Wasp is sad

[Darkman]

antidepressants may be just the trick

or maybe just a bottle of bourbon a day!! no seriously..stay away from antidepressants..

my 2c

[Lorax]

Yeah mate. Feel for ya. Cool you're putting it out there. Help is always at hand. It's when you feel like there's no one that cares that it's hard eh. But looks like there are a lot of good people on here that responded positively to your post.

A great strategy for a friend of mine is to write a diary daily on how they're feeling. She's ben really down for 15 years now, says the diary has enabled her to get it into the book and out of her head. Also reading it back to herself made her realise that she was often saying some stuff that she didn't mean.

I suffer from daily headaches, all the time, blah blah blah. Sometimes it's hard to get up too. Hope you're helped by all these posts (apart from the negative, "harden up" ones... really emotionally intelligent.)

[pixc]

Change your routine. Do soemthing different at least once a week. Go to the gym. Exercise is great for perking you up. Go to the doctor, there could be a medical reason. Depression can be a slippery slidy hole that can be hard to get out of. Take the help that people offer you. And dont forget to smile sunshine.

[car]

Change your routine. Do soemthing different at least once a week. Go to the gym. Exercise is great for perking you up.

What she said. Apart from the doctor bit; IMHO doctors are as variable as every other kind of technician: you could end up with some quack who'll just shunt you onto meds first chance he gets. Meds might work (I wouldn't know) but I've seen mates shifted onto pills that didn't help when all they needed was some sound advice.

But, back to the original point, there's nothing like a good dose of natural endorphins to pull you out of a slump and give you something to focus on.

Speaking of which, I should get my fat ass up Mt Iron tomorrow.

[pixc]

Agreed. Doctors can be variable. I had a great family doctor until I moved to the next town. I went in 3 years ago complaing about back pain. Two years it took me to find a doctor that listened to me. Before then I chopped and changed doctors each one telling me something different. Depression, insomniac etc. Finally got one that listened to me...and its too late...the damage was done. I have a back thats like a 75 year old. Having a good doctor can make all the difference.

[judecatmad]

Sorry to hear you're sad m8 - tell you what, when I get back to NZ, let me spend a day telling you ALL of the stories Dave and I have had to listen to from my dad over the last month. If that doesn't push you over the edge, it'll definitely make you realise that life could be so much worse (ie. you could have to sit through my dad's stories day in, day out...LOL).



Chin up matey - life's a bugger sometimes. You think that there's no point to it, you feel like smacking your head against the wall just to relieve the boredom...and then all of a sudden, you turn a corner and it's all good again. What's with that?!!

Hope life picks up for you soon.....

(PS. What they all said too - if depression is a concern, rather than just 'the blues' [which is a totally different beastie], do definitely get it sorted before it gets too hard to pick yourself up from the floor. Medication isn't everyone's solution - sometimes talking is all it takes. Everyone's different. And don't get too hung up on being single - trust me, a bit of time on your own to reflect and work out what it is you really want and where it is you really want to go can be the best thing. Even tho it is tough going! And when you're old and married, you can look back on that time whistfully and wonder why you ever wished those days away... Oh, and get yourself back on 2 wheels just as soon as!!!)

[elle-f]

read the thread - these people are right and......you are 18 - don't put this much pressure on yourself. you are too young - if you pressure yourself too much now - what have you got to look forward to?!

have a wonderful day and smile

[iwilde]

Change your routine. Do soemthing different at least once a week. Go to the gym. Exercise is great for perking you up. Go to the doctor, there could be a medical reason. Depression can be a slippery slidy hole that can be hard to get out of. Take the help that people offer you. And dont forget to smile sunshine.

Good advice. If you make yourself look good, you will also feel good which women pick up on. Plus the gym always has a few hotties on the cycles in tight shorts. Parking your self behind one of those will give you a bit of perk up! IMO, stay away from drugs of any type of booze.

[Dafe]

Mate, Do you like playing games?

If so, I guess you quite like abit of a challenge.....

Well, Life is the ultimate game!!!

The best part is that you can influence the outcomes however you choose.

All you need is perserverence and patience.

Start focusing on the game.

I was in your position when I was 20. I found setting a 10 year ultimate goal really worked for me. Vision where you want to be 10 years from now. Everything you do has that goal in the back of your mind. If you want it - You'll get it.

It's amazing how you can turn your life around in 10 years and still enjoy yourself on the way.

Is your bike fixed yet? or what will it take?

[sels1]

Buy a new bike - that will cheer you up no end!
And if you turned up at the duckpond with your gear on a Wed nite you may find a ride available most weeks

[crazybigal]

dude do what i do, just watch the world vision adds on tv and other poor homeless people, it will make you think how lucky you are! makes you feel 100% better

[Trudes]

Dafe's right Doug, a plan and goals to strive for is a very good idea, gives you something to do and look forward to, don't forget to reward yourself for accomplishing small goals too (Can you tell I'm a social worker in training). But seriously, if you need someone to talk to, you've got my phone number, I can't fix your problems, that's your job, but I will listen if that's what you need. You know, it could just be the 'back to work blues', I know I get those after a holiday!
Anyway dude, s from me.

[Colapop]

I thought your bike was ready to go?

Feeling down is all about perception. Change your vantage point, step out of your comfort zone. You choose your path.

[Mrs Busa Pete]

I havn't ridden a bike or pillioned on a bike since (Uncle) Bruce's funeral

Its been almost 3 months now since I crashed my bike

I still havn't been able to give my personal farewell to (Uncle) Bruce, (loose) Bruce and Daryl

Its been well over a year since I've been out with a girl

Before I crashed my bike my life was working and bikes with a bit of time with old non biker mates from school, now its just work

At the work xmas do, my second ever, it was also my second year with no partner

My two week holiday in Turangi/Taupo was nice, got really depressed on new years eve when i started thinking too much about my life

now that i've got home I find myself looking around my room at all the meaningless crap I posess

and i've got work tommorow while the rest of the people in the building are off till next week save one

who cares? nobody thats who


- Doug

Mate look for the positive in what is going on at the moment not having a girlfriend don't rush it when you meet the wright girl you will be a long time married enjoy being single: having to go back to work when no one else in your building is only puts you 1 week closer to your new bike : Now i will tell you about my year 1 operation to have tumor removed of adrenil glade b9 2 weeks latter bike accident not bad but broke shoulder blade :4 months of antibiotics for some viral infection probley due to the operation on glade : six months latter another operation for a cyst to be removed not so lucky this time but they do say the got it all. And what has got me thru all that is that there is some out there that has had it harder than me I have also had a lot of support from the folks that i have meet on this site. Life is good take it by 2 hands and take control of it.

We all care so don't ever think that no one cares chin up mate and if you are ever up in Auckland and need a bed there are spare ones here.

[Indiana_Jones]

I'm kinda in the dumps myself, mainly career wise, but I'm sure things will work out.

Edit: Note my Sig lol

-Indy