Why men cheat.

[Trudes]

There was a similar thread about adultery a while back, but this is about why men specifically, cheat.
So I was watching Oprah the other day (yeah, ok, I had half an hour to kill so watched the first half of it, anyway) and she was talking to this guy who's done some research on men and why they cheat on their wives. The top reasons were because they felt under-appreciated, lonely and like they 'aren't winning' etc. Anyway, I thought it was quite interesting and thought I'd share it with the bitches social group, but then thought, hmmm, wonder what other KBers think about it. I can completely understand and have been making more of an effort to make my husband's sandwiches and tell him he's a winner. So have a read, there are several pages. I thought it was quite interesting to find out that the majority of men who cheat don't do it just because they are horn bags!

[Sully60]

It's because he's just not that into you.

[jrandom]

I thought it was quite interesting to find out that the majority of men who cheat don't do it just because they are horn bags!

Mmmyes. It's interesting how many women labour under that misconception.

[Finn]

Men cheat because they are here for one reason. Procreation. Women cheat because they're sluts.

Can't be more simple than this.

[Trudes]

Mmmyes. It's interesting how many women labour under that misconception.

Did you read the article?
Anybody?

[jrandom]

Did you read the article?
Anybody?

Yes, I read the article.

Here's a counterpoint, of sorts, from my favourite sex advice columnist's column today. Enjoy!

Isn't human nature wonderful?

[MSTRS:Me]

...I can completely understand and have been making more of an effort to make my husband's sandwiches ...

The perfect wife! After all, you wouldn't want him to waste energy on making sandwiches, when he has all that extra-marital nooky to take care of...

[imdying]

Men cheat because they are here for one reason. Procreation. Women cheat because they're sluts.

Can't be more simple than this.

It would be hard to improve on this theory

[Trudes]

Yes, I read the article.

Here's a counterpoint, of sorts, from my favourite sex advice columnist's column today. Enjoy!

Isn't human nature wonderful?

Was it the first article I was meant to read or the second one?
Anyway, I agree with the reply. Was there a point? That you shouldn't expect someone to change AFTER you marry them? I agree, you shouldn't, but that isn't what the initial article was about, it was about WHY men cheat, and how people in a commited relationship can identify the triggers and possibly counter them. Apparantly why women cheat is a whole different book..... but he hasn't written it yet!

[jrandom]

Anyway, I agree with the reply. Was there a point? That you shouldn't expect someone to change AFTER you marry them?

You mean like men shouldn't expect their wives to stop being interested in sex after they marry them?

[Trudes]

You mean like men shouldn't expect their wives to stop being interested in sex after they marry them?

Nice generalisation there I have to say.

[Sully60]

Was it the first article I was meant to read or the second one?

It was the second one Trudes:


"jrandom was pleasantly surprised to find out the CB-6000 wasn't the knocked down Honda parts bin special"

[MisterD]

Men marry women hoping they'll never change.
Women marry men, hoping to change them.

[Trudes]

It was the second one Trudes:


"jrandom was pleasantly surpised to find out the CB-6000 wasn't the knocked down Honda parts bin special"

I did have to wonder!!!

[jrandom]

Nice generalisation there I have to say.

Oooh, touched a nerve, eh?



That wasn't a generalisation; just an allusion to the possibility. I know of more than one case in which it's happened.

"jrandom was pleasently surpised to find out the CB-6000 wasn't the knocked down Honda parts bin special"

Male orgasm denial is a fucked up kink, in my humble opinion. Keep the pipes clean, that's my motto!