The law and men's rights

[kevfromcoro]

Slackass selling his assets !

I'm keeping it tight and fresh for my new business venture.

just seen your new bussines adventure...count me out..lol.still dont understand your last post completely

[jrandom]

If they kill ya, I'll pass thanks

No worries, handsome. Breakfast is an optional extra.

[jafar]

No worries, handsome. Breakfast is an optional extra.

so much for the poached egg's then

[SPman]

My poached eggs are to die for.

On marmite toast with paprika?

B O T - my ex and I were fighting furiously at split up time when it came time to divide up all the property....."you have it..no, you have it,...I don't fucking want it....you have it... No!......."
The one kid at home had a choice as to who he wanted to stay with....and if I need a bed for the night (single) when I'm in Palmy, I stay at her place.
So - never had any problems
However - if anyone in Auckland is going through this drama, there is a weekly informal mens group, which I can thoroughly recommend - more horror stories than you can shake a stick at, but lots of shared information and practical and emotional backup

http://www.mensline.org.nz/resource.html
Men in Change


Tuesdays, On-going
7:30pm - 10:00pm
Joe Barker / Paul Heinz
Total Cost: Donation
Support and growth group for men who want to approach life positively, with hope, relate more effectively with people and discuss issues relevant to men. New members welcome.

For more information contact Raeburn House ph: (09) 441 8989.

[Winston001]

I am presently contemplating Divorce and the thing I cant come to terms with is that I will be taking everything that matters away from my husband. The whole 50/50 thing is not an issue, we were married in our early 20's and had been together for 21 years before I found he was having an affair and he moved out. Everything we own, we have both worked really hard for, together. We are really good friends, we still spend a lot of time together and we work together in a business we have both built from scratch, we both really care about each other and believe that we have unfinished business. So why do it you might ask. I have spent the last 3 years waiting and wishing for things to change and I am wasting my life away being sad and alone, thats why.

My problem is I will be taking away his home (the one place that he can come home to where there are people who love him, where he is always welcomed, cared for and where he can relax).

I will be taking his family from him. They are all teenagers but they have always been with me, they have seen first hand the upset and pain that I have been through and they are fiercly protective of me. If I go my own way, they will come with me and he will lose them.

He will also be losing the best friend and greatest ally he has ever had. The one person who would support him no matter what. So as you can see, not all women are concerned with money, some of us have greater concerns than that.

If anyone has any ideas on how to divorce the man you love, feel free to PM me. This is one of the hardest things I have ever had to deal with and I have no idea where to start. This is not a thread hijack and I wont discuss this online but would welcome any support or advice.

This has to be one of the most perceptive posts on this painful subject. Many decent people separate or become unhappy, without all of the aggro. It still hurts incredibly badly.

The best advice I can suggest is a book "After the Affair" http://www.amazon.com/After-Affair-H...3343874&sr=8-1 Good sensible stuff and should be at your local library.

[KATWYN]

My brother in law owned a house, then he met a chick, fell in love, she moved in bla bla, they decide to rent the first house out, and build a big new one, then they split.
They sell the new house and split the proceeds, and she takes half the value of the house HE ALREADY OWNED as well.
A couple of years go by, he moves to another city, and buys a house there, whilst retaining the very first house as a rental.
He and the chick recocile, and get married, and buy stuff togeather, including a few rentals here and there, then divorce this time for good, she takes everything, plus half of the value of the propertys INCLUDING HALF OF THE VALUE OF THE VERY FIRST HOUSE THAT SHE HAD ALREADY GOT HALF OF IN THE FIRST SPLIT, how fuct is that....

Sounds like she makes a career out of that sort of thing.

[avgas]

Yep its all bullshit mate.
Best thing is these days you don't even have to get married. If she can claim she has known u for 2 years....your fucked, your kids are fucked and if she's a slut your so-called mates are fucked.
Sorry if i rub on someones sunshine with this topic - but its close to home.

[007XX]

My poached eggs are to die for.

May I ask very innocently if you are or have ever been married?

[007XX]

Sorry if i rub on someones sunshine with this topic - but its close to home.

You're not ...just stating a fact. It is pretty close to home to a lot of people by the looks of it, and that's pretty sad.
It is a gender independant problem which only demonstrate that no matter how long you've been with someone, it's uncertain whether you actually know them at all...and that just plain sucks!

[kevfromcoro]

You're not ...just stating a fact. It is pretty close to home to a lot of people by the looks of it, and that's pretty sad.
It is a gender independant problem which only demonstrate that no matter how long you've been with someone, it's uncertain whether you actually know them at all...and that just plain sucks!

ONYA MATE.....just been out on the bike..fu..kin freezing..... never mind..having a big glass of V.. ...SHOULD PUT ME RIGHT... .HAHA..

[jrandom]

May I ask very innocently if you are or have ever been married?

I was, for seven years. Two kids resulted.

I don't think I will be again, though. As Samuel Johnson said, second marriages are a triumph of hope over experience...

[scumdog]

I was, for seven years. Two kids resulted.

I don't think I will be again, though. As Samuel Johnson said, second marriages are a triumph of hope over experience...

Sort of like getting onto another motorbike after having written-off the last one eh???
Who the hell would ever do THAT!!

[Al]

My brother in law owned a house, then he met a chick, fell in love, she moved in bla bla, they decide to rent the first house out, and build a big new one, then they split.
They sell the new house and split the proceeds, and she takes half the value of the house HE ALREADY OWNED as well.
A couple of years go by, he moves to another city, and buys a house there, whilst retaining the very first house as a rental.
He and the chick recocile, and get married, and buy stuff togeather, including a few rentals here and there, then divorce this time for good, she takes everything, plus half of the value of the propertys INCLUDING HALF OF THE VALUE OF THE VERY FIRST HOUSE THAT SHE HAD ALREADY GOT HALF OF IN THE FIRST SPLIT, how fuct is that....
I pleased that when I split with my ex, we had nothing, we were that poor, i just packed up my ute and my bikes and walked away, she did likewise, It took years to sort the bills though

Poor sod didn't learn the first time around....

Maybe he got punished for his stupidity?

Al

[kevfromcoro]

Sort of like getting onto another motorbike after having written-off the last one eh???
Who the hell would ever do THAT!!

FUCK I MUST BE A DUMB ARSE... this is the 4th time i ve come off a bike....lets pick up the peices and start again......ho hum

[jrandom]

Sort of like getting onto another motorbike after having written-off the last one eh???

If motorcycles were prone to randomly spitting you off while you were tooling along in a straight line babying the throttle, then yes, it'd be just like that.