Should kids have to pay rent or board when living with parents?

[scumdog]

I showed this thread to my stroppy 17 year old, and she quite promptly replied, well .... $50 is all I am going to pay, because that is what Travis had to pay, so you can't ask me to pay any more!

However, that was 3 years ago, and things have gone up since then. She's had 5 months of paying nothing, if she doesn't like - she can leave. The door is wide open

Yep, just ask her where else she is going to live for $50 (or in her mind, less than $50) and stand back..

[crazyhorse]

young guy i worked with for a while... he was in 6th form last year. by about september, he was working 3 jobs as well as school during the day. his first job started about 3am and finished at 8. his next job started after school. and he worked saturdays all day. he eventually quit the saturday job so he could have a break. not long after, he moved out of home to flat. he has also quit school as moving out meant he had to pay the fees, which he couldnt afford to do. he is planning on doing a free carpentry course next year, which will give him a stack load of quals. he did level one i think last year and passed easily.

personally, i think all people living with their parents should pay board so long as they are working. im lucky... i pay $60 a week, but im going to up that while my parents are away. i also have access to dads bank number, so i can sneakily transfer money to his account whenever i want to.

You sound like a very reasonable young lady and I am sure whether your parents want the extra money or not, they will be proud of your stance.

[Squiggles]

No board for me while at Uni, this year i'm not so i'm moving out!

[crazyhorse]

Yep, just ask her where else she is going to live for $50 (or in her mind, less than $50) and stand back..

Problem is, she needs to get off her arse and get a job, then she can start to pay...... had a message from New World last night, so its a starting point

[scumdog]

Problem is, she needs to get off her arse and get a job, then she can start to pay...... had a message from New World last night, so its a starting point

Suggest the board starts NOW - so the sooner she gets a job and starts paying the smaller the amount of board money she is going to owe.

[Mully]

Interesting that 4 people agree with Dean - they shouldn't have to pay anything at all. Would any of those four care to advance a reason? Not so you can be bagged, I'm just trying to understand your point of view.

And one had no opinion, but just wanted to vote.

[Mully]

Can I say something? You're not coming accross to well here boy-o.

Even Skiddy, who I simply can not stand, manages to stand on his own two feet in difficult times of earning and doesn't expect his parents to house/cloth/feed him. Get a fucken clue you bludger.

"Spoiled selfish little brat" are the words you're searching for, Trashy......

That's true about Skiddy - he's really always flatted since I've been on here (we don't know the history with his parents, of course.)

[crazyhorse]

Suggest the board starts NOW - so the sooner she gets a job and starts paying the smaller the amount of board money she is going to owe.

and that money would come from ..........................where????

When she did have her part time job at the fish n chip shop, she managed to spend every cent. I pay for nothing, but food on the table, clothes on her back and a roof over her head. I give her not one cent...... she wants money, get a job - always been my motto with both kids, and I can leave money lying around the house, and NEVER would any of it ever go missing. I give my kids full credit on their trust and honesty

[kit]

Shit yes! of course they should pay! If they want to leave shool and become an adult then they have to be responsible and start paying their own way.

[PrincessBandit]

I'm sure it's been said by heaps of other people here, you do your children no favours whatsoever by allowing them to think that life will be "just like at home" (assuming that "just like at home" means that their food is all provided, their washing is all done, their power and internet usage is all covered by mum and dad, etc etc) once they move out. No matter how hard it is for parents who want to give their children the best start by not making them pay anything towards their living expenses while at home it is much better than leaving them with the delusion that their current disposable income will remain just that once they are in a flat. Most have no idea how their money will not go very far at all - and that's just for the basics of rent, power, food let alone having anything left for going out or socialising.

[James Deuce]

If I was Dean's dad I'd be charging 1 million dollars an hour until Dean got the hint.

[Tank]

This has been going on in PD as well.

But I thought there was a really interesting post from skid oops I mean yb16 / Dean:

The comment was made by someone that should their kid throw their toys out of the cot and waaaaaaahhh (tm) and resuse to pay rent then they could be kicked out.

Now most 17yos would learn to survive by themselves - you know by getting a job and paying rent.

But - Skid / YB16 / Dean actually looks at this as a death sentence:

Homeless? Why? Living with no food and water, possibly dieing or already dead how could you justify that for anyone? I would never put a teen (If I had one) out on the street because it wont pay board. Thats just cruel and Ive been taught better than that.

Makes you wonder just how disfunctional the youth of today where the only two options seem to be 'gimme everything for nothing because I deserve it' or 'death'.

[Mully]

Makes you wonder just how disfunctional the youth of today where the only two options seem to be 'gimme everything for nothing because I deserve it' or 'death'.

I love his logic. It gives me many LOLs.

"Cake or death?"
"Umm, cake please"
"Very well. Give him cake. You. Cake or death"
"Umm, cake too please"
"We're out of cake"
"So my choice is 'or death'?"

(sorry, just reminded me of that and I can't link to Youtube from work.)

[yungatart]

But - Skid / YB16 / Dean actually looks at this as a death sentence:



Makes you wonder just how disfunctional the youth of today where the only two options seem to be 'gimme everything for nothing because I deserve it' or 'death'.

Thank goodness MOST teenagers (that I know) are not like this...there is hope for the world yet.....

[huff3r]

This has been going on in PD as well.

But I thought there was a really interesting post from skid oops I mean yb16 / Dean:

The comment was made by someone that should their kid throw their toys out of the cot and waaaaaaahhh (tm) and resuse to pay rent then they could be kicked out.

Now most 17yos would learn to survive by themselves - you know by getting a job and paying rent.

But - Skid / YB16 / Dean actually looks at this as a death sentence:



Makes you wonder just how disfunctional the youth of today where the only two options seem to be 'gimme everything for nothing because I deserve it' or 'death'.

Wait, is he talking about teenagers? Cos it sounds like he's talking about some sort of pet! Thats all i could think of that would "die" if it were kicked out of home! And even then it'd probably scrounge a living till it was caught by the SPCA or whatever
I'm a youth of today, and although my parents wouldnt kick me out, if they did I'd survive. In fact the level of freedom you have the minute you step out the door would almost be worth the extra cost of living! But i've signed up for the airforce instead so as soon as they say "yes we want you" i'm out anyway