pacts and even have a bit of a ceremony complete with a ring to say they wont have sex before marriage. These kids have anal sex at the drop of a hat, because in theory the hymen is intact therefore a technical virgin can go to the alter......Sickos!

I prefer the open, honest approach myself.

Amen sister! You're absolutely right! What flips me out is kids get pregnant and think nothing of it. They forget that if you can get pregnant, you can get AIDS along with a whole alphabet soup of sexually transmitted diseases. Unwanted kids are enough to deal with, but other stuff kills!

Honest and open is the only way to go. Anything else is just a life waster.

[Owl]

its a funny thing sex......i have mates that wouldent shag a lady for a few weeks after knowing them.have to get to know them 1st..bla bla
iam a bit different ......

Funny you should mention that. I was a bit that way inclined and preferred to form an emotional bond before doing the wild thing. Though from my experience, the jump right in the sack relationships have all worked out better for me. I think deep down I never really wanted that "good girl" and actually prefer a chick that's been around the block a few times. They know what they want and have no trouble asking for it! Works out for everyone!

[alanzs]

Funny you should mention that. I was a bit that way inclined and preferred to form an emotional bond before doing the wild thing. Though from my experience, the jump right in the sack relationships have all worked out better for me. I think deep down I never really wanted that "good girl" and actually prefer a chick that's been around the block a few times. They know what they want and have no trouble asking for it! Works out for everyone!

I'm not trying to be the romantic and my wife doesn't read this, but I've been married for 15 years and it gets better all the time. No holes(?) barred, full on sex is the only way to go. It's even better when you love her. Love lets that inner "slut" come screaming out, again and again and again! Its all part of that open and honest thing.

Unfortunately, some people, due to cultural upbringing, etc., spend so much time and energy saying "NO" that "YES" doesn't happen easily (if at all) and they are stuck in "NO" mode and therefore are unfulfilled, literally.

[Number One]

I'm not trying to be the romantic and my wife doesn't read this, but I've been married for 15 years and it gets better all the time. No holes(?) barred, full on sex is the only way to go. It's even better when you love her. Love lets that inner "slut" come screaming out, again and again and again! Its all part of that open and honest thing.

OOOO I concur Inner slut never even existed before Sully

[Pedrostt500]

I consider my sex life like a roman road, Old and Straight,



and Last Laid by the Romans.