I'm in a situation. Serious advice from wise people needed.

[Blackshear]

Chin is up. Just another fine example of useless hope in the face of adversity :-)

Mind over matter, mate.
Selective ignorance, even.

[ynot slow]

Maybe the part you say 10 yrs together and I'm 28yr,means jack shit.Hell how many of us have changed in the last 10 years,I have.10 years go my marital settlement had been finalised,had dated a girl who turned 19 the day my ex turned 38,lasted 2 months.

My marriage ended the day of a family members' birthday party,we told the parents(both sets at piss up),did I get pissed NO,I worked behind the bar,had a beer and a bourbon.When the party was over I told my best mate,he said fuck.I'll see ya tomorrow arvo for Sunday session.We had a few(work Monday)beers,great bbq,and the offer of a place to crash.

Next week they went overseas,I house sat for them,being alone meant sorting my mind,best therapy out,14 days to do my thing,and mope a bit.
Enjoy being who you are,you can't change that,get a couple of good close mates and enjoy a beer or two.And if in a crappy mind state don't grab the bike and go for a blast,only go for a ride if calm.

You might have to see her to finalise any details,but at least you say you're still friends,don't underestimate that statement.Friends means no lawyers to sort out property and stuff.

[Hans]

Maybe the part you say 10 yrs together and I'm 28yr,means jack shit.Hell how many of us have changed in the last 10 years,I have.10 years go my marital settlement had been finalised,had dated a girl who turned 19 the day my ex turned 38,lasted 2 months.

My marriage ended the day of a family members' birthday party,we told the parents(both sets at piss up),did I get pissed NO,I worked behind the bar,had a beer and a bourbon.When the party was over I told my best mate,he said fuck.I'll see ya tomorrow arvo for Sunday session.We had a few(work Monday)beers,great bbq,and the offer of a place to crash.

Next week they went overseas,I house sat for them,being alone meant sorting my mind,best therapy out,14 days to do my thing,and mope a bit.
Enjoy being who you are,you can't change that,get a couple of good close mates and enjoy a beer or two.And if in a crappy mind state don't grab the bike and go for a blast,only go for a ride if calm.

You might have to see her to finalise any details,but at least you say you're still friends,don't underestimate that statement.Friends means no lawyers to sort out property and stuff.

No probs with sorting out property and stuff. All very civilised. Took all of about 5 minutes. Whatever else she might be, she's fair.

[mashman]

Just stay sharp and don't do anything silly, like bed every sheila in town.

I don't agree with that bit... I met my now wife of 8 years 2 months after my break up... wasn't expecting it, but hey!!! Although thinking on........ damn you Blackshear!

Don't close your eyes to the possibility.

[RantyDave]

The problem is I remember what I was by myself... I sure hope I've changed since then

Mate, you were eighteen. We all want to go back in time and kick our eighteen year old arses precisely because we've changed.

I've not read all the thread but I agree with the general jist: take time, party your arse off, stay single. I'd say no less than six months.

Dave

[Blackshear]

I don't agree with that bit... I met my now wife of 8 years 2 months after my break up... wasn't expecting it, but hey!!! Although thinking on........ damn you Blackshear!

Don't close your eyes to the possibility.

No offense intended, congratulations to you both!

[SARGE]

Very. Very tidy by Czech standards. That answer it? Upshot is we can now both dream

not for me man .. i have enough problems ..

[Pedrostt500]

Sounds like you need to take your bike out for a long ride this weekend, or some time soon, try to do it as a solo mission, the more Ks you can clock up the better, use the time under the helmet to figure out what ever you got to figure out.

[SARGE]

Your not alone Sarge ! Marrage should be a 7 yr contract which you can walk away from !
Some make it through the 7 yr itch and last till 14 and they may or may not make it through that one !
Others try to keep it alive till perhaps 10 or 11 yrs and then realise it aint what they want, so move on and wish they had quit it at 7 yrs
others get out while the goings good at 6.5 !!!!!

My moto is love to love ya babe, catch ya l8tr !

meh .. all mine bed my mates and take my shit


but im not bitter


hans .. ya got off cheap .. go buy a bike while youre single

[Hans]

Ah-ha. Bike's in bits in the garage. As per usual. Just as well...rider is in no mental state to ride.

[Winston001]

All good advice here Hans. I'll simply add that counselling is worth it. You might only go to three sessions but talking to someone neutral works.

The sense I get from your opening post is that you are better equipped to deal with this than many people. Not that its easy and I'm sure you are putting up a brave front but you have the strength to reflect on things and move forward.

[mossy1200]

After 6years then splitting up I put all my energy into the gym.I had never been before.Just go do something you never got around to doing and fill time with something new and interesting.Ending a long relationship is a bit like your first day at school.Bit daunting and you may feel like wetting your pants but you will get used to it fairly soon.

[gatch]

Just stay sharp and don't do anything silly, like bed every sheila in town.

No ?

That's exactly what I'd do..

The world is your magic handbag mate, pull from it what you want..

[SARGE]

You might only go to three sessions but talking to someone neutral works.

screw counseling .. soft science..


go to the bar/ pub/ RSA/ Whatever.. find some lonely young lady and buy her a drink..after ya cry on her shoulder you may get to boff her and ya dont get that at 'the Men's Health huggy place"

[Blackshear]

No ?

That's exactly what I'd do..

The world is your magic handbag mate, pull from it what you want..

Tongue in cheek, bro, tongue in cheek