Ahhhh, anti-biking mother

**smoky** · 22nd June 2009, 19:41

Originally Posted by Winston001

As for this place, lot of fun, lot of laughs, in many ways its the best internet board in NZ. Stay around.

Not much to do down in Invercargill then?

**jtzzr** · 22nd June 2009, 19:49

Originally Posted by FJRider

Nah ... I've been riding for 35 years, haven't died once ...

Are you sure? No your`e right , it was someone else I was talking to.

**breakaway** · 22nd June 2009, 19:59

Originally Posted by jtzzr

It`s alot easier to ask for forgiveness ,than it is to ask for permission.

True that. My parents had major issues until I actually got the bike, then the next day everything was good as gold. Just takes time for them to get used to it.

And to all the nay sayers, fuck giving up the thrills of living for the security existence.

**Mom** · 22nd June 2009, 21:11

You might gather from my logon name I am a Mother. I have 3 kids ranging in age from 22 to 17. I may even be a recent expert on the teenaged youff of today.

I guess I am not your average Mommy, I ride a bike and have done since I was 16 years old. I have a very healthy respect for my life, and an almost as well developed sense of how important I am to the ones around me that would be devastated should something happen to me on my bike. I am a mitigator of risk as far as both those things go.

My son rides, I guess there was very little hope for him really, both his parents ride and have done all his life. He started off on a scooter to buzz around town on. While that was ok here in a small town, the city is no place for a scooter

He rang me a while ago and said he was going to get a bigger bike and I said good on you! Go for it etc. We had a bit of a chat about what he was going to get. Then he had the hide to tell me I was an unnatural Mother! Most Mothers would be dead set against the idea apparently.

I am not an unnatural Mother. My son knows how I feel about ATGATT (he may or may not

about it) he from time to time tells me I am an old fart and should "lighten up"

but he knows the score about riding.

Dont lie to your Mother, dont defy her wishes. She loves you and there is nothing you can do to stop her loving you to the stage you simply have to get out of the house and live for yourself. You are not so young as you cant fly the coup and make your own way in the world. Respect her desire to keep you safe, you are her little boy afterall.

You will be amazed at how wonderful your relationship with your Mommy will be once you are out there doing it!

**sondela** · 22nd June 2009, 21:14

my mother said I was forbidden to go on the back of a bike, so I didn't, I learned to ride instead..

**mathornet** · 22nd June 2009, 22:02

what you can do as a 19 year old is dat u give them positive points about a bike.. e.g. "mum do u know that bikes save petrol? you spend about $100 on a car for a full tank and i only spend about $20 only..." if mum replies.. "what if it rains?" u just said "i'll just wear a jacket.."

mum says"BIKES ARE DANGEROUS ! THEY CAN KILL YOU!" you say
"bikes are dangerous mum.. but any1 can die.. its fate... even i could die right now if i'm walking in the streets and a drunk guy just hits me with his car mum"

so overall everything is dangerous (even a car) but every1 will try to make the danger minimal.. so my point is getting a bike or car same thing.. but for your age i would get a bike.. cuz you don't wanna spend to much on petrol..
guess what? i'm 16 working in MCdonalds.. haha.. so my time now is to save up for uni since i already got a bike..

**allycatz** · 25th June 2009, 15:30

Hey your Mums concerns are only natural. Be grateful she cares enough to worry. After my 17 year old daughter died, I ranted and raved something awful about other kids getting their car licences. Eventually I learnt I couldn't wrap them all in cotton wool. Just do it the right way, take any safety courses offered and let her know you are being responsible about it. Funny thing is, now I'm learning to ride they(kids) all rant and rave at me instead

**Mom** · 25th June 2009, 18:51

Originally Posted by jtzzr

Are you sure? No your`e right , it was someone else I was talking to.

I am fairly certain vifferman has died about 10 times since I have been a member here.

**NOWOOL** · 26th June 2009, 14:58

I wouldn't discount a mother's view of biking......not everyone should ride a bike......if they are wanting in safety in other factors of life then the shouldn't ride a bike. Otherwise the laws of nature will weed them out.

**greminn** · 26th June 2009, 18:54

Dude! Grow some and move out!

Yea.. i know that that can be harder in certain situations and you may be in one.. but get out there!

**ynot slow** · 26th June 2009, 21:37

Haha similar to me when I was 17 or so,said I wouldn't mind a bike,we lived semi-rural area and neighbours all had ts185,dt175 etc and we used to pootle up the road and paddocks.

Dad said yep as long as it is less than 100cc,I said cool it's 80cc,a ts80 1975,this was in 1978 or so.Then waited till I bought a 1973 ts185 in 1979,passed all tests for license and all good.

**kudos@xtra.co.nz** · 2nd July 2009, 12:46

you cannot win this one. You will fall off and she will be proved right. My son bought his first bike with my blessing (I ride of course) and he fell off and damaged his hand. He still rides and loves every minute. Has his mother forgiven him or me for getting a bike. No. Will she ever approve. No. Does she care if I fall off. No.

Your mother loves you and cares about you. That's nice.
Best you can do is grow up become an independent adult and make your own decisions. Buy the best gear you can, always wear it, get rider training, knock your socks off on the track and not on the road and even then your mother will not approve. That's what mothers do.