One, two free, floor!
Much has been said that kinda addresses your question, but I'd suggest that if there's something a person feels uncomfortable about, raise it as an issue to talk about.Originally Posted by placidfemme
What appears to be cheating may have a good reason behind it, or may be symptomatic of a bigger problem that actually needs resolving. Cheating is a sign AND and problem. The trick is to address the real problem... and somehow survive any indescretions...
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Weapons of Mass Acceleration
to add to that.... if God can forgive us scumbags then we can forgive anyone for anything done to us. Never said it would be easy though.
Cheating is pretty much anything I think your partner/wife/husband would feel jealous about if they saw you do it/say it... probably anything initmate in touch, word or actions.
...I need a brew....
e mare libertas
Cheating, IMHO, is a symptom. When people start looking outside their 'official' relationship for romantic fulfillment, it's because something's going wrong between them.
But let's be frank and cut the bullshit, eh? 'Cheating' is having sex with someone else.
Now, having experienced a fair bit of that myself (from both directions) I can confirm that the best part of any such situation is laying open one's private life to strangers on the internet. I've always found that immensely cathartic. Online communities are so validating.
Hey, if it happens to you, at least you'll never have to worry about how it's going to affect the kids...
kiwibiker is full of love, an disrespect.
- mikey
The instructions are simple...
All the reasons/excuses come down to this. Only total honesty and trust from both parties can fix it. Is the effort worth it? Only the (original) couple can decide that.
Do you realise how many holes there could be if people would just take the time to take the dirt out of them?
Hardcore Biker
But not confined to that... cheating can occur big time without sex, like all the responses posted here before...
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"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing." Edmund Burke
e mare libertas
Oh, gimme a break.
I'm not saying there isn't any non-sexual contact with third parties that's inappropriate when one's in a committed relationship, but come on.
Sex is what defines a committed relationship. It's the line in the sand.
kiwibiker is full of love, an disrespect.
- mikey
Hardcore Biker
Not for everyone... For alot of people, that "line" is not at sex, but much sooner, prolonged holding hands, kissing etc... Sharing intimate details about yourself... There's alot more going on than just sex, fish...
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"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing." Edmund Burke
One, two free, floor!
It is a defining act yes, but as the sole definition of committment? I'd suggest you broaden things to intimacy rather than purely sex.
Or are we saying the same thing?
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Agreed dude..... and nice panda by the way (that's you Bend-it).
e mare libertas
Nup.
They're just reasons for breaking up before anyone's actually cheated.
kiwibiker is full of love, an disrespect.
- mikey
Scotsman on a German
And here was me going to go on about:
Holding a set of aces in your cuff.
Lead weights in dice.
Paying a boxer to lie down in Round 4.
In space, no one can smell your fart.
e mare libertas
I have a fairly broad definition of sex.
If someone gets off, it's sex.
If someone wants to get off, it's foreplay.
Kissing's pretty borderline, depending on how blue your balls get and how much bumping and grinding goes on.
And nobody but weird-arse religious types hold hands before they've shagged.
kiwibiker is full of love, an disrespect.
- mikey
Forum whore
where does premature ejaculation come in to this?
Forum whore
As long as all debts are serviced before any decisions are made... Relationship or practical issues.
They shall not grow old as we that are left grow old.
Age shall not weary them nor the years condemn.
At the going down of the sun and in the evening,
we will remember them
e mare libertas
Depends where it's pointing.
kiwibiker is full of love, an disrespect.
- mikey
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